The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Posters, Lurkers, Old Or New, Come Take A Seat, This Bus Is For YOU!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.

We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.

Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.

No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.

What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)

Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)

This Bus has been whizzing along various roads now for almost four years thanks to the very desperate cry for help from THIS THREAD BY JWN

And if you'd like to read some of the other threads, maybe how we got to where we are today, then you can follow them back using the links RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon :)

clutter so glad you cope better with work and kids problems without the hangover etc! It makes a difference, doesn't it.

I was reading that homeopathy thread, and a busy GP commented that she was glad when hypochondriacs and anxious people used them, because it freed her up for people with real problems. Made me feel so guilty, because I am surely one of those hypochondriacs who waste the doctors time.

Hello. Sorry not to name-check anyone except to say I read you all daily and with admiration and am rooting for you all. Long time lurker here. I just managed 2 AF days for the first time in months and was feeling so positive - how much more have I achieved today than on the usual sluggish faintly hungover day? - yet come 4.30 I was already eying up the wine and am now roughly half a bottle down. I feel I simply don't know how to make that leap from aspiring moderate (or even non-) drinker to the reality of a healthy attitude to alcohol. Not even sure why i'm posting to be honest except I suppose I hope it might make me confront the scale of my problem more honestly.

ma faire everything as normal really. Relationshipwise nothing has changed. Still living with NSDH.
Really want to get back on the bus but family matters holding me back.
Had an AF day yesterday but already given in to the wine witch today.
NSDH coming.
GOT TO GO.
love to all

welcome fairfux. well done on 2 days AF. cant remember last time I did that much!
rural talk to us, talk to me. Are you any further forward on getting away?

hi ferfuxake (LOVE the name!). i can't be of much help tonight as I am absolutely gasping for a drink. But I think part of 'making the leap' is accepting that there will be times when, like me right now - like you this afternoon, you want to drink and can easily persuade yourself that a bottle of wine is a brilliant idea. I reckon the trick is to accept that moment for what it is - just a moment. In my mind the day is made up of hundreds of moments - the moment I want to strangle DH, the moment I want to tell DDs head teacher to piss off, the moment I contemplate an affair with Brad Pitt. The 'a glass of wine would be lovely' is the same as those other moments - a fantasy without real-life consequences. And like those other moments the moment when I want to drink passes. It just has passed for me while I've been typing this v long winded answer! :)

Please keep posting - even if you keep drinking.

Thanks for the welcome dementedma and Edinbugger. Unusually for me I did at least stop after I reached the half bottle point, partly because DH was due home and I felt awful about (once again) breaking our pact not to drink on week nights, and partly because I have an important meeting at work tomorrow and really don't want to sabotage it as I have done so many times in the past by making myself feel like crap. So progress of sorts I guess. I am now drinking tea and preparing for tomorrow rather than battling with the temptation to open anther bottle as would more normally be the case.

Glad your moment passed Edinbugger.

Going into week 7 - feeling mostly great :)

indie, thurso, venus , mouse - where are you all?
A lot of old timers missing at the moment.
managed a run tonight on top of a good 5k yesterday, so hopefully will be ready for the Race for Life in two weeks. According to the scales I havent lost a pound - that will be the wine - but have now dropped two sizes round the bottom half, and down a cup size in the nork department so something must be working!
am embroiled in an argument on chat about how to support an alcoholic in the family....just not getting the "walk away and leave them to it" argument!

edinbugger I love the "moments" ! So true

ma I'm an old-timer now - been on the Bus 14 months although not sure how much progress I've actually made...

goodness alias so you are.
hate to think how long I have been here then, and still in the sidecar most of the time.
made some good friends though......
where are green and purps and guggs and obrigada and newbies like shaky and phoenix?
Where o where is silver and jesus?
and where the fuck is barrie

And sobasoma and greyhound and swallowedafly and kotinka

And you're right, Barry hasn't been around either...

My progress after 14 months - I have now learnt a new phrase: norkage

Day 25.

isinde* - I think you might have hit the nail on the head there with your 22:55 post. Definitely something to think about.

Thank you Isindie, he is full of his usual crazy sans and you would never know apart from big bandage right across his forehead!! Nothing dents this boys energy and enthusiasm for life
Really reflective post about the dynamics of your relationship when drinking and not. My dh seems to really like when I'm hungover because I'm apologetic, vulnerable and I think he likes being in the role of making me feel better but I hate it!
Wishing everyone love & strength today x

Beans not Sans!