This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

Scrazy I guess I'm quite lucky that my skype runs pretty well, of course I always put on a bit of slap and a nice top and make sure I'm in whatever room has the most flattering light.

Perhaps the shine has worn off with mr wonderful, or it's just a non plussed sort of mood which will soon pass?

Mercury, it took a while for the shine to wear off and if it is that I quite like it. Hate to think my libido has finally deserted me though . You hear of it happening with women of a certain age, Oh no!

Skye, I would respond to a 'would like to meet' only if he was seriously fit, if not then ignore.

Scrazy see how you feel when you see him, but maybe it's just not being sure where things are going, if that's the case. I know that sometimes I pull back a bit emotionally for self-preservation when I have the feeling that all is not quite as I want it to be.

Skye I can't see a feasible alternative to OD at least for the moment either so I keep plugging away. Feeling a bit discouraged at the moment, though, wondering if it will ever come right.

Scrazy I wish I could give you my libido - so much pent up lust but no one to unleash it all on! It's driving me a bit mad actually!

Skye I tried match and hated the wink feature. I think if you wait for people to message you then you might miss some great guys - get messaging!

skye I just think the would like to meet men don't have anything to say for themselves so why bother?? Rocky had set me as a favourite on POF .. I set him as a favourite but didn't hear from him so I sent a message saying ' you made me a favourite .. I made you a favourite what happens next?'

OWW, yes I will see how I feel after the weekend. I know it's as ongoing as long as I want it to be, it will never be a live in relationship which isn't what I want either but still feeling meh! Maybe it's run it's course.

The sex drive and age thing, I dunno, I suspect it varies according to lots of things not just age.

I think I'd be glad to get rid of it, unquenchable thirst, pain in the arse that drives me to do stupid things

ive had blokes on match literally message me saying wink.. not even clicking on the wink button ! if theyve got that far to message why not just type a little sentence?!

Goodness I seem to have missed a lot and stirred up a bit of a hornet's nest by saying I'm a bit at FWB.

I like OD, I date a range of people and with a frequency that I just wouldn't do otherwise. I wanted to say that for any lurkers who are still on the fence about whether to dive in. I've been relatively lucky with standard I think. Very little odd behaviour, just plenty of nice but slightly wet men who were not right for me. It's fun. But the constant "not right for me" parts are starting to get me down. One day, just one day, it would be nice to feel excited, and hopeful, and have meaningful movie sex, and amazing conversation. That's the disappointment that can pop out of nowhere and grind you down - so many dates, so few of them goers.

Exactly, Stranger, exactly. With the exception of the creepy Italian, I must have met a dozen or so perfectly nice, often a little tedious, inoffensive, eager to please men who just did nothing for me. This week I have been wondering if things will ever work out for me. I get my hopes up a bit every time but just end up disappointed. Not excited at all about my date on Sunday because I think it will just be another let down. Need that bloody carp I think.

Wine, yes it does tend to blind you to other things!
I think that's why I'm preferring sex only arrangements, it means I don't get the 'other things'
(oh if only it were really that simple...who am I trying to kid :o )

People keep talking about movie sex. Which movie?
9 1/2 weeks is fine, the Tall Guy is funny. Alien vs Predator is just wrong in so many ways.

The 'Meet me' feature on match is something you click to basically save that person for future reference. You may be exchanging emails with several other people at the moment, or just be busy, but if you like the look of someone you can let them know (so they can contact you) or hopefully get around to contacting them if the current things don't work out. Don't take it personally.

On a dating-note, my 'Out of My league' girl, who hadn't replied to an email in the last week, suddenly replied back saying she was very busy holidaying at the moment, so she hasn't been in touch. So we're theoretcally up for a drink next week

Evening all. It's great to see so many new and returning faces! Hope you all stick around, it can get a bit dull round here with all the same old loved up faces

juliette if you're still interested it's ivorbigun4u, cos he likes to share, innit!

I have a question for you all - how long do you keep plugging away at a one-sided conversation, in which you have to ask all the questions and they reply happily enough, but never bother to ask about you. It's happening now - great looking bloke, articulate - but in probably 12 messages has not asked a single question of me, even when I've set him up, thinking he can't possibly not ask - but he hasn't!

It's not the first time, and usually I just stop asking and that's it, but he's so tasty....

Evening.

Just got back in from the 'date' Except I don't think it's a 'go-er' Lovely guy, separated, and not ready for a relationship.

TBH, i don't think I am either, I need more time. Ending a relationship against my own feelings only a couple of weeks ago is hard, I need time to process it I think. The dating is me trying to mask it/denial etc I think.
I may switch off the dating sites for a while and just do nothing.

I may go out with this guy again though, as friends. Is that OK?

Hey Secret ...Ive been there and it is a waste of bloody time...I thought this one guy didnt know how to hold a conversation...then he contated me again when I had more pics up ...didnt realise it was me....he could ask question then alright! We messaged for several days.. he admitted he had never been on an OD date and was very nervous.....then disappeared...bin him...sorry.

Same here. I have met a few creeps but generally the men I've met have been perfectly nice. As my potential dating pool is small I've given some men the benefit of the doubt which has resulted in quite a few creeps but my experience is not typical. I haven't found many I thought I could fancy from their photos so again, so again I've hoped for the best but the reality often was that they'd used much older photographs anyway so that hasn't always worked.

So I've had a lot of first dates with men who I didn't fancy. But most men I've met have been fun, interesting and good company and it was a good experience.

That's not what I wanted to hear Ike. Had such high hopes of breaking my message drought. Ah well, goodbye international jetsetter, your loss

Hissy of course it's all right to meet him as friends, particularly if your in the same boat. You could do each other good !

Secret If he simply doesn't have the social sense to converse it doesn't matter how hot he is, it would be hard work. Worse, if he can't be bothered then why should you.

So those one's I bin.

And I'm going to see the new Star Trek film tomorrow. Bloody marvellous.

I'm not sure what's worse - lots of dates with men who are disappointing and you have to reject (or are glad when you don't hear from) or lots where you thought they were at the very least ok, and wanted to see them again, and never did? Or are both experiences equally dispiriting just in different ways?

Hissy yes it sounds like a promising friendship, just make your intentions clear and it could be fun.

I struggle to fancy any of them from their pics.....honestly!

Secret is he on POF, the one's I've got don't have pics