The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Posters, Lurkers, Old Or New, Come Take A Seat, This Bus Is For YOU!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.

We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.

Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.

No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.

What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)

Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)

This Bus has been whizzing along various roads now for almost four years thanks to the very desperate cry for help from THIS THREAD BY JWN

And if you'd like to read some of the other threads, maybe how we got to where we are today, then you can follow them back using the links RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon :)

eyes opal fruit supplies

Purple !!

Don't make me come over there and get you!

The opal fruits are under lock and key. Rations will be checked.

Dons cap, dons...

The pressure of this position of responsibility is getting to me!

Continues eating way through family bag of peanut M &Ms and plans opal fruit heist

Peanut M& Ms are banned because of Health and Safety!

Tidy up those wrappers before someone slips on them!

Morning babes, another alcohol free night under the belt. How is everyone this morning?

Morning. All well here except for the fact I ate an entire BIG bag (not just the big 'normal' bag but the big BIG bag) of maltesers last night. It was a frenzied attack and not even sweetie could have stopped me but at least I didn't drink.

Hex - glad you are feeling more positive. I totally identify with the whole 'drink cos happy, drink cos sad, drink cos it's a Tuesday, drink cos it's sunny, drink cos it's raining...' mind-set. I'm having to make a real effort to replace those drinks with other treats or activities. It's really hard but when it works the sense of self-satisfaction is excellent. :)

Morning babes, I too have found every excuse possible to have wine. We have a gorgeous real coal fire and when its blazing in the winter and I'm snuggled up infront of it it seems almost criminal not to have a glass (bottle) of wine!!!
Equally on a hot summers night, a crisp Pinot, yes Pinot WAS a must. If the tv was good then wine was a treat to enhance watching your favourite programmes and equally
If the tv is rubbish then wine enhanced watching the rubbish programmes!!!' You all see the pattern, anyway I have abandoned these ways and now eat large packets
Of minstrels for any reason whatsoever and
No reason at all, I have turned into giant minstrel with arms and legs albeit with swishy hair x x x

Hi all :)
Well made it to day six!
had another moment yesterday round six pm (my weak time) but kept busy and carried on.
Can think clearly, keep making new plans! am organised and on top for NOW.
Aiming to do two weeks. Havent managed that since pregnancy.....
Am also guzzling the chocs and sweets (looks like I fit in well on this bus)
Have great days babes xx

Well done jango, you sound great x x x

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Sorry to have not read back and caught up properly, crap Mouse

Hello to the brave Flo and well done for posting! :) x

Nemo has had a horrid vom bug, his tummy must have been tearing him up as he was writhing around our bed in agony, sobbing and begging for me to 'make it stop Mamam Bear'

I couldn't give him anything for the pain, he couldn't even keep water down for 36 hours, he had no temp, upset tum, just vomiting like me last week. Poor mite. He seems to get every bloody germ going and I have to say that I hate not being able to take that away from him.

Anyway, he has gone back to school today, walked in, cool as a cucumber, everyone cheered 'Nemo's back!!' as he went to find his pals sat reading. It was so heart warming to see, to hear. It was amazing. He has little people who really care about him :)

I hope everyone is okay. Sorry to see that there were a few slips.... I've read a few bits.

I've text Purps and things aren't great, she's not gone into detail but she's around. Sending you love Purple you darling lady. I want to send you hugs galore, here, catch them through the ether

I think of Thurso often too, and venus - hope you lovely ladies are okay, and YOU JWN.

IsinDe - how are you? Guggs, Clutter, Koala, EVERYONE?

Dame - it's arriving tomorrow :) I shall let you know how I find it. I've been so bad of late, soaking wet pillows, sheets, I'm fed up of the menopause already and I've got a way to got yet.....

Well tomorrow is OUR BIG DAY! The sponsored hobble. Weather is so so, I'm hoping that it stays dry. DH is coming with me and hopefully, will be able to help should I need it. Which I will!!

Bye for now, keep posting lovely Babes xxx

Hi Everyone :), does anyone know any support groups, decent self help books or programmes to help with a binge drinking problem? Im not alcoholic as i dont drink everyday but i cant go more than three days without getting hammered, crying on everyone, passing out in the loo, throwing up etc etc. Its really affecting my and my daughters quality of life and is probably not doing the old liver any good. Much appreciate any advice. Thanks xx

Welcome roxy the best support I have found is This Bus! Honestly, the support and advice on here is amazing.

You can also ask your GP, or try SMART or AA... I'm sure there are also books that others have found helpful, someone may come and suggest some titles shortly.

You don't have to drink every day to be alcoholic Roxy. If your drinking is a problem, that's all you need to focus on. We have lots of strategies that would help you if you'd like to stick around.

Alan Carr does a stop drinking book/cd which others have said is helpful. Do you know what your triggers are, what makes you start to drink? Is it just when you are out socialising or at home, or what?

Welcome to the bus.

Lonnika what happened, did you go on a bender? How are you now, feeling ok? Come back and let us know you're alright won't you x

Hello everyone :) thanks for replying ! I guess i know i have a problem but it seems lots of my friends hve the same drinking habits i do so i (stupidly)i just assumed we couldnt all have a problem. I think its circumstances though as most of them dont have kids, but my daughter is missing out on things because of my drinking. Triggers are definitly socialising as im unconfident/boring/find it hard to be myself without alcohol. Having said that will drink by myself if i havent had a drink for a few days out of habit. Get bored and want to mix life up a bit so i drink. I have really bad anxiety and depression so that probably triggers/is caused by the drinking.Thanks for the advice reguarding the cd and book, will check tht out.

roxy welcome and well done on having the courage to post. I couldn't help but smile when you said you sometimes drink at home to "mix life up a bit" that's the best description of my own drinking habits that I've heard. Yes I will say it aloud, being a mum is the best experience of my life but the joyous, overwhelmed by love moments aside it can be just plain boring!!! A glass of wine "breaks up the night" but a glass became a bottle then maybe open a second chasing the warm feeling but by then that feeling is gone, replaced with nausea, shame and self loathing. I
Have currently stopped for a few weeks and let
Me tell you, there are many many boring moments but I'm finding ways to fill those and the depression (not helped by drinking) is starting to ease, yours will too. There are amazing babes here and you will find this thread and a great way to help fill those moments, we have all been where you are, myself too many times so please keep posting and tell us more about yourself x x x

Thanks baby jane! This is definitley the right place to find support, lots of people seem to be in a similar mindset about the alcohol, Im sure it can be consumed 'responsibly' ive just never managed to find a way to do it! i think the biggest problem is not being able to stop. I have to keep going until im a complete wreck! My friends will go home but ill just keep on and on by myself, dangerous when out! So much i cant remeber about evenings out, complete blanks where anything could have happened. This particular desire for sobriety was triggered by last nights 'one or two' pints that turned into shots, pole dancing cringe, alot of crying, falling asleep in the toilet floor, being refused taxis, waking my oh at 4 in the morning and (apparently) having to be walked up the stairs and put to bed. Funny how on a hangover sobreity seems so desirable but give it a very days and ill be itching to mix it up again. Think i need a hobby! do you have something particular you do with the free time now youve stopped drinking? Would love to know how you fill the time

One of the great things about sobriety is all of the free time you gain.

One of the downsides is all the free time you gain.

At first it can be difficult and that's why we just take it one day at a time. Or one hour or even minute at a time. Do something that you enjoy if you can. If you're not buying wine you can afford a babysitter and could go out for a run or a swim or an evening class.

Time to rediscover yourself Roxy, find the real you that just got lost in the fog of alcohol for a bit.

Room on the bus for a little one?

Been on MN for 6/7 years now and have lurked on some of your threads so know I've had a dodgy relationship with alcohol for years now.

I could give a backstory of growing up where drinking was very normal, spilt ups and three day benders (that I no longer do) after falling in the wrong crowd but I'll save it for another time.

Where I'm at now is the guilt and the fear after every time I drink, paranoid about my health. I know I drink because I'm bored and lonely and it gets the night in after a hard day with the dc. I'm ashamed that I drink when I have two kids in the house, one under one and I'm their sole carer and should be sober for them. In fact even writing that down I feel disgusted with myself and want to cry.

I don't drink every night of the week. Sometimes leave it a few days in between or just the weekends but it's just that when most people leave it at a couple of glasses I can easily guzzle a bottle and a half

I suppose because being pregnant wasn't that long ago I remember how healthy in body and mind I felt without drinking and want to get back to that.

Hi Faire. Thanks for thinking of me xxx. No drinking here xx. Still good - found this week hard but just started period and feel better :).
Well done Jango - you are dojng great and welcome Roxy. I have discovered a good distraction technique for me - I have started to do jigsaw puzzles (don't laugh) it really helps me.

KEep going ladies svelte bodies, swishy hair and gorgeous skin will be oursxxxxxxxxxxx

Just checking in to say hi to all and especially to purple and our other coloured people - green and silver.
mouse so glad nemo is feeling better

LOL Faire just read post frm other day and get your question now - I meant over the years I have abused my body soooo much xxxx.