This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

Ike I can take you in his local, love

I read the last thread and was going to post but it all moved along rather quickly.
But hello to everyone, old and new.

Happy Birthday to velvet

As for me Ironman is home, everything is great and we are talking about moving in together before too long.

OWW he does sound very promising, the name thing is slightly irksome but hopefully he can triumph over that with the force of his marvellousness I'm not mentioning the wedding, fuck the wankfaced twat and his miniscule, inconsequential life . I hope the party is devoid of arguments/tears/screeching ( yeah, I know but the thought is there )

I'm going to give it to tomorrow and then okc man is going to feel the force of the flirt.

Hi grinchie that sounds fantastic!!

Hello Grinchie - awww, that's really lovely, I'm very pleased for you

I say, good girl Kin

Velvet double sleep has to mean a good night then

Snape I feel for you with DC, it's just so relentlessly fucking hard to deal with.

Ginchie fantastic news for you and Ironman, I wish you every happiness with him

Bill sorry you're feeling 'meh', it's just another phase and it will pass. Are you still going to take some time out from work?

Flipper it sounds like you know what's best for you at the moment, you never know you may feel differently in a while.

Django OD does seem to be famine or feast...

Kirsty yay for Rocky's change of plans, he does seem rathe keen for a man who want's casual .

Juliette that is terrifyingly accurate

Juliette I know there are very mixed signals .. I am however taking him at his word

What's happening with you and Dutch?

Kirsty DS exams now so I'm off again in 3 weeks. Dutch was happy to come here but I don't want to impose a new man under the same roof as DS this early. At his place it is easy and we can have sex all over the freedom of his house and garden.

DS1 a lot calmer today, it's difficult, I want to be there all the time and I can't....and arguably that wouldn't be particularly healthy either. Think he just needs to know that he's very loved and I can't always make things better, but he can always talk to me he's such a gentle wee soul. He has five or six very light scratches on his forearm where he's attempted cutting. Nowhere near his wrist, which is where he'd told me he'd cut himself. He has a psych appointment on Monday anyway...

No concrete date for the nameless vs. DCs summit. It'll be a Sunday afternoon when he's feeling well enough to get on a train, no need to plan, a text will suffice (we don't ever really do much on a Sunday) he's not worried at all (this is because he's ridiculously laid back) I'm going to arrange them on the facing side of the kitchen table. Like dragons den. Hehehehe.

Grinchie Fantastic

Snape So sorry you are having stuff with your DS. It can be so bloody hard.

My night out went a bit pear shaped. The driver started drinking [mad] No way was I getting in the car, so sent Mr R&R an SOS. He came to my rescue. The night ended very well

Waves to rest of thread.

R&R is just so R&R .

Snape I have a feeling all will be well, remember it's a big deal to you, not quite so much to the kids and Nameless because he doesn't realise the power of single parent DC is very relaxed so DC will pick up on that.

Django I have a sort of date tonight in that Meet Up guy & I are rendezvousing ( is that a word?) at a music venue tonight organised as a group outing. Cover band, apparently. I don't normally do this, so when place gets to crowded & my teeth hurt from the noise. We can leave & do some of the " lingering" he alluded to last night.
The whole Rules thing can be overdone - like you are basically supposed to sit there stone-faced and NEVER contact him, but I think a little gentle encouragement helps at the right time. Also,Miranda if you & he are happy with frequency, text away! Personally I find masses of texts a hassle, and then there's like "see you soon " "ok, babe", " you, too" etc, etc, I mean, when does it end!

I'm going on a mate date tonsee Fast & Furious 6. Her mum has agreed to watch her daughter so film and food for us.

A mate date is better then no date

I haven't read the rules but saw a programme about it. I think it says to not go too overboard in the beginning of a relationship so as not to scare a guy off. Let them come to you etc. I agree with that, at the beginning.

I'm all loved up again!

Velvet was your birthday, yesterday? Did you hear from C, at all? He should have wished you happy birthday, if he knew about it.

Happy birthday velvet loving the sound of a mojito or 4!!!

Big hello to everyone else. Just reading, nothing of note to report!

Velvet happy birthday for yesterday :)

SPs a mate date is definitely better than no date! I now have a friend coming over for wine this evening so that's good. Moan, enjoy the lingering if it happens!

Have been sobbing on and off re SF all day, I'm quite gobsmacked by how sad I am about him leaving, even though it was very much ad hoc, no strings, and destined to end sooner or later anyway. I have therefore learned that FWB isn't the way forward for me any time soon!

Snape I agree that all you can do for your DS is be there for him and ensure he knows that - sorry he is having such a difficult time. My DS has very low self esteem and it's a battle to keep him afloat a lot of the time. But he does come and talk now and again so at least we have open channels of communication.

I've just got back from a late lunch 2nd date.

He seems like a really nice man - decent, polite, respectful, complimentary, keen. Good company - we chatted comfortably for 3hrs. From what I know of him he'd probably be really good bf material.... but I just don't fancy him. He's quite overweight, and I feel shallow - I'm built on curvy lines myself.... but although we had a kiss, I felt no urge to drag him home and dtd.

He's keen to know where things are going, I did say I liked him but wasn't sure anything more than friends. Do people ever start fancying someone after a while?

Splish - I seem to remember Snape didn't fancy nameless on the first date. It seems fairly common for things to grow

Splish he sounds worth another meeting, at least? I'm very looks-driven but can be won over by compliments and attention.... Meeting him again doesn't mean you've made a commitment to him, yet.

Whatever you decide, glad you had a nice afternoon today anyway :)

On saying that, if the kiss wasn't up to much, that's maybe a bit of a deal breaker anyway....

Splish I'm in the same boat but I've flipping complicated things by dtd! I had a date last night with a lovely scouse guy, it's the 5th time we've met. No attraction on my part, he's a bit overweight which is so fickle of me to say but I just don't fancy him. However, he's lovely and I'm really trying not to go for the usual type (my type = bastard). I got drunk last night and stayed over at his, dtd - it was crap. He wanted so much to make me happy but I just wasn't feeling it! To make matters worse he called me his girlfriend this morning, aargh!

I feel so guilty but I don't want to be anyone's gf yet. I'm meeting a hot 25 yr old on wed - I've turned into an evil cow and don't know how to fix it all!