The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Posters, Lurkers, Old Or New, Come Take A Seat, This Bus Is For YOU!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

A huge big welcome to the Brave Babes threads.

We're a varied group of posters, on this wonderfully supportive, non judgemental, gigantic Bus, and we are all heading in the same direction - towards Sobriety.

Some of us don't touch a drop of alcohol, some of us do. Some of us drink too much, openly admit it and are desperate to stop and some of us are trying to manage controlled drinking.

No matter what we're doing, we're just trying to do it One Day At A Time.

What ever you need, what ever your habit, chances are that there'll be another poster who is just like you or has been where you are now, already here, waiting to talk or just listen :)

Yes, some of us have been here for a longer time than others, some of us for just a few days but that's what makes this Bus so great imo, the variety of knowledge and understanding :)

This Bus has been whizzing along various roads now for almost four years thanks to the very desperate cry for help from THIS THREAD BY JWN

And if you'd like to read some of the other threads, maybe how we got to where we are today, then you can follow them back using the links RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon :)

Ma - GREAT NEWS about the old boss coming back part-time, that alone will make your life that little bit more bearable, surely? Knowing that you have 3 days a week with him there to keep you sane and add value to your life in some way at least.

How's the DD/DH situation? Same shit, different day?

Guggs - I'll be your weight loss buddy if you like, and anyone else who fancies it, I need an extra push (although exercise is out as such) because I'd quite like to look a little less wobbly around my middle which is where your mid life mid drift tends to stay!

I have been reading up on the menopause and apparently, it's your middle that suffers the most so that's my goal, get rid of my ever so slightly muffiny top and have more of a Rivita around my middle

Curry - how are things TODAY? You've had so much

.............. on of late, are things calming down now? I do hope so!! Sorry, I posted too soon.

How is everyone else? How's life with all the Babes?

For those who remember Trinity and what has happened recently, the funeral for her partner is this Friday and she's in need of all the support she can get right now.

She is still sober which blows just me away! If anyone would like to say anything, her current thread is HERE

Amanda - what do you eat???????

I have had chicken for lunch - just chicken is that good/bad - I don't know anymore.
nor carbs and no wine - you go girl - too much in one go for me and I am going together rid of things in the order that they are ki,ling me - so wine first !

hello.

I was recommended to come on here after a bit of a wibble last Tuesday. I haven't had a drink since then.

It's hard, I've had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol since I was 16/17. My parents split for several months during that time I drank one of those half bottles of vodka every night.
I left home and got married at 18 and it became the norm to drink a bottle of wine a night. I left my DH and started drinking more. I found I couldn't fall asleep properly, I had to pass out instead. Things got worse when I met my cockmonkey wankstain of an ex who would keep my glass topped up with vodka, I think he preferred me drunk and comatose... but I'm not ready to get into that!

something happened that involved the police to make me wake the fuck up and I sent him on his way.
I don't know how I managed to keep my job. I was permamently hungover and was forever having to scrub the wine stains off my lips.

My lovely DH was rather understanding when I went crawling back to him! Things didn't get better straight away, some nasty incident involving me at the bottom of my parents stairs but not long after we got back together I got pregnant. Pure luck had it that any tiny sip or sniff of alcohol had me running to be sick!

After that I always prided myself I was able to get over that rough time yet still "enjoy" a drink.

But it's crept up on me again. Not as bad as it was but I certainly couldn't not have a drink.

So yeah.

8 days so far.

Thanks for reading and sorry if I bored you!

Shit sorry, think that may have been my longest post to date.

Lonnika I have actually been eating this way for a couple of years more or less anyway and managed to lose a couple of stone a few years ago by cutting out beige things (bread, pasta, biscuits, cakes, crisps etc) and booze.

Have managed to keep most of it off over the last couple of years by basically staying low carb as to be honest carbs now make me feel sluggish and bloated and definitely make cravings for sugar/booze a lot worse.

The wine has crept up again and also I am carb creeping so trying to cut it out again. I eat:-

Breakfast -scrambled eggs on their own or with salmon, cheese, ham or omelette or bacon and eggs or cheese and ham etc etc

Lunch - chicken, tuna, ham or cheese salads, soups (roasted butternut, curried cauliflower) avocado with sour cream, leftover dinners, scotch egg with salad etc etc

Dinner - chilli, spag Bol (with no rice or pasta), shepherds pie with cauliflower top, roasts with green veg and celeriac instead of potatoes, fish pie with cauli top, stews, all sorta of chicken dishes with veg - loads and loads more!!!

No sugary drinks, decaf tea and coffee loads and loads of water.

Yes it's bloody hard for the first 3-4 days but after that its really easy to follow and really helps with blood sugar, cravings, carb crashes etc - it has definitely helped my wine consumption over the last few years.

Hey Amanda - I like the sound of that diet - I could do that - love salmon - can I eat fruit? -

No - sorry as it has lots of sugar (fructose) - keep in mind on this way of eating everything with an "ose" is basically sugar! If you MUST have fruit though you could have small amounts of berries and melon but it is better at least in the first couple of weeks to avoid.

Try your own way for a few weeks and if you like it maybe join the low carb bootcamo threads on the weightloss section or buy the pig to twig diet books - it really easy once you get into the hang of it and also when you get some good recipes to try.

Hello Amanda, we've not met. :) x

Ferret - Hey, you okay? You started off a bit panicky and now seem more calm in your posts, 8 days sober is bloody brilliant so well done! You only have to take this at your own pace, in your own time, on your own terms, you know?

You have done the hardest thing; post that you have a problem.

Again, WELL DONE! And nope, I'm bored. Not at all sweets. Keep going and welcome :) x

Amanda Not sure if I could do no carb. I eat wholemeal bread, wholewheat spaghetti and brown rice. How about if I just reduce the portion, would that be of any benefit? Don't eat potato very often, sometimes have mashed or jacket but that's about it.

Ma fab news on the running. You are impressing me so much with how you helped Richard and how you looked for (and received) support from the bus and getting into your running. You are on a roll (better make it a wholemeal one ). Glad to hear Mr Mixup is coming back, nice to have rl support too.

Mouse I will post something to Trinity on her thread, thanks for the link.

Hi Ferret welcome to the bus. Stick around and join in with the chat whenever you want. Well done on getting to Day 8, what tactics are you using?

I'm attempting positive thinking Mouse.

I'm realistic. I know there's no way I won't ever touch alcohol again. My social network is very much alcohol led. I'm going to work hard to never buy with the weekly shop though. or nip to the local for a bottle of white.

I'm getting spotty though.

Fairenuff, Tactics are ive swapped one vice for another. I've started smoking in the evening again after a year of not!

Ooh! Hello ABF. Good to 'see' you.

Your DH sounds like a good'un.

I am guessing yours and my livers are fairly similar, by the sounds.

I'm on day 10 (whew!), and clinging of with white knuckles at the moment but I'm managing. Going to DB and SIL's tonight and need to cope with buying them a bottle of nice wine to say thanks for having me, and not drinking any of it. So wish me luck! I'll try to check in tomorrow and say I didn't drink it, so writing this will hopefully keep me on the straight and narrow.

Btw, nice to see somone low-carbing on the thread. I try to do that, but periodically slip and fail, and I do agree it makes the booze cravings easier if you're on low carb. I don't ever manage to steer clear of all fruit but when I'm being good I do manage to cut out bread and pasta and so on, and it makes a big difference.

I'm low carbing the wrong way round.

I'll go all day then as an evening meal I'll have a small portion of pasta or something.

lonnika the rules for low-carb bootcamp (there's one running at the moment and it's a very supportive, welcoming thread) are here - click on the rules on the top left of the sheet to see the bootcamp/vegetarian/bootcamp light guidelines.
The current Bootcamp chat thread is here and the questions thread is here. I'm a new disciple, and finds it helps enormously to keep my drinking under control.

I totally agree with Amanda that the first couple of days are awful but then it gets much easier.

Faire it sounds as though you're already eating low GI, which I feel is just as healthy as low carb, certainly for maintaining weight rather than losing.

Mia x
(waves to anyone who remembers)

Oh and Joey no don't take St John's Wort with ADs - I have done with no ill effects, but it's not advisable and in the worst case scenario can cause serotonin syndrome.

You mean that's all you have all day?! Or you only have carbs in the evening?

Actually I can see the latter one working, it's nice and soothing if nothing else, and good for staving off booze cravings.

My weakness atm (not low carb or low anything else) is snickers ice creams. I am going through them at a rate of knots, delicious little evil things.

I was weighed when I saw the doctor I'm 10 and a half stone. I didn't even weigh that when pregnant! Infact I have a photo of me proudly showing off a small baby bump and my belly is currently larger!

So far today I've had some scrambled egg and a shitload of tea. I don't feel hungry though. I'm having curry tonight, which usually goes well with a few glasses of wine but I shall resist.

LRD I have a pack of mars ice creams in the freezer they are evil in their gorgeousness.

Oh LRD, I feel your pain. Snickers ice-creams are just gorgeous. We have peanut butter cornetto's at the moment which are too yummy!

Ferret it was when I gave up smoking that I started over-eating and over-drinking. Seems like I have to be hooked on something

I daren't try new things that sound delicious in case I get addicted (like ice-cream snickers, for example ). I got totally hooked on mint flavoured aeros a few years ago. Seriously, I'm not joking, I was eating two a day, every day for quite some time. Had to force myself to go cold turkey. I guess that was probably just a sugar addiction, so I'm very wary now.

LRD does it have to be wine? Couldn't you take flowers or something instead? Dessert? Well done on 10 days

Mia how are you lovely? I was thinking of you the other day when I saw our bat back. Have only seen him twice though, so hope he's ok. I was wondering who CrabbyBottom was

I will take a peek at those links when I've got a mo. May see you over there x

lrd I was about to say the same thing as faire - why does it have to be wine? How about a lovely pudding or a big bag of doughnuts?

Thanks crabby I got Kalms (valerian, hops) I looked at the Rescue Remedy, but don't really believe in those flower essence.

ma how is your brother doing?

purple have you gone AWOL again?

Thanks lovely Joey, I'm here. I can't remember who coined the phrase (sorry!) but I feel like I'm at the wrong end of the shite chute just now. DD, XP, XMIL, WW, money, housework - and the sodding grass just keeps bloody growing! How I hate mowing grass! (It's the focus of my ire at the mo') etc! Try not to worry about the work thing. You may be over thinking your reaction last week. And even if you're not, people have off days, it's normal. Walk back in like you own the place! xxxxx

Hey all.
Former boss starts back in two weeks. Am very happy and looking forward to being mentored and learning new skills. Going to visit Richard tomorrow and speak to his key worker and discuss the future. He is doing well though. Was chuffed that my jeans felt loose today but the scales still refusing to show even a pounds lost! Grrrrrr.

Lovely to hear your news about your 'new' boss and Richard Ma. Loose jeans = more toned bod - whatever the scales say! xx