why wont he stand up for me

[holliec]

directed here as i posted in step parenting and was advised to post here.long story..married 2nd time for 6 years,husband had 3 kids full time,i had 3 .have done everything for all the kids.husband is basically a bully,i have never been allowed to tell his daughter off,althiugh he shouts and swears at my son,9,the other 2 girls have now left.he has beaten me in front of all of them a few times,his eldest,now left home was whooping with delight.3 years ago he was diagnosed with NHL.I am the only worker in the house,have internet business on which i work at least 17 hours a day.his children are allowed to do ANYTHING .the 13 yr old daughter ignores me completely and wants me out (i pay for everything)on sunday my 9 yr old went to a presentation for football and won top prize,i was so proud i nearly burst.when we got home he ignored us and i told him he1d won and he said,in front of his giggling daughter,why should i be interested,your only interested in HIM.For the 1st four years together i attended every match both his sons played,rain or shine.it has reached a point where i wanted to sell up,he is refusing to leave and him and his daughter trat me like crap.i spend most of my time in my bedroom.she wrote a 4 page letter saying how she would do anything to get rid of me,how i was a fing this etc.ive never raised my voice to her.my husb.just bullys me and is currently trying to force me to leave by being so awful,i go.i have done everything i can for our family.ive wasted 6 years,put everything in and have just been used.i havent been out for over 3 years,have no friends and feel desparate.

You're doing really well Holliec! Atleast you are not buying into the bullshit he is feeding you!

thursay at 11 am.very scared but i will feel better that im actually doing something .its a good feeling that ive done it,and even better that he thinks that a visit from mr nice will make up for another 10 days of his crap.at least i will know where i stand and i will not be afraid of any rubbish he tries to frighten me with..ps the construction in the garden is a big square of chipping,,,not good enough..for all his time out there i at least expected a swedish sauna and hot tub.i hope hes going to pick the cat poo out of the chippings when all the local cats start using it as a loo...if i was truely wicked,id start the ball rolling myself..SORRY TO BE GROSS

lol, I can't beleive the nerve of some people, asking to see YOUR business accounts and checking how much YOU are spending out of the joint account.

Hi Hollie,
Sounds like you're feeling stronger and making really good progress with your leaving plans. That's brilliant.
It's funny reading your H's comments, because they sound so ludicrous from where I'm sitting. He sounds like a total fantacist, talking about having you thrown out. But on the other hand I know exactly how good this kind of man is at sounding convincing. I do understand how easy it is to become lost in the maze of their crazy logic.
Really willing you to move up and on now. Stay strong (and DON'T be ashamed) you've done nothing wrong.

hollie
is good to hear you're getting it together - just stay focused on what you want. sounds like you've got him on the run already - that was quick. you need good legal advice asap. he may well go for trying to psyche you out in the hopes you'll up sticks. is usually the other way round but who knows? just keep your head down and do take care, the sun will shine i'm sure.

Hollie - sounds like your plans are starting to come together. Stay strong and stay safe.

Holliec - how are you doing? are you ok?

Thinking of you and hoping that all is OK

Hi holliec

Did you get to the solicitors today? How is everything?

Praying you are ok holliec.

Let us know how you are doing!! we are worried!

Holliec are you OK? Its been 3 weeks since your last post.