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Last train to Loserville Part 2

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LoserNoMore · 07/04/2013 21:55

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

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Areyoumadorisitme · 18/04/2013 13:43

Glad to hear you've had a good day so far LNM.

I, and I suspect lots of others, am still following your thread and thinking of you but not posting lots as I (luckily for me) haven't got any direct experience to share or help with.

Take care, you are doing brilliantly.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 18/04/2013 14:07

ellenM Ilikeit!

And you 'sound' upbeat. nah, ditch the prescription you dont need them, you have eye candy at the gym! Grin

LilyAmaryllis · 18/04/2013 14:08

Eye candy at the gym! Now that IS cheering!

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LoserNoMore · 18/04/2013 14:42

There's a lot to be said for going to the gym. staring at hotties in shorts is better than any drug

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skyebluesapphire · 18/04/2013 14:46

Although I took AD's as I said upthread, and I did need them to get through the first awful months, I can agree with what SAF said..

my counsellor is now really working through the feelings with me, because they have been suppressed by the anti D's, so 12 months later, I still have strong emotions about what happened to me.... But I did need them at the time, as I simply could not stop crying :(

PyroclasticFlo · 18/04/2013 15:44

Well done you LNM, I was thinking of you today. I went for a swim too - first time in about a month thanks to the school holidays, and swam a whole mile for the first time ever! It does wonders for your mood, doesn't it. Glad you've had a good day and enjoyed the eye candy Wink, good for you. Onwards and upwards my dear Grin.

swallowedAfly · 18/04/2013 16:49

you've all got me considering going swimming tomorrow now! haven't been in ages and am trying to lose weight at the minute. could be a plan.

lazarusb · 18/04/2013 17:30

Well I'm giving skipping a miss - next door has scaffolding up & there are builders all over it. If I fall flat on my face, I'd prefer no witnesses. However, have done some sit-ups today - although the cat decided it would be fun to join in and try to catch my elbow!

LNM - you sound so much better. Enjoy your eye candy Grin

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LoserNoMore · 18/04/2013 19:11

I love swimming, I always feel totally refreshed. When I win the lottery I can't wait to have my own pool!

Well I reactivated my FB this morning just to see what I've missed not a lot . I've just logged in and I have message from an ex colleague saying 'Hi, hope you're ok, rumour has it you're back on the market. Sorry to hear that, well not really ;) If you'd like to meet up for a coffee or something stronger give me a ring xxx'

Oh dear, made me laugh anyway, chancer!

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swallowedAfly · 18/04/2013 19:12

gosh he's a cheeky chap! Shock Grin

MaBumble · 18/04/2013 19:22

Cheeky, but rather a nice ego boost :)

arthriticfingers · 18/04/2013 19:23

well ain't you just hit gold Confused
Sorry, I am a lurker admiring your chutzpah - but was interrupted by chancer ... who the actual f* do these tossers think they are?
As you were NOT NO WAY NOONE'S Loser

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LoserNoMore · 18/04/2013 19:53

What a charmer eh. Think I'm resigning myself to a life on my own if that's all that's out there! Suppose it is a nice ego boost, even if his patter is shit.

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swallowedAfly · 18/04/2013 20:18

flattering maybe but my god the ego and... idiocy of the guy thinking this is appropriate or welcome. sorry to hear your world and that of your children has been blown apart but hey my hopeful cock is happy about it ha ha ha. dickwad.

MaBumble · 18/04/2013 20:42

His timeing is truly awful, absolutly. And I'm not suggesting for one second you take him up on it (I was amazed who and what came crawling out of the wood work when I split up with my ex)

But you are obviously one attractive lady!

cjel · 18/04/2013 20:42

I remember being told by a man that all I needed was a good man and had to get myself back out there as I wouldn't be on my own for long looking like I do????
I haven't been backout there yet and am 18 months on my own and still not sure that all I need is a man!!!

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LoserNoMore · 18/04/2013 20:49

MaBumble, I'm not sure about that! He's a bit if a player, probably looking for another notch on his bedpost.

Cjel, how patronising is that?!

SAF, yeah it's a bit inappropriate isn't it, I won't be replying as tempting as it is.

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lazarusb · 18/04/2013 21:58

My Dad's long term partner died a few years ago. Within 2 months a woman asked him out. He told me he felt physically sick. The next time he saw her he told her what he thought of her!

It's amazing isn't it...he sees it as if you suddenly have a vacancy for a man in your life and he's there, ready to jump in and fill it (sorry for the way that reads!). I'm glad you have better taste than that. Reminds me of the old saying 'I'm might be fed up but I'm not hard up'.

Perhaps you should message him back - 'not even with someone else's bargepole'. Grin

Loulybelle · 18/04/2013 22:03

Steer well clear, it smacks of "Wonder if she'll need sympathy sex", what a chancer.

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LoserNoMore · 18/04/2013 22:30

Lazarus, that's horrible. Some people have no respect.

Yeah loulybelle, doesn't sound like a keeper does he.

I'm bloody knackered tonight. Dd3 is still awake, chatting to herself in bed. I really don't know why she's not tired, every night she doesn't fall asleep until this time and up at 7am. She never stops during the day.

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lazarusb · 19/04/2013 09:35

It would be just what you needed wouldn't it? In the midst of emotional stress and all that goes with it, another self-interested man who thinks only about his dick and not about you.

I don't understand where children get their energy from either Hmm Mine spend all evening moaning that they're tired and then I find them still awake at 10/10.30pm!! Grrr....

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 19/04/2013 10:44

ooh, yeah, of course you will be replying to ex colleague.

What a twat. patter like watter. Grin

Pannacotta2013 · 19/04/2013 10:54

Ooh ladies you are harsh! I'd be chuffed at the compliment, it's not like he's harrassing you or being explicit! Maybe it's his clumsy attempt at a deliberate ego boost... And there's you all letching at the gym boys - tsk tsk double standards Grin.

Anyway, how you doing today OP?

Jux · 19/04/2013 11:01

Hi LNM, hope your children let you sleep!

It is sunny and bright here at the moment, but yesterday we had hail, sun, rain, sun and so on, so I'm expecting something else the moment I go out. Bound to happen!

bleedingheart · 19/04/2013 12:32

I'm with panacotta, probably a misguided compliment and although he knows you broken up with ex he doesn't necessarily no why. No real harm done as you aren't expecting him to be your Prince Charming!

Hope you've had a better day today EllenM