This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

Pom
Thank you. Perhaps I should look at another site as well. I have had a few replies.....

Hey
Thanks maybe I should look at other sites

ALittle

I think you are right. I am overthinking it, but I think that is because I am not used to people looking at me.
I just read the rules at the beginning of the thread. And I am not sure I am enjoying it.
I don't mind winking as I think it is light hearted, however some of the guys seem to read more into it.

Age thing of children is a little bit of an issue for me as DD felt replaced /very distressed when Ex found replacement family (OW, hardly sees the children due to location (not blaming him just makes it even harder) etc). So I have to handle my finding someone very carefully which is a factor in my still being single.

• the one guy who I have started chatting to has 2 DD's, one the same age, I think knowing this I can't be bothered taking it further. I know that might sound ridiculous but because of our situation it is important.

I have only been there a few days. Some of the messages I have had say that they like my photos. Which of course is a select number as only those that do will send a message in any case. It feels so foreign because I have not had that sort of attention for a long time if ever......

(until very recently from a colleague who more or less said I should get out there as he told me I deserved someone etc )

I suppose I just feel a little vulnerable and worried I won't put the right boudaries up. As I am a little sceptical as well.

Anyway thank you ladies, I will keep lurking..... I do like to read about your adventures and think you are all very brave.

Cat. Whilst I hate to think if anyone being lonely because they're too nervous to meet someone new, I think if you're just not ready to get out there, then don't do it. Personally I think meeting someone with kids the same age would be a huge bonus, but if you don't see it that way then you're probably not ready. And if its not fun, as they say, then stop. When you're ready for it we'll collectively be there to help.

Right. The Translator. Bollocks what do I do? I can possibly maybe randomly meet up due to a smallish circle of friends, or I can contact her to ask to do something. That, however, is fraught with difficulty because I can invite her to dinner (a date) or drinks ( a date) or to go see the new baby hippo at the zoo (also a date). And she's seeing someone else. But talked to me, FB friended me as soon as she got home last night and messaged me a lot last night and this morning

Firstly, does it sound like she's into me? I think it does but she could just think I'm a new friend.

Secondly, the group isn't close knit enough for me to casually be flirty and friendly. I have to arrange to be in the same place as her, which is difficult given she's seeing someone.

Thirdly, I'm not used to stuff happening in real life without having a dating profile to read. Arse.

bant maybe try telling her that you think it's a shame she is attached as you really find her attractive? Then the ball is on her court ... She can ditch the arse boyfriend and go out with you .. Perfect!!

Bant All I can say is that while I might FB friend a new male aquaintance with the intention of being friends, I wouldn't have messaged last night and today. Because that would be a little strange for a new "friend". It wouldn't be weird, however, for me to behave that way toward a new male aquaintance that I was attracted to.

You are not in the friend zone. Wahoo! Flirt your booty off!

Hi all

quick check in

DD been really poorly since the op to have teeth out. Should have been reasonably simple but they were stuck and a load of bone had to come with them. Poor love - she didn't react very well to the GA either :(

In better news though I have my new premises sorted and pick up the keys Wednesday so am nearing being out the other side of the madness. Just got to get everything moved over then things can calm down a bit!

7 weeks no smoking & 19lb lost :o

Have planned to see Mr Flirt again though not set an actual date yet with things still being mad. But I like him and will give it another date or two before deciding anything.

Also hopefully still have BC lined up and the other RL chap who asked me out!

Hope everyone is doing ok, I still have no hope of catching up - gahhh and grrrrr!

just want to say...i fuckin luv ryvita with lashings of butter and big slices of squashy tom on it. yay...god show me magick (sfa) yayayayaaa!!

ike dark rye ryvita with lemon curd is amazing

Happy Saturday everybody,

Cat it's all meant to be fun, don't be feeling you have to try OD before you're really ready. It might be worth living vicariously through here for a little while and then gently dipping your toes in the OD pool.

Wine - it's shite when that happens, you have my sympathy.

Bant she wants your peacocky lurvvvin.

Ike how are you doing petal ?

OWW it's all sounding very promising with your various beaux, are you seeing anybody this weekend ?

Juliette lovely to hear that things are going so well with Dutchy.

Lubey your poor daughter, was it her wisdom teeth ? That really is a very unpleasant operation and involves a lot of very robust pulling about. I'm still in awe at your drive and determination.

Scrazy have a lovely holiday. No, I'm not doing the biz with Showbiz, he has a medical condition which means that he may well not be able to do the actual 'Mr Wobbly hides his helmet' but contents himself with sorting me out - I couldn't cope with that in a serious relationship but it's ok in the current circumstances.

Mwwwwahhhh Twinny.

Hello to Pom , Rafaella , Kirsty , ALittle , Hey , Snape, Velvet (I hope you're feeling better, chuck ) , Yoga and everyone I've undoubtedly missed, have a wonderful weekend.

Apropos nothing, I need to have sexy times with Will Smith. He is the exception to the No Beard Rule.

Hmm. Just woke up, am going to FB message the Translator. Needs to be casual yet interested. I have two options:

'Gorgeous day today. Doing anything good?'
Or
'Marry me'

Which one has the right ring to it? Or can someone suggest something better. I'm usually okay at this kind of thing but she's got me flummoxed.

Make her laugh Bant, saying something funny will work in ways that all kinds of other things won't ( disclaimer - this may just be based on my own Achilles' heel )

Bant I would strike while the woman is hot. Make her laugh, innocently ask what she's got planned for the weekend and ask her for a day date activity like the hippos, tomorrow. All whilst keeping an air of awesomeness. Of course this is just what I'd go for, someone else may have a better idea

bant and perhaps present one option 'or we could just run away together' much more romantic (and less scary than Marry me)

Bant doing this without an OD profile is the holy grail! Look, unless she has oddly friendly boundaries she is clearly keen. I do not send multiple messages to new 'friends' unless I fancy them. Strike now, take out The Pupil.

Lubey that is fantastic on the smoking and weight loss.

Lubey poor DD, wisdom teeth are nasty and I expect just being in hospital is traumatic for her. You are doing so amazingly well, once you re-launch yourself the world won't know what's hit it. You've inspired me again to get back on my weight wagon.

Wine make sure you are kind to yourself until you can put all thoughts of Ken out of your head.

Cat it sounds like you've had a rough few years. Rather than hoping to find bf at this stage, how about getting out there and meeting some (hopefully) good men and enjoy the dates for what they are for a while. This may help it all feel less daunting and also help you work out what it is that you want in a partner. DC come first of course, but a truly caring man will be sensitive to the needs of your DC should a relationship get to that stage. You may find the ages of any prospective man's DC are less important than the emotional age of the man himself.

Kin you brighten my days

12 sleeps

messaged her, she messaged back, we chatted for a bit about baby hippos and bayern munich (she's a fan. I'm not) then I casually asked her for a coffee this afternoon and she went quiet. I shall keep you informed.

Bant what will be will be. Unless she is a loon, she will say yes.

( you know she'll be watching the final tonight, don't you Bant ? - profuse apologies if you are actually a football fan and I've just patronised you , I had a vague feeling you aren't interested in the game )

I love you Jules - mwwwahhhh.

okay. She countered my coffee proposal to suggest we go to the zoo. I'm meeting her in a couple of hours.

ohmigodohmigodohmigod.

I'm all aflutter. And normally I'm such a peacock. :)

Oh god, oh god, sorry, yes, hello 48 have a wonderful time.

Oh Bant how lovely, fingers crossed that it's the start of something fantastic for you

YES!!!! Go Bant.

You have more than enough in your armoury, all will be well.