The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

[Mouseface]

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing .

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a . Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

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[dementedma]

he lives locally
have texted him again asking if ok - still no answer....
If no response, will go round at weekend and see if he is there.
got a real horrible feeling about this..

[babyjane1]

clutter that's a great idea, will discuss this tonight, never tried a rota but sometimes things written down carry more weight, thanks babe x x x ma this is a dreadful situation for you to be in, I truly hope everything is ok, warm hug coming your way x x x

[obrigada]

Ma, hope Richard is ok:(

[Orchidlady]

Morning all, another spectacular fail last night, too much Red wine and Whiskey. Still not feeling so bad this morning, Other than panicking as found wobbly tooth, oh god I am going to end up toothless old hag. mouse hope all goes well with dr, the more you talk about your symptoms seems more likely diabetes. It is all about carb control if it is. Keeping fingers crossed for you

[aliasjoey]

ma can you go tonight and put your mind at rest?

[Lemonylemon]

Afternoon ladies...

mouse didn't think you'd appreciate that little story Glad that nemo had a wonderful day. Your DD is so lovely too.

ma keeping my fingers crossed for your brother.

Everyone else: Onwards and upwards. Stay strong. x

Day 4 here.

[dementedma]

ok, his curtains are drawn and not answering door. DH has been round and hammered on it. Barman in nearby pub says last saw him on Tuesday!
Dh will go round again this afternoon.

[Orchidlady]

ma I don't know your story re DB but you sound upset. Is it likely he could have gone away? if you have real cause for concern, maybe go to police. Sorry I can't be more helpful.

[obrigada]

Is it rented flat Ma? Any chance of contacting landlord?

[PurpleWolfe]

Ma It really might be time to get the police involved if DH can't get an answer. Praying there is another obvious answer. Hugs. xxxxxxx

[Theala]

It does sound like time for the police, Ma. Sorry.


Thanks for the welcome (back) guys. Dp came around last night after I posted and has said he still loves me and wants to sort things out. So we'll see what happens there.

I'm home alone this evening as he's away. I was meant to be going to a friend's house, but I know I'd just end up drinking too much with him, and I'm already exhausted and I have a lot on tomorrow, so I've cancelled. I have a good book and a lot of green tea instead.

[Mouseface]

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Fucking hell Ma, what a complete shit bag worry he is. I'm sorry but I'm livid on your behalf, I KNOW that you love him, I KNOW that he is your brother but look at what he's doing to YOU and your family. He's selfish and irresponsible and I am sick and tied of reading the hurt, the worry, the anger and the absolute terror in your posts so can't begin to understand how you feel.

Ma - I care so much about you and your family, Richard is slowly destroying you all and himself. It's heart breaking, and seems to be up to you to deal with all of this, I'm sorry that you are going through such uncertain times, day in day out not knowing where he is, who he's with and how he feels? It's shocking, it's horrid and terrifying for you all.

I hope with all of my heart that he is safe, alive and well enough to get through this current drinking binge. He is a very sobering reality for us all....... much love to you all Ma. Please keep posting xxxx

[lonnika]

Hi all and thanks for the welcomes - I am on day 4 whoop whoop !!!! - A bit of background I think I am a habitual drinker and following a health scare 5 weeks ago I decided to evaluate my life and cut down on drinking. I have done that but since finding and reading this thread amongst others I have decided to stop altogether :)) I want to be fit and healthy :)). Excited about the future - have a real goal to aim for - I AM NOT DRINKING TODAY :)
Good luck to all

[dementedma]

Thanks all. Bless you mouse for getting how it feels.
I'm telling myself it could just be his phone isn't working, or he's away for a few days...don't want to be melodramatic. I can get access to the flat tomorrow when I can get hold of the landlord. I will do that if no response tonight. If he's' there I will deal with it whatever state he is in. If he isn't there is he a missing person? How many days before an adult is considered missing?
orchid lady thank you. My brother is an alcoholic. Nuff said.

[ruralreynard]

Ma thinking of you. Hope you manage to contact your brother tonight.
If not access to the flat tomorrow sounds good and should lead to some answers.
Sort of want to say he's probably OK as I have late 20's son who is alcoholic and he does that sort of thing all the time.
Having said that he scares me to death and I think the worst until I speak to him again, so sort of know what its like iyswim.
isinde thanks for remembering me great to see you here.
mouse you know I think you are wonderwoman, hope all is well with you today.
Still drinking, life with not so dear husband still just that.
Will get back on the bus soon and so jealous of you sober babes.
Keep going ODAAT.

[Mouseface]

Ma - if he has not been seen for 24 and you are concerned then yes, after 24 hours, he is a missing person. You have every reason to report him as such and of you feel he is in danger MUST DO SO.

The police have a duty of care, alcoholic or not to make sure that he is safe.

Hang on a mo...............

[greeneyed]

ma you poor thing :( . I hope to goodness things are okay. Assume DH is coming with you tomorrow. How's your mum?

[Mouseface]

Ma - Have a look HERE

And HERE TOO, IT's NOT 24 HOURS

Sorry Ma - it's not 24 anymore, so do what you have to. Lots of love, prayers and thoughts for you my lovely xxx

[aliasjoey]

Right it is a MYTH that you have to wait before calling the police about a missing adult. Depending on the circumstances (illness, mental health, age) the police will investigate immediately.

Sorry, I just read that stupid myth in a book yesterday, and think it's so irresponsible for an author to write something which so many readers may believe.

[aliasjoey]

Sorry, hope that didn't come across as rude, I meant the author was stupid and irresponsible.

And x-posted with mouse

[Mouseface]

IF you have the slightest concern, esp with Richard's background you can contact the police. xx

[Mouseface]

Right, I'm offski.

Ma - you have my number if you need anything. Are you okay?

Sleep well Babes, busy day tomorrow. Cake making for Nemo and cleaning ready for when my mother arrives :)

Be safe xxxxx

[dementedma]

I'm OK. Been out for a meet up with the lovely venus and the roughasabadgersarse equally lovely indie
No word from Richard. Flat was in darkness when I went past on way home. Will find him tomorrow - one way or another

[greeneyed]

Thinking of you Ma

[venusandmars]

Sleep well ma