This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

Horrible feeling Ike - I get the winedoom/rumdoom/ciderdoom in spades if I go even a bit OTT, can't cut the mustard any more now I am old and past-it. Hope you're feeling better soon, diet coke, hula hoops and sleep are the only things for it.

Juliette really hope your birthday defies expectations and is good - you know I wasn't at all looking forward to mine last week and in the event it wasn't too bad at all.

The 23yr old has been messaging me again today, we have been in contact on and off for over a year now, I've never even met him. Mainly because I suspect he is just out for a shag. But he is quite entertaining. He whatsappd me a screenshot of his bank account today showing me how overdrawn he is .

No news from C yet, but I know there will be, so that's all ok(ish).

I know OWW not helped by the fact that my mate is drippin in cock at the mo whereas i couldnt rustle up a date to save my life...

At last. I caught up. I had something witty, insightful and perhaps a little acerbic. Then I forgot When I remember I will post.

Lab is still a good dog, but a sad dog (grieving). But all is well, as my lurvely OD thread mate says 'Softlee, softlee, catchee monkey'

Will be back soon and with a full shout out...

Have had enough. Come home to find boys have flooded the house. As ever, they don't give a shit. Won't clean it up, will do it again I expect. No punishment has any effect on them not caring about anything. Nothing matters because I can replace it, and the house is an unfinished tip anyway so who cares. According to them.

So I have a house viewing tomorrow, and I really want it. Please may I have your good luck vibes because I am the 2.15pm viewing, and someone else is taking a look at 2.00pm. Lets all hope they hate it so I can have it and move on with my life!

Good luck rose I am just waiting for the estate agent as i type to do a 2nd viewing .. Once stbxh signs separation agreement ( he had an appt to do that on Thursday past) I can make an offer

velvet there must be something .. My dd doesn't care about being grounded but couldn't handle no tv so that tiny bargaining tool of choice

That is my bargaining tool of choice even

No, there is nothing. I wish there was. Take away Xbox, they use laptop. Take away laptop, they use phone. Take away phone, they watch TV. Take away TV, they sit and stare at the wall. They just don't care about anything.

I just feel like running away from it all. It's nearly 16 years since my dad died and, apart for a very brief period with the lovely Ex, not once in all those years have I felt anyone cared about me, or was on my side, supporting me. I probably should be used to it by now.

velvet that's horrible. What do they do if you refuse to pick up after them, do their laundry, cook for them etc. do they get pocket money?

Little sods.

I posted too soon earlier but cba to finish off sentence. I'm feeling a bit mopey. Kids GP have only phoned tics so far today. Is doing my head in.

If I didn't pick up, they would ignore the mess. They'd wear dirty clothes if they ran out of clean ones - they often do because it's quicker to pick a dirty item out of the washing pile than it is to go to the drawer and get something clean out. If I didn't cook, they eat toast, or buy snack foods. The Ex gives them pocket money but not regularly, I can't afford to.

I have gone to bed, it is just all too much :( I just want someone to hug me, and to give a shit.

Sorry,Velvet, had a crappy day myself so not really up to a long post but I give a shit, love.

Velvet how really, really crap. Sorry you feel so low and no wonder, it's the attitude more than the actual flood that must get to you. But there are loads of people who give a shit, me for one.

Sorry you're having a crap day too Nora. Hugs to you and all.

I feel really sad for you velvet. When you've had a good sleep and a bit of time to recharge, I'll send you a PM. Poor wee soul. It does all get to be a bit too much sometimes.... You are fab, love.

And loads of good luck with the houses Rose and Kirsty

velvet that sounds really shitty .. Can you not just take all their stuff and let them stare at the wall .. Let them wear dirty clothes and make their own meals

Nora sorry you feel crap too

OWW thanks ..just need the agreement signed and then I can move on

Velvet that's awful. I have no idea why DC somtimes just don't see it, get it or care about anything. Fwiw we care, a lot.

Kin sorry you're having a shit time too, and Ike. Let's hope tomorrow is a re-boot.

Thank you Velvet, Bant OWW Kirsty and anyone I've missed out for being kind. At least I will get to buy my choice of cake and eat it.

Hope things get better tomorrow velvet it sounds rubbish. I can't give any parenting advice but just you look after yourself. This will pass

I feel bit rubbish but trying not to. Ruggers hasn't been in touch today. I started to like him. Silly me, should of realised that happy things like dating and relationships are for other people and not me. First man I have actually wanted to meet up with in ages. Lesson learnt!!

Jules happy birthday!!!

Oh, Velvet that is terrible - my one DS can be a bit like that - impossible to find a punishment that "gets" to him - to have 2 like that - yikes! They will grow up.
We here on Dating Thread 54 care, but I know RL caring would be better.
Update on this evening's date with Meet Up guy - the good news is now I know I could sleep with him - uncertain previously.
Pressed him a bit to get more personal & open up a bit. His default mode is a bit hail fellow well met, but as I said to him we can only talk about the weather so long, IYSWIM.Gave some background on previous relationships, marriage, etc which suggests a reasonable amount of experience. A good outing. Bring on Sat - I am getting rather excited!

News Just In...

POF is getting rid of IE, and emails with sexual references will not be sent

Ugh, I have utterly failed at catching up, despite the extra time today! hmpf.

Not pleased with PoF ditching IE either I liked it when the need kicked in

ah well

Velvet...

Juliette - you enjoy that cake! which kind are you gonna go for?

Oh and forgot my Monday update - 6 weeks no smoking, 19lb lost! 1lb of it this week, pretty good considering the weekends alcohol levels

Not looking forward to tomorrow... DD in hosp to have four teeth out under GA as one of them is awkward. poor thing. :(

emails with sexual references? This is going to be amusing. You'll still get them about people wanting to roger you up the doodaa, but you'll never get invited out for c*ktails - or for that matter you'll never hear from anyone in Sc*thorpe.

Not necessarily a bad thing, that last one

What is IE in POF? I feel thick.