The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Posters, Lurkers, Old Or New, Come Take A Seat, This Bus Is For YOU!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.

We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.

Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.

No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.

What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)

Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)

This Bus has been whizzing along various roads now for almost four years thanks to the very desperate cry for help from THIS THREAD BY JWN

And if you'd like to read some of the other threads, maybe how we got to where we are today, then you can follow them back using the links RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon :)

oh yes Happy Hobbling mouse !

Hi babes:)
Day four!
M

Hi babes:))
Day four here!
Most testing so far >sigh>
But she s not gonna win no chance!
Speak later xx

Morning brilliant babes, well done inside instead of crisps, thinly sliced courgettes a few blasts of spray oil, salt and pepper and bung them in a hot oven til nice and crispy, very tasty and sin free. faire good luck with your little army of swimmers... mouse your a brave little lady, an
Inspiration. I'm very happy to tentatively report I believe my love affair with wine may be over, the downside is the realisation that years of wine drinking had numbed my hopes and dreams and my self loathing and drpression has made me abandon any of my own aspirations. Soooooo this summer I will focus on getting fit, losing weight, enjoying having fun with my daughters. Put it this way my belly almost needs its own postcode so the time has to stop letting the wine witch make me a victim, once I have taut, strong legs I'm gonna track her making her way to any one if you and kick her sorry ass........ X x x

sorry I nearly spat my tea all over the keyboard at "faire good luck with your little army of swimmers"

Does nobody else see a double entendre there? No, just me then

getting anxious about tomorrows appointment with GP

taking lots of Kalms

sweetie you have a filthy mind xxx

Hey ya'll! Still hanging in there.

Sometimes feel the "pull" of the wine witch on a sunny day, but as long as I'm at home I'm okay, I have a glass of the stuff without.

Had to have a lime and soda at a do recently but husband wanted to drink because it was "his" do so it was easy enough!

Hope you are all well.

jango day 4 you are pretty much coming to the end of any physical stuff, so its all in the mind so to speak (though that is of course half the problem). But do hang in there!

More later x
Tatty

Something in the air tonight - this has been my hardest day yet so off to bed now. I'm taking a cup of tea and some lemon drizzle cake with me - purely so I've got something to lob at the wine witch if she comes calling again.

babyj - loving your idea of cucumber crisps . My favourite crisps that aren't crisps are kale crisps but you have to use so much oil to get the kale crispy that you're probably better off with a bag of golden wonder.

sweetie - good luck tomorrow, try not to stress too much (easy to say I know). And I did notice and am holding you too it!

Night all.

to it.

Def something in the air - found tonight trying - thought it was because I was hormonal :/.

edin it's courgette crisps babe, don't want you putting cucumber in the oven, just been to slimming world and feeling very positive, .tatty your soooo right, it's much more of a habit than any of us realise, I think about it less and less every day and a lady remarked tonight that I lost weight off of my face and she even said my skin looked heaps better ( she thinks it's down to the diet but we know why) kept swishing my hair about but she never said a word about my swishy hair x x x

Thanks babyj - you've made me laugh. I didn't see the oven bit. Just imagined you sitting with a cucumber, slicing off tiny slices and sprinkling them with salt. Courgette makes a lot more sense!

Hi babes
Nearin the end of day four now.
Had a huge wobble about sixish.. Overcame it by the skin of my teeth, with cookies to help.
Feel a bit achy now fluey type of symptoms :((
Tomorrow is a whole new challenge as will have more time of my hands.
Love it when there's lots of activity on this bus - big distraction for me.
Sweetie good luck for your appt tomorrow.

Baby jane in awe of your sober days achievied :))
Purps where are you?
Mouse, Ma, Lonnika, Edinbugger. Indi. Hope you are all okay, and hi to all the other babes. xx

edin I'm laughing out loud at you imaging me perched with a cucumber, god that sounds wrong!!!!!!

Drinking tonight I'm afraid, am fighting the anxiety big time.

Dear God, I miss one night and people,e are swishing their hair and doing things with cucumbers!
mouse good luck on the hobble. Our run is Sunday - we painted our t-shirts last night and sabotaged our plan for an early morning run with a few "beakers full of the warm south...with beaded bubbles winking at the brim" .
Paid the price by doing a crap run tonight !
Waves to all. Anyone seen thurso?

Completely failed tonight. Last night was brilliant but tonight everything is at odds with each other. I hate the fact that if I get stressed I drink, if I'm upset I drink, if I'm down I drink, if I'm feeling happy for a flaming change I drink all because I don't have someone that I can talk everything through with and get some support from and have a proper conversation with. I am so fucking lonely as it is just me and DS(5). I don't have anyone I can talk stuff over with and just internalise it all which makes it all worse. I tend to let it all build up and then explode horribly which results in isolating the people that I thought closest to me but I also hate being reliant on others when I have so little to offer in return. Add to that all the money worries and everything else. It seems like groundhog day every bloody day. I am fucking fed up of trying to work out what 'D'H is actually thinking (separated but had supposedly been working things out ha ha) and I am terrified that I am heading towards the breakdown I was on the brink of this time last year, I really don't know what to think. I hate the fact that I glean hope from the stupidest things so live in this perpetual hope that there will be a happy ending after all. I'm clearly the issue in all this as I've pissed off friends, can't relate to family, get totally stressed with DS, am crap at work (in what is my dream job) and cannot maintain a relationship. Family not the most helpful - alcholism on DM's side and general difficulty to tell DF the full story (they are divorcing after more than ten years separation) as he lives abroad. Add to that I comfort eat so loath the way I look and feel, confidence is rock bottom and just generally hate myself. Not sure where to begin.......

Ah fuck.....

Ah hex my love, so many of us can relate to so much of that!
purple can share with you the single parent thing (apologises for singling out purple but I luffs her) and I can relate to the groundhog day, drink for any reason, weight problems.
Can you pick just one of the things above to tackle first? Give yourself a small target rather than being overwhelmed by the enormity of it all)

hex sorry you're having a rough day - but it's just ONE day - tomorrow you can start again

ma I do not have swishy hair, I can promise you

Did I miss a post from purple ?

Hex tiny steps, babe, one tiny little step at a time. You can talk to us you know. It's not the same as rl but it's possibly the next best thing. And if you piss any of us off you can just namechange and come back

I've been getting my act together recently and looking back I wonder why it took me so long to get a grip. I think we can only face things when the time is right and we can only deal with one problem at a time.

What we all need is recognition, validation, and appreciation just for 'being' until we feel strong enough to make those changes. And then we need ongoing encouragement, support and advice. This is where the bus comes in. We can do all that for you and anyone else who wants it, as long as you allow us to.

Keep posting x

Sweetie don't beat yourself up. You don't drink much, one mid week slip isn't all that bad is it? And you didn't drink during the day (yep I heard you too ). How about putting all those thoughts spinning round your head onto paper, just to get them out of your head for a while?

This morning I said it was Try Hard Tuesday and it sounds like some babes have had to try very hard. Well done if you managed to swat the WW. The day is practically over.

Tatty I've tried one of those wines before, the sparkling white (think it's described as very bubbly or something) and it is very good as an alternative when everyone else is celebrating with alcohol.

Thanks faire how did your army of little swimmers get on sorry, my mind is like a Welsh railway (one track and dirty)

You're right, I don't usually drink a lot, but don't want to get back in the habit of drinking every time I've got something stressful on.

Tomorrow I will write down my thoughts before the appointment - thanks for the advice.

hex I feel for you sooooo much, I too have been a single mum before and it's a daily battle, that's when wine started to become my friend, my confidant and soothed the lonely despair BUT it does get better and good things WILL come to you, just do the best you can in each given day and maybe write down all the issues that are making you so unhappy in the order of importance and deal with one thing at a time, you will make the changes when your ready and until then you have us, big squishy hug, sweetie anxiety is a bitch and I'm sending you all the good karma I have in reserve to help you tomorrow, night night babes x x x