How often does your DH text/call in the day?

[HeyBabyBaby]

I'm currently at home with our 10 month old baby. DH leaves at 7:00am, normally back past 7:30pm. Yesterday DH sent me at text at 5:30pm, saying he's had a busy day and didn't have a chance to call and would be home later than usual. He then calls at 7pm (I've just put baby down and in the midst of preparing our dinner) saying hi and I said I was annoyed that he'd not called during the day, even just for a couple of mins. He then said 'great, this is how the evening is going to be?', 'you're just having a go at me', then we said good bye. He got back home and then just launched into me saying how I don't understand and I was being so unreasonable, then got angry that he didn't have a shirt ironed (he normally irons his shirts and didn't do them on the weekend). I couldn't be bothered having an arguement, so went straight to bed. I worked in a busy job and am currently on mat leave, but if he was at home all day on his own looking after a baby, I would call at least once a day.

What do you think?

Not at all. I can get through the day without speaking to him. Seems pointless when I can simply say what I need when I see him. If its something that need to be said there and then, then yes he would text but not that pointless irritating love you hun hows ur day kind of schmulz.

exactly nothingsleft - maternity leave is very busy time - im too busy to speak to anyone. we speak in the morning + in the evening so not much to say to him in the day - unless something really funny happens or a disaster happens. (yes i do know i am on mumsnet so dont appear to be busy - but am typing wth 1 hand whilst other hand burps baby)

I never speak to my DH on the phone during the work day - he often forgets to charge the stupid thing anyway! He's permanantly attached to email though so I'll sometimes send him a message if I need to show him something or ask a question. We see each other every morning and most evenings so that's enough.

I avoid ironing everything as a generally as a rule but DH's clothes are his own responsibility.

Agree about the ironing. He does all his own clothes (and mine) - the only thing I am 'expected' to do during ML (other than look after our little boy) is tidy the kitchen. As in do the washing up and wipe down surfaces. BUT if it wasn't done he wouldn't kick up a fuss/ he'd understand.

If you're on maternity leave then your husband isn't working to support you, your employer is. I think being on maty leave is more tiring with less time for stuff that requires full attention 2 hands and no nearby crawling babies like ironing than if you are a SAHM of kids at school or nursery.