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This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

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JulietteMontague · 15/05/2013 23:36

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

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KirstyWirsty · 26/05/2013 18:39

Lol flipper

nora things going well with rocky .. At at his now .. He's on the shower and we are just about to have dinner

KinNora · 26/05/2013 18:49

Good news Kirsty, not at all Envy oh no, not me.

Oh I thought he was your next door neighbour Flipper - that explains a lot then, have fun.

OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 19:40

That's really funny Flipper - have a good time. You too Raf - hope the oil guy is a real good one.

Moan you lucky thing, you. Have a Envy And another Envy for Kirsty.

Well it looks like Aquarius has now moved out of the House of Engineers into the House of Older Company Directors - why does it go like this? Have three of these at the moment - one is the odd bloke from last night (who is still texting and phoning ardently), plus a couple of other ones who both want to meet up next week. Not really old, ten years is the oldest. There are now no engineers whatsoever!

Also got two who are in the same job as me. One messaged this morning to say meet up tomorrow for a walk - he has kids too so I am surprised that he thinks things are so easy. It will be a no (again) - he did this last time we were trying to arrange to meet up and I had to say no, and now it will look like I am being awkward and fussy. Ho hum. The other one offered to take me out to dinner - I said yes but he is now backtracking to a walk in the park. Erm, no. What's with all this walking? Somewhere you can sit down, wear something nice and have refreshments is a much better plan.

Got a nice college lecturer on the go as well but I think he's a bit far away. Shame.

Quiet guy from last week is still texting but I think he has discovered the sweet trolley now he's got going, seems to be almost permanently online - well, he's on whenever I log on. He wanted to come round to my house the other night but I said no, not doing that sort of thing after one date. As if. What's wrong with some of these men?

OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 19:41

Ten years older is the oldest, not ten years! Doh.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 20:08

That sounds like an interesting selection OWW (with the possible exception of the lecturer, cough, wankers ) - are any of them particularly tickling your fancy ?

Scrazy · 26/05/2013 20:08

OWW, less investment going for a walk, I would say. It doesn't cost.

The exclusivity chat was specific that we won't have Coffee with anyone else so I reckon I'm off the hook.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 20:14

Scrazy is this the bloke who's an ex and who you're just seeing for the time being, with no real expectations for the future ?

OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 20:18

nora There is a nice one with curly hair that I like the look of (one of the older ones). He is quite funny too, and tall. Don't want to say he sounds good otherwise I will jinx it.

I am hoping that a college lecturer might be okay. It's not an academic subject so hopefully none of intellectual snobbery ...

Scrazy you are right. Cheapskates.

I also have an offer to come and teach a twenty-odd year old virgin everything I know. My god, that would send him running for the hills ...

Scrazy · 26/05/2013 20:22

Kin, yes that's the one.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 20:23

Cor OWW he sounds a bit like Stephen Mangan and I deffo would - is he one of the walkers ?

KinNora · 26/05/2013 20:25

Well if that's the case Scrazy I think a little snog is probably fair enough, innit ?

OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 20:40

He's a blondie, Nora, looks like my old next door neighbour's son that I had a real crush on when I was about ten. He's a coffee somewhere nice, not a walker. Definitely would so far, but he will have a voice like a mosquito or something. I am really starting to think that I am never going to find anyone. Am I too picky? I really don't want to "settle" but perhaps I'm being unrealistic thinking that someone is going to come along who ticks all (or 90%) of the boxes . . .

Scrazy is the little snog going to turn into something more?

Scrazy · 26/05/2013 21:16

Not sure about it turning into anything more. We have been in touch today, he's a fair bit younger than me and is one of those 'bad boys', not sure I can be bothered with all that at my time of life.

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JulietteMontague · 26/05/2013 21:18

Hell Scazy I would say that given the circumstances, any agreement with him is subject to, shall we say interpretation? I don't see any hook.

Western what was up with the leg jiggler, any idea what was going on there? Odd how they all decide to come along together Confused

Moan good one! it's all progressing nicely by the sound of it.

Flipper I have visions of you going from door to door, bottle of wine in hand getting to 'know' the neighbours better Grin

10 sleeps!

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OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 21:19

Scrazy I know exactly what you mean. I could not be arsed with all that nonsense. Could be just a front though or do you know him by reputation?

Scrazy · 26/05/2013 21:22

I know a bit of background stuff, but I should take as I find. Will see what happens.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 21:25

The whole picky/making do debate is tricky, I've come to the conclusion that I'm unlikely to meet anyone who ticks all the boxes but that's ok because I just want to enjoy myself so I can compromise about some things.

Scrazy bad boys are usually knobbers, who can be arsed.

Moan I am sorry, I missed your post, that all sounds very satisfactory, it's good that you're having some fun.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 21:25

Pah - ' who can be arsed ? '

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JulietteMontague · 26/05/2013 22:25

Trouble with even 90% is that it could be the 10% that is most important. I wonder about settling too, not sure I've ever been 100% sure about anyone.

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OhWesternWind · 26/05/2013 22:31

Juliette my friend thinks the leg jiggling was to hide activity in the trouser department. He wants to go out to lunch tomorrow. Am going to have to tell him no. Feel bad as I said I'd see him again when he asked me straight out, but I don't think I want to. I find it almost impossible to say no in those circumstances, so awkward.

I think I am going to carry on being somewhat picky but realistic too and not expecting perfection. I just want someone I feel that connection with and then probably a lot of the other stuff won't matter.

KinNora · 26/05/2013 22:40

Yes, it's that undefinable magic isn't it ? You know it when you see it but couldn't quantify or describe it, I don't really expect to find that either but I suspect that I'm safer away from that kind of scary malarkey.

(okc is going fricking mental tonight)

RafaellaNhaKyria · 27/05/2013 05:35

So, update on the oil rigger date:

He is so, so sweet. He arrived with roses and a picnic. We walked around town for a while talking (yes what IS it with men wanting to walk suddenly). It started storming, and so I suggested (perhaps foolishly but it worked out fine) that we have our picnic on my big front porch which has table and chairs. And it was lovely :) Then he took me into town and we had a couple of drinks. I live in the middle of nowhere, and very little to do so we rented a movie and went backto mine. He was quite gentlemanly, didn't try anything on and made sure I was comfortable before going for a kiss. He's a fantastic hugger and cuddler, too. Oh, and he opened all doors for me, and actually listened while I spoke.

His kids texted him a few times, and wasn't ever annoyed at them interrupting.

There weren't thunderbolts, but he's very nice, intelligent and kind. I hope his doesn't sound weird, but he was very...comfortable? In a good way.

Oh. And my cat completely betrayed me and ignored my presence in favor of sitting in his lap. Bastard cat! He never likes anyone but me! In fact, my last boyfriend, he routinely bit on the legs when we were in bed lol!

Bant · 27/05/2013 06:10

Sounds good, Raf - sometimes the general niceness is more important than the thunderbolts - men can grow on you.

Flipper924 · 27/05/2013 07:23

Morning!

He came and met me at the end of my garden (he's three doors down, he can see in my bathroom window from his front garden).

One glass turned into a bottle, and then a second....and then he walkedme home. There may have been some kissing. His house is lovely though, and he's apparently very handy. He commented that a couple of my fence panels need nails in, I told him to feel free to sort those out.

He thinks I'm a lush. He's right, of course, but that's not a good thing for a first date, is it?

KinNora · 27/05/2013 08:19

Flipper frankly I'm impressed that you're up at this time after two bottles of wine. It must be a tragic symptom of my age that I'd be hugely attracted by him being 'very handy' - sad, sad times.

Happy bank holiday everyone, I'm travelling back up north later - hurrah !

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