The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing .

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a . Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

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FIRST EVER THREAD

Full - darling, it's a long way off, July, in Babeland. We can help you but you need to have a rational head on. You're in shock, you're scared and you have no idea what to do, you feel helpless and alone.

You're not, you have US. Okay, maybe we are just pages of waffle to you on a screen but we are here.

You have rights, as an employee, as a human being, you have help out there, we just need to get it to you and you to it.

Do you have anyone that you can call and talk this through?

PM me if you want, I'm up for a while yet.

We're here for you xxxxx

Hello Purps darling, how are YOU?? xx

Glad you poseted Full.Right, missus. This is not the end of the world. Big corporations don't care about people. Small corporations usually don't care about people. In face, most employers don't really give a shit about their employees when push comes to shove. So, first things first, stop taking this personally. It's not a slight against you as a person, it's just convenient financially for them.

Now, you have until July. That gives you two months, right? That's enough breathing space to start getting things sorted. Arre they offering a redundancy package? You said before that you were going to get on to your union, have you done that? Can you set aside some time this weekend to start brushing up your CV?

I know it feels terrible and like the sky the falling down right now, but believe me, you can get through this and come out the other side stronger and in a better position. And you won't be working for those bullying bastards anymore, which has got to be a massive boom to your life, right?

boom? boon. ahem.

Ma - that news about Richard has made my week! My month! What a fantastic post to read, he will be safe, clean, nourished and most of all, in recovery with the support that he needs so very much xxxx

Not nice

Hi gorgeous Mouse Doing fucking awful at the mo'. Beating myself up on a regular basis. Just can't seem to get the strength together to give this stupid, bastard addiction the heave-ho right now. Despite the shit - had a fab weekend - as you know! [smile[ Maybe tomorrow........? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi mouse and theala I cant think around my options yet I dontbthink I want to work again after this. Dont know what to do. Have no money because paying for kids uni. Dont need much but still. Seeing union girl tomorrow. Supposed to have big meeting in morning but cant go. Its just v depressing after much work and motivation. I think I want union to get me best tetms and then walk away.

Had thought originally to fight on but seems i cant!

theala that's a great post, I hope fullof reads it.

ma I will NEVER make fun of the Sally Army again, how fantastic that they are doing this.

purple do you need to talk, or are you just getting by on autopilot?

Nite nite

Thanks for the lovely hug Joey. I just feel like I spout the 'same old, same old' crap. It bores me - it must bore everyone else! Positive stuff = mowed the front and the back friggin' lawns. How I hate mowing!! Not-so-positive stuff= drinking way too much

Hello Brave Babes,

Well it looks like I have got through day 2. The WW was calling but I managed ok. I'm in bed with a hot chocolate again.

See you all tomorrow

full try and get some sleep darling and we'll be here tomorrow again to talk, ok? we're not giving up on you so don't you dare give up on yourself.

Thank you for all of the well wishes re me and Nemo

IsinDe - hello lovely, long time no speak! Or so it feels.... no DH is not an option. You know when you think you're going to die because of the pain your guts are in? That was me this morning. Cold as ice, sweating, head in potty, bottom on loo..... and DH? Sighing because I was/am still a bit ill.

Why can't men/partners do wives being ill? Patience of a gnats hairy nad!!

Nemo update - he is in our bed, I am going there too shortly after losing several pounds today. -> I am that colour.

Big School is tough currently with the transition of him moving over in September and he picks up on my anxieties so is even more uber clingy. They want to get him in FT NOW. I said no fucking way not just yet thank you, which means they don't get their dollar now, hmm, shame. See for me, it's about my SON COPING WITH DAY TO DAY LIFE IN BIG SCHOOL.

We have a statement review in a couple of weeks, he's developed a lisp and has also changed the way he says some words. I had a meeting with his teacher who is so scared as to what everything means......... it's all so fucking hard. The last thing I need is illness for me right now. Tick tock and all that!!

So, that's where I have been, sorry lovelies.

Dame - that cheese was lush, I shall be moving in with you if you have stashes like that! Seriously, you and I have been talking via PM re my hormentals and my horrid periods or lack of them etc... I have taken on board what you've said and will talk to my GP again next week :) xx

Right, I have no doubt x posted with all of you, night night Babes. I look forward to getting to know Shaky, Phoenix, and Kitty as we move forward on our journey xxx

Take care all, stay safe and sleep well. xx

purps sorry to hear you so down on yourself as well. have a hug from me too. good work on the lawns though! the last time i mowed a lawn, i hit a rock and the blade went flying off and nearly hit my dad. (i was only 10 at the time.)

shaky very well done to you! hope you're feeling good about yourself and that you get a lovely night's sleep.

alias thank you lovely. hope you're having a good evening.

i really am off to bed now. night babes.

full if you don't feel up to the fight, that's fine. Don't put any more pressure on yourself at the moment. Just find out via your union what they are offering. One step at a time, lovely, one step at a time. We are all here for you.

Purps we will never, ever get bored of hearing the 'same old crap' from anyone. If you can't let it out here, where can you? This bus is a safe, non-judgey place for a rant, a cry, a laugh, a handhold or a slap round the chops - whatever you need

Shaky well done, sounds like you have some good strategies on the go.

Ma absolutely fab news, I really, really hope Richard continues to get the support he needs and deserves. Three cheers for the good old Sally Army.

Hip Hip

Oh dear, I hardly dare post this - writing it down makes it feel real...

I think maybe I have got perimenopause... am in a bit of shock, I was not expecting this, and feel old and tired.

I know it doesn't have to be that way, read positive empowering stories blah blah but just in a bit of shock right now

purple sorry I'm no good at giving advice, but my thoughts are with you

full, is there anyone here that can help by looking over your cv, giving some pointers? Is there some training you'd like to do, I think there may be grants available to aid this. It probably all seems a bit overwhelming at the moment, but we're all here to give you the emotional and practical support we can. Feel free to PM me if I can help xx

Joey - I will PM you all of my symptoms tomorrow and see what you think.

As for now? BED! Sleep is precious, I shall take it whilst I can get it lovely babes xx

Night xx

Night all babes

best wishes and love to curry and fullof, I hope your troubles soon pass. x

Well done to all babes who have fought the WW off again tonight I'm still grateful to be here, sober and happy, so thank you everyone for the support of this lovely bus.

That squid is starting to stink though.

Hi everyone-thanks so much for all good wishes. Im just having to deal with difficult things and didnt mean to worry anyone. Day 7 here anyway!! I didnt block out the stress ! I told it to flood me and do whatever it needed and I didnt die!! Im learning a lot from that and actually feel much better today. I will go speak to union this morning and get advice but there are a couple of bastards that need a good sorting out iukwim! To quote someone-we are where we are:-)

I have reported the "roll call" posts that include fullof, or have tried to.

Fullof - your first one was where you said it yourself, I think mn prefer to delete posts for reasons like this where the person asks for their own post to be deleted so maybe you should report that one. Same if you don't want the same info to stand elsewhere on the thread in other posts of yours. Just click the report button by the thread and explain why.

maybe others could report their own "roll call" posts too so mn might have more sympathy than me reporting others' posts.

Sorry, bad idea. Just to explain, as one of the non-entity posters I thought maybe there could be a way to have a place for everyone where it is easier to respond to all the posters as I know everyone means well but I think people don't respond because they get confused. people keep mixing me up with clutter although we have little in common except for a c and a u near the beginning of our names. New people get welcomed and then forgotten. tired of feeling like I am always losing the popularity contest so thought I would do something more inclusive and proactive than just entering the popularity contest and trying to grab some attention. Or going off feeling terrible and giving up.

Now I have pretty much decided there is no point in being here I am going to say something a bit out of order to isinde - the cheese cravings worry me - and I worry for your dts if they are being brought up vegan. Not everyone can do it and the cravings happen for a reason. It can be very dangerous for children to attempt to be vegan and in some cases adults too. There is a chapter on nutrition in The Vegetarian Myth written by an ex-vegan who has degenerative disc disorder because of it. She writes vividly about the mental health problems that can be caused to poor nutrition because of veganism which really rings true for me - tried it in the 80s. I wouldn't go so far as to say it is bad for everyone, as she does, but I do think the cravings are telling you something. I think that some happy vegans just don't understand that some bodies need animal fats. They think, if I can do it anyone can. not true. Just a thought, please don't be offended.

OK I'm out. I am going to see if there is another place I can get some support, maybe real life, maybe another corner of the internet, maybe there isn't anywhere.