The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

[Mouseface]

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing .

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a . Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

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[casawasa]

Sigh climbs back on bus. I need your help again fellow passengers.

[1stepforward]

are you still up casawasa? tell us about what;s happened. Are you okay?

[greeneyed]

Well 4.20 am is a bit of an early start to the bank holiday! Good luck babes today, hope you find some peace and happiness this weekend x

[ohcluttergotme]

Morning babes. Wishing everyone well. Mouse hope you have a lovely weekend with your boy & your family. MA thinking of you & hope things work out ok with your brother.

I've got my leaving do from my old job today. Have decided I'm going to drink half shandies. More to fit in, & so the afternoon is not focused around everyone trying to say go on have a drink, why not etc etc.
feel ok about having a few half shandies & as a 3pm start will be acceptable to make my excuses at a reasonable time.

Wishing all babes strength for today x

[eminemmerdale]

Hi all - sorry to have abandoned you - I have seriously damaged my knees running (bloody fool) spent the last week hobbling about in tears, have had x-rays (nothing showed up) and am finally on some fabulous pain killers which are just superb!!! I hve to have blood tests next week now as doctor is baffled :( I only did three c25k sessions!! Anyway, I have had 'a few', I won't lie - Friday and Saturday lst week - three cansof cider (sounds awful!) each night, and last night 2 cans - but that has been it and I'm very proud. Ma, just been following your story - I hopw you find him :( Hope everyone has a good day xx

[jango36]

Hi all. Day 11 here!! But tough day today as its sat!.. At work all day so got a distraction.. The real fight starts when wall back in the door:;(.. Need techniques babes:)). Ma thinking of you and the bro situation . Hope it's resolved today positively. Sending good vibes to all you babes for day ahead xx

[lonnika]

Hi day 5 - going to buy the Allan Carr book. Would like to say a huge thanks to MIFLAW - have read all of thread one an two. His advic really resonates with me and JWN (what an inspiration).
I am not drinking today x :)))
keep up,the good work all

[Fairenuff]

Where is JWN these days? Are you out there being fabulous, or whizzing around in your new motor like Toad of Toad Hall

Give us a shout, lovely.

[Mouseface]

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Lonni - great news that you are getting the book and that MIFLAW (where is that boy?) and JWN have both helped you to get to day 5, that's a huge achievement and one that only an alcoholic or someone who drinks excessively to cover things up, blot out pain, emotional or physical, would ever understand. Keep going, if the book works for you then fantastic. Keep posting and let us know how you get on with it please? Good luck :) xx

Ma - any news? I know it's early and that maybe you've got other things to sort but please post as soon as you know anything? Massive love and Huggles? (as Nemo says) to you xxxx

Isinde - I am NOT happy that you didn't look like a Badger's arse when you came here!! Nor did you have your Doc's on or your short sleeved checked shirt, with the sleeves rolled up extra short showing off your dykey tatts..... I hope you have a lovely weekend, tis raining here!! After being scorching and me getting a tanned cleavage it's now like winter again!

Nemo's not great either.... he if full of a cold or hayfever? And his little nose keeps bleeding. Poor wee dude.

Anway, lots to do, best get dressed, etc, etc..... as much as I'd love to go out shopping in my PJs, I do think I'll get some 'looks'

Be back later gorgeous Babes xx

[dementedma]

indie spoils the butch image by having lovely girly curls
No word from bro. Am giving him this morning to surface and then dh and I are getting access to his flat this afternoon to see if he's there.
If no sign or clue to where he is, will report him missing I think.
Am off out for a run to burn off the teeny weeny dessert I had last night......

[fullofhopefullness]

I am back on day 1. Just reread 1st thread and found myself really cheering on jwn and praying she could keep going. Thats while realising that I cant! I found it I inspiing me again and im hoping to do better again. Reminder to reread allan carr. Between all of these things (including this thread and all of you) im back to fullofhope. Also hoping that jwn doing ok still??

[fullofhopefullness]

Just done first run in bout a year and really enjoyed it. Also had knee and ankle injuries its v hard on those. Maybe nedd to start v slowly em with walks mixed with slow run before building up?

[babyjane1]

ion I have a spare copy of the Alan Carr book, they sent me 2, if you PM me your address I will send it to you on Tuesday x x x

[babyjane1]

ma please let us know how things go today, really and truly thinking of you xxxx

[PurpleWolfe]

Sorry - Not alcohol related.

Just had DS2 (7) read the book Mum And Dad Glue with me. For those that are new, my son has been struggling with his father and my separation (over 2 and a half years ago) I'm in tears. DS2 seems fine!!

Just in case anyone else has recently gone through a split and has a small, confused, upset child......

My mum and dad are broken
I don't know what to do
My mum and dad have come undone
I need to find some glue

I need a pot of parent glue
To stick them back together
I need to patch their marriage up
I need to make them better

I need to stick their smiles back on
I need to get them mended
I need them to be mum and dad
The way they were intended

They used to kiss and cuddle
But now they tut and sigh
They're breaking up, they're breaking up!
Am I the reason why?

They both say don't be silly
That no one is to blame
Although it's not worked out for them
They love me just the same

My friends say not to worry
My friends say I'll be fine
Lots of parent separate
But no, no, no! Not mine!

I need a pot of parent glue
I need to find some fast
I need to make them whole again
I need to make them last

I'm standing in the glue shop
As far as I can see
There's every glue that you could want
Unless that you is me

There's glue for model aeroplanes
There's glue for plates and drawers
There's glue for paper, glue for wood
There's super fast and super strong
There's tubes and pots and tins
Where every row of wrong glue starts
Another one begins

The owner of the glue shop
Asks what my glue is for
And when she hears my answer
She softly shuts the door

She puts her arm around me
And says it's time to see
That sometimes life works out this way
That what must be must be

I need to look beyond the break
I need to think ahead
I need to see that families
Can live apart instead

The more I hold together
The more I'm super strong
The more I'll come to terms with things
The less it will seem wrong

The way we were is over now
It's time for us to change
It's no one's fault, there is no blame
And yes, it does seem strange

But there's one thing to remember
And this should mean a lot
My parents may be broken
But their love for me is not

Their love for me will never break
It's chip and shatter free
It also comes with something else
A life-time guarantee

I thank her for her kindness
And turn towards the door
I wave to the adhesives
And leave with so much more

If mum and dad could mend themselves
They would have done by now
The will, the should, the must is there
What's missing is the how

Yes, I have been hurting
Yes it feels unfair
But sometimes love gets damaged
Way beyond repair

I pull my life together
And smile as I depart
I need to make the best of things
There is no glue for hearts

Please don't tell me I'm the only soppy moo to cry at this?! xxxxx

[Mouseface]

Baby - that is a really nice thing to do :) I'm a huge believer in paying it forward :) xx

Ma - teeny dessert? If you are anything like me, you'd have made the desert count!!

Good luck with Richard, I'm so scared for you..... not knowing. God bless you all xx

[babyjane1]

purple I have went through the same scenario so that poem actually made me cry, absolutely beautiful. mouse pay it forward is a wonderful concept, I live my life by it, have you seen the movie? Talking of paying it forward the best book I ever read is called " A Thousand Splendid Suns" if any of you babes haven't read it, please do, it's amazing xxxxx

[PurpleWolfe]

Ma Thinking of you. x

[dementedma]

OK update
Got into his flat. He was there, in bed, fully dressed, shit faced and alive, if only just. He was confused, asked how we got in, tried a few jokes and "oh god I've done it again" but it doesn't wash with me any more.
Tore a strip off him but its pointless. He couldn't remember how much he's had to drink said "lots", he hasn't eaten for a week, fridge has some out of date sandwiches and half a tin of beans. Unwashed, unshaven. Said he was alright but when I said " no you're not alright" he began to cry. I hugged him and then he pushed me away and said to go away and leave him. Said he just wanted to sleep. I went and bought some food - bread, soup, bananas, lucozade, chocolate, cheese - and left it for him. Gave the key back to the barman in the pub downstairs ( who I used to go to school with) and told him Richard had mental health problems and he said I can have the key anytime. So what do I do now? I can't help him, can't fix him, and he can't fix himself. I don't want mum to have him back, she can't cope.
Who will help him? If he was epileptic for example or asthmatic, I would have taken him to hospital, told them he had had an attack and he would be treated. But an "attack" of drinking, being pissed? Who cares?
I think I need to get social services involved, report him as a vulnerable adult in the community, but I don't known if I can do that. He is like a walking skeleton.... Fuck, I don't know what to do

[eminemmerdale]

mental health crisis team? they may be willing to go ansd assess him. I'm so sorry :(

[lonnika]

Ma I don't know what to say - I hope he can get some help soon :( I agree with calling SS in - saying a prayer for your brother x

[PurpleWolfe]

Thank goodness you went in when you did Ma. I agree with Koti, you need to call in some outside help - you can't do this on your own. x