This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

[JulietteMontague]

All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

Yeehaa.. Rocky's climbing weekend has been cancelled so he told me he was free tomorrow after all ..I want to go to the gym and do a few things ( pick up contact lenses and get shoes heeled (woo hoo) so have told him I won't be free till 6 .. I am kicking myself as I wanted to go and see the great Gatsby tomorrow .. Should have said 7 ..

ike you crack me up

Waves to everyone else

Bant Go for the beard. I am a big fan of facial hair. The more the merrier I reckon. Beards are fantastic

Velvet Happy birthday!

Cherry Yay for great first date. Wonderful

Well in case anyone is following my saga, he told me 'I love you' last night . I'm so glad I waited for him to say it first. He had been wanting to say it for a while, same as me. So it's now officially a love thing

Morning all. I have been up since 6am...combination of hangover and the fact I was asleep by 11pm last night! (and as I normally average about 4b hours sleep, 7 hours is AGES!).

Anyways...and I know I will miss lots of people out, so and a lovely Saturday to you all :)

Western details re Match man...you can't just leave us hanging! Also what's the score with Mr No Photo, did he respond (sorry if you said and I missed it in my hungover read-through!)

Snape mixed with being ever so pleased for you re general Nameless-loveliness. :( re DS1 though, hope he's a little better today. Did you ever get any help from the CAMHS people? It's so hard when they are this age I think, so many conflicting emotions, finding their place in the world etc, and schools can be pretty brutal environments at times.

....my DS1 (15 in August) has inherited my tendency to selfharm through overeating :( and I know in his case it all boils down to not having a dad. Which sometimes makes me think that my assumption all those years ago that I could bring him up fine on my own was possibly a little over optimistic, and perhaps more borne out of my own selfishness in wanting someone to love....gosh, that's all getting a bit deep for this time in the morning!

Scumbag (seems so wrong calling you that!) so glad you got the 'I love you' and that he said it first!

I am now off to start the housework/laundry/supermarket shop ritual...may well take longer now I am 41! catch you all later :)

Morning everyone, there must be something in the air Velvet, I slept for 9 hours last night actually it's because I was drunk on Thursday night and didn't sleep properly and I'm getting on a bit

I'm not going to even attempt to mention everyone by name, I'll get all mixed up and make a right tit of myself, so it's a big 'hello' from me.

OWW Velvet is right, we need details.

Snape I'm really sorry to hear your ds is having a hard time again, witnessing one's child's distress is a terrible thing - is he doing exams at the moment ?

I have been given a load of stars on okc by a man who (a) lives reasonably nearby (b) appears to be attractive, funny and literate (c) has 'Nora's Type' printed in enormous fluorescent letters on his forehead and (d) has a genuinely amusing user name and (e) has another fucking beard, it's an epidemic I've favourited him, and if he doesn't message me, I think I'm going to contact him. This is verrrrrrry unusual.

Also, I saw Star Trek yesterday and I'm going to marry Captain Kirk, just so's you all know.

Happy birthday velvet.. Have a great day

Good morning! I fancy a 'me' post this morning, so please know that I am thinking about you all, just having a self-indulgent moment.

I have just spent 20 minutes on the phone, tracking down a parcel, which I can now collect on Tuesday. Any activity this early on a Saturday is alien to me (spot the childless one on the thread).

Wedding Snogger has offered no strings fun. My libido is tempted, but I know I can't do that without getting attached, so I have declined, which is a shame, because I'm pretty sure he knows how to make very good Coffee.

Flirty married friend has had to be firmly put back in his box, after becoming too flirty. This has also pissed off the libido, as I suspect he makes strong Coffee.

Mr Walking (from over New Year) has been quite chatty again, and very complimentary, but he's still not for me. One of doubts about him was that he hadn't got his shit together from his divorce, though, and he seems to have done that now. Coffee was always tepid.

I've exchanged messages with a couple of 'nice enoughs' on pof and OKC. This was mostly spurred on by my libido, but as that's now sulking, I'm lacking motivation.

Nora, where will this wedding be? Am I going to have to travel forever to get there? I need to plan my annual leave.

That all sounds very unsatisfactory Flipper - is there no way you can do the wedding snogger without getting attached ? ( I'd be very tempted )

My wedding with James Tiberius will be held on the Enterprise (and our marriage will be vigorously consummated later in his big chair, until he cannae tek any more ) we'll transport you all aboard, don't worry about the travelling.

Morning all.

Seems like lots of us are struggling with OD at the moment. I'm feeling like it's a complete waste of time, in my patch at least.

Was back on POF last night after I heard that my lovely fit young SF is having to move away to find work - sob! I wouldn't chance making contact with another young un so that's my quota of super-fit buff-ness finished with, I reckon. sob! Anyway got chatting to one new potential, but either he wasn't interested or was extremely dull. Basic responses to my attempts to ask questions about what he had written in his profile. Everyone else I saw on there last night was a woman-hater or about 20 years older than they were admitting to.

Oh well, there's always real life. No nights out for the next 3 weeks though. Sob!

Can you tell I'm feeling sorry for myself and completely self-indulgent? I hate feeling like that!

Plus it's pouring with rain.

Does anyone have a date tonight, so I can feel excited for you instead?!

Morning Django, it's rubbish when OD gets like that ( and it happens quite often ), I still maintain that it's cyclic, like there's some kind of weird pattern to it all so in a couple of weeks you'll be contacted by 3 halfway decent prospects in the one night.

Bloody hell well are you lot like...up chatting till all hours...I should have had a word with the pissed dj to make a sound track for you...am sure she could of squeezed in a bit of Queens for you.

Went to a birthday party last night extremely reminiscent of something from phoenix nights ...great fun, cheap booze plus some delicious authentic thai food food alongside the sausage rolls.

what are...sigh...need to put contacts in...

Happy Birthday Velvet!

Morning everyone :)

Am in London for the 5th day in a row and I get to go home tonight :) looking forward to romantic reunion on the station. Sort of counts as a date I think .

When's nameless meeting your DC snape?

Is there something wrong with texting 10 times a day and doing good morning and goodnight texts? Neither Mr Nice nor I have read The Rules though so it is probably OK that we text a lot :)

....have to say I love a working men's club I do...my mate even copped off with a rugby player Velv...

oh yeah Happy barfday my lil lover..x

I just can't Nora. I can do ONS, no problem, but anything more and emotions get involved. Isn't that daft? I should really be thinking more along the lines of 'if I'm going to just have fun, it should at least be with someone I am friends with and trust'. I will have to think about this. A big part of me thinks I should just do it, and toughen up, but stuff is going on at work now which is making me feel vulnerable anyway, so it's not the right time.

Ike, does the pissed dj have any Stone Roses? I've had Going Down on repeat in the car for a week now. I think I may have inadvertently given the libido control of the CD player.

Yep...I an sort you some Stone Roses Flip...I myself am looking forward to 'made of Stone' biopic. And yep you guys have guessed correctly ...there was thai food cos one of the thai wives made it...think I might have to look into a 'package' hol myself......

Aww, Miranda, romantic meetings at stations are the stuff of movies! And I think text frequency is only of concern before you're actually in a relationship.

Ooops just outed myself as the pissed dj there....well wadddya know???? I am the reserrection though Flip, so what does that tell you about me?????

Flipper, I always think that in the sexy time stakes you should just do whatever is right for you, I'd give my right arm to be able to shag with impunity - turns out that I just can't do it, it's not for me and if you're feeling doubts about shagging him then trust your natural inclinations, don't be fretting about 'toughening up'

As for work, what's going on ? It goes without saying that I feel your pain, bad times.

Ike I really must take you back oop north with me one time, you could go working men's clubs crazeeeee.

Yeah Kin ...I might even ind Mark E Smith in one of em....

Good morning everyone

Snape so sorry to hear about your troubles. Have been there myself, one of the most difficult things I've had to deal with. Hugs to you and your ds and I hope things get better.

Flipper I can see why you don't think it's a good idea - maybe take it as a bit of an ego boost and move on? Very wise not getting involved in something you know won't work for you.

Bill hope you are feeling a bit less meh today. Exes huh! And Django as well, it does all get a bit dispiriting but that can all change very quickly.

Have you heard anything back from your OKC pash Nora? Not much to tell about my one but I feel quite encouraged. Nice normal messaging, very local which would be wonderful logistically, funny, complimentary, big reader, not an engineer ... Same name as LM but that is ok. Couldn't date someone with the same name as Titto, never say his name even in real life. Hoping for a bit more chat with him tonight, will definitely meet him when he asks. Still got Mr Rebound chatting but he's not for me. No photo, no message from the other one so I don't think we will hear any more there. Date tomorrow with the last of the engineers, no real enthusiasm but you never know. I will go and have a drink and a chat and hopefully a laugh. Bit worried, though, as there have been a few texts on the subject of motorbikes and trains. Oh well.

Got all the birthday party food ready and it's only ten o'clock! Keeping busy to stop thinking about the wedding from hell which I think is today.