This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

I once knew a policeman called Ivor Gunn - seriously!! Maybe that's him?!

Thank you ladies, I am indeed over thinking, as I have a tendency to do with most things.... I did notice a few new faces on POF when I had a look earlier (quite a rare thing in these parts) so I may indeed wander on again later for a closer look... And I shall resist messaging Mr Friday Date for now :)

OWW I don't think there's anything wrong with being picky either, and I'm quite envious of your stats, and your current uber-desirability - long may it continue! :)

Django I would leave him to it. Either he will text or not, if you always text him first then maybe it's time for him to step up. Carp on standby

OWW I'm loafing in good northern air as I type.

Django it's very hard not to overthink, hence the need for the man smorgasbord. Channel insouciance.

OWW when I day 40 plus men that's because I can't actually remember them all. Do you remember when I never got second dates? That changed after my LM, when I also decided to change my approach not that I was interested in any of them

Django wise words from OWW , Bant hang in there, she defo sounds interested, but scheduling is tricky. Raf although I think fireworks are over-rated, go with you instincts. Waves to everyone else.

Meet Up guy & I went bird-watching today -at last - in my world this is a very cool thing to do & MUG extremely good at it.
Do to scheduling & fact that my DD is around a lot this week, I have suggested he comes to mine tonight ( no DD around). I suppose this would constitute a Rules-verboten booty call, but if I call it, then is it really a booty call? Whatevah, I'm doing it.
Meet Up guy ardency is evident -now worried that he will too soon declare undying love, at which point I will have to say, "Slow Dow, lightnin'", but will cross that bridge, etc. I am living very much in present with this; one thing about a split after 24 years is that next partner need not fulfill, endless criteria - fun is enough?
BTW - night of excellent sex coincided with STBXH 60th birthday. Revenge is sweet, tho not done for that reason, just a great way for me to celebrate.

I mean "slow down", obvs

I am heeding all your wise words - so far!

A curious thing though - logged in to POF to properly check out some of those new faces.... And couldn't find half of them no matter how I set my search. Do they just throw random ex-members on there to boost numbers??

Anyway I found a couple I think show some promise, and have sent them a wee message :).

Moan that sounds like a lovely date, and if a booty call is what you want to round it all off this evening, then let him have it :D

Django hope he messages you soon. You know that it isn't you though don't you. It's him. Defo good to have a few more coals in the fire but that's easier said than done.

Ruggers hasn't been in touch since fri. I am due to meet him on wed. I text him earlier to ask if he had good weekend and what were the plans for wed and he hasn't replied. Made me feel shit. I know it's not me it him but I honestly can't deal with this. I have had a lovely weekend (and I have hated bank holidays since ex left) but his lack of comms has been on my mind way more than I should have let it. I have also let myself get carried away thinking about him - seriously I know that I don't even know him so why do I let my thoughts go overboard!!! I just want to meet somebody nice, who I fancy, who can communicate and stick to a date. Life is stressful enough without this too. Feel gutted. I really had a soft spot for Ruggers and really wanted to meet him. Rubbish!!!!!!

Will stick to the rules from now on. Dating ( or even the process of trying to get a date) is bloody tough!!!!!

Pom what you say to Django is spot on and the same with Ruggers. Some people are just a bit rubbish at communicating, especially when they don't know you and especially by text - it doesn't necessarily mean anything. But I know, it's bloody hard when you are waiting for that message. At the moment I just don't care, they can message or not and I'm not bothered, but when it's one that you like it can be very difficult. The only answers I have found are really to just hold back a little at first, not get too involved until you are sure that he's a decent guy and you like/fancy him and vice versa, and honestly have a few on the go at the same time.

Mine are as follows:

a Nothing from the nice curly bloke;
b The other coffee date bloke has norovirus and has to lie low for forty-eight hours;
c Bloke who asked me out for today is also quiet - think he thinks I am messing him around, but honestly I can't arrange a date with less than twenty-four hours' notice;
d Other one has texted and asked when can we meet, I've suggested a couple of possibilities but all is now quiet (bit of a theme here);
e College lecturer wants to meet up later in the week. He only drinks tea, not alcohol, which could get a little tedious. I like alcohol;
f Reappearing bloke from last summer has messaged to say he'd like to move to my town;
g Quiet bloke has messaged to say he's put his iron away.

Scintillating.

Feeling tempted to take a look at Ivor just for a bit of amusement.

Ivor's allegedly 'good with (his) hands' and his favourite book is 'Fifty Shades of Grey -lol' - sounds like a sophisticated gent about town to me ...

(He's just messaged me again, wonder what insightful comments he's going to make this time )

Safe to say I don't hear wedding bells.

Kin, I think you should meet him

Well Nora that is very suave and sophisticated compared to last summer's bloke whose profile starts with "I have a pig".

Pom, sorry to hear that you're waiting for a message too :(. I guess with today being a holiday folks might be away for the weekend/day so hopefully Rugger will be back in touch soon.

Have you got anyone else you're chatting to at the mo?

Haha Kin, Ivor has clearly done his research on what women really want... How could you resist? !

'I have a pig ' ?! Actual

I've just suggested he puts some clothes on as it's 'a bit parky tonight'

Scrazy I'm afraid I'm not ready for his jelly.

Django - he certainly knows how to please the laydeeeeeeeezz

Hi all, sorry been absent from the thread for a while... Just got really down about everything. Mr TD&H has officially disappeared off the face of the earth after our awkward shag. Hard not to wonder if its because I was crap It's a shitty thing to do to someone, vanish after you've done the deed.
Things were looking up last week when a lovely bloke from POF messaged me, we had numerous messages all day last tues then a phone call that evening. He sounded v keen and I got all excited about the prospect of him. He is a policeman and has been on duty since Thursday, so very sporadic contact. But now nothing since Friday Another vanisher? I don't know what in doing wrong. I don't come across as needy (I don't think) and at the risk o sounding big headed I am attractive and look and feel younger than my (already young) 34 years. Just want someone to spend time with now. It's been nearly 8 months since STBXH left, and I have to hear about family days out with him and OW and my kids whilst I lay in bed all day feeling sad.
Sorry for self indulgent post everyone, just needed to write that down.

Oh my actual good god. How unethical is it quote a message on here ?

oww you sound like you are in a good place where you won't let anyone hurt you. And having lots if dates on the go is a good thing. I know that know of them have got you at the mo but just going out on dates is good for you. I know you havent found the ioght man but you sound so together at the mo it's only a matter of time! It's lovely to read.

Think I have come to the conclusion that Internet dating just isn't the answer for me. Just doesn't work for me. I'm a nice person. I have good friends, a lovely life, fab children, good career and prospects, positive attitude (honestly I do!!), I'm articulate and funny (I've been told) and okay looking but I just don't think it translates on the Internet. I don't like the general lack of decency, manners and honesty. It gets to me and makes me feel like a saddo. I'm not a saddo I would just like to meet a decent man. Surely most people want to be in a relationship.

So what other ways is there to meet a man if its my on the Internet.....

Aw dolly I feel your pain. It is shit! Bank holidays are shit for making is feel this way. It's not you, it's them horrible men. They ate just playing a game. We have been through almost identical situations. It's rubbish now but it won't always be.

*not not my!!!

Go on Kin...I beg of you [gtin]

You're not a saddo, Pom, it's just hard work and disheartening sometimes, if you're not having fun, pack it in ( I can put Ivor your way, he'll make you 'feel like a lady and not a lump of meat' )