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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

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KinNora · 02/04/2013 15:39

My last post was very northern, I apologise. It's the air here, I come over all Bet Lynch.

Possibly not the first time that latter phrase has ever been used.

Movingforward123 · 02/04/2013 15:45

Snape I'm not sure! I know he wants to get back with me, he was going to propose a couple of weeks ago! ConfusedConfusedConfused

I don't want to get back with him! But if he wasn't dds dad I would want to see him again and be 'seeing' him but as he's dds dad it is too complicated! And I know he's not the one for me long term

Snapespeare · 02/04/2013 15:53

wait! if you didnt have DD you'd want to see him, but because he is, you dont? Confused

what are the reasons why he isnt a long term prospect?

also, although this shouldnt cloud your judgement, was the sex good? i'm just a bit nosey

Movingforward123 · 02/04/2013 16:00

Because I know I don't want to be with him long term I can't just have my fun with him like I could with a guy that I have no strings to! So if he wasn't dds dad we could sleep together and go out etc and I wouldn't have to worry about it affecting my dd as he would be a random! Does that make sense? ConfusedConfusedConfused

And the sex wasn't that greatest it has ever been but it was good Hmm he has always had a lot of stamminia, a sexy body, he is well endowed Smile and most importantly he wants to please me so much sexually! So yes it was good, but if say we met up again I'm sure it would be even better Wink

But I'm not planning on doing that! Confused

Movingforward123 · 02/04/2013 16:06

Oh and he's not long term for many reasons! I just don't think he is ambitious enough and he annoys me as he's not very efficient!

Also he has cheated in the past and was always chatting to other girls behind my back as he gets insecure when we are in a relationship!! And last time we for back together he had a secret phone to speak to girls on Hmm so it would never work!

But apart from those things mentioned above there are many good points to him and we do have a connection Espically sexually! Confused

lubeybooby · 02/04/2013 16:09

Kin, I nearly snorted my coffee everywhere at "being chained to a madman" YES!! haha... especially with what I've just done too - I've booked DD and her bf into hotel on Friday night. So they can have some privacy and I can maybe work on finding myself one of those nice gentleman callers.

Something had to be done, people. I'll hit PoF later. Haven't been on there for ages but before life took over I had changed it to 'dating' but with intent as 'no commitment' and there were a couple of possibles. So I'll have a look later..

Mr Flirt might be a possibility too, I recall him saying about being free this weekend. I suspect he meant Saturday rather than Friday night but we'll see...

and and yay for your Friday too with cocktails and possible geek luuurrve

KinNora · 02/04/2013 16:36

Bloody hell, I've just googled that Lubey and it appears I was quoting Socrates - get me (worra ponce I am).

I really admire your whole approach Lubey, you know what you want and go out to get it, your daughter's very lucky to have you as a role model.

lubeybooby · 02/04/2013 16:46

Aww Kin, thanks. Flowers However the resident madman (madwoman?) leaves me absolutely no choice but to get what I want Wink

I do wish I could be satisfied with a battery operated device, but they only serve to make it worse. I need the maleness of an actual human male. Grrrowl.

Oh. I appear to have changed my profile to IE again. Eeeek

VelvetSpoon · 02/04/2013 16:59

Lubey, hope POF throws someone decent your way! Isn't there normally a surge of new people on OD sites (was going to say members but possibly unfortunate turn of phrase!) Post bank hols? Fingers crossed :)

Twinkly manager at client firm was back in today and v happy and smily with me. I'm noticing even more how he isn't like that with almost anyone else...am developing a bit of a soft spot for him I think Blush which is bad for many reasons!

KinNora · 02/04/2013 17:05

Velvet why's that bad ? Because he's a colleague ? go for it

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JulietteMontague · 02/04/2013 17:24

lubey Grin

Velvet never mind the protocol, sounds like a slow burner heating up to me

Spence do not, under any circumstances unless invited and you know you are talking to a real life woman who hasn't got her mates round for a laugh send a cock shot. You're welcome Smile

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lubeybooby · 02/04/2013 17:42

Velvet thanks - and I agree with Juliette and Kin about the colleague :o

PoF not going well so far. Nice enough blokes (makes a change for locals) but they are all just a bit yawnworthy. No one grabbing my attention. It's not been long though so far so fingers crossed.

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 17:43

Need some tips on getting out of dinner-party-conversation territory into a-bit-flirtatious-and-mildly-saucy without encouraging downright lewdness and the cockshot mentality. I've dropped what I think are quite broad hints, but no response.

And it's not just one - I have a few like this! It must be me.

Cakey chatting about work but hasn't said yet if Thursday or Friday will suit - possibly shy, possibly back tracking!

KinNora · 02/04/2013 17:49

Ooh I don't know OWW I'm usually rubbish at that, I reckon Lubey will have some ideas. I'd probably mention something I'm planning to wear somewhere but I'm not sure if it's a bit tight/seethrough/short, could he possibly give me a male viewpoint ? I am about as subtle as a brick though.

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 17:52

Oh I would just blush! Honestly I am crap at this. Great at talking dirty, great at polite friendly chit chat and banter, but the bit in between is just beyond me.

KinNora · 02/04/2013 17:54

I'm glad it's not just me, I'm exactly the same - fine with matey chat, topnotch with filth, useless at flirty, slightly cheeky stuff.

lubeybooby · 02/04/2013 17:55

OWW I would need to know the actual text exchanged so far in order to come up with a way out of the text doldrums for you. Feel free to PM if you care to reveal? I understand if not though.

KIn, haha at subtle as a brick. I tend to move from subtle to brick territory quite quickly if they aren't getting it

As if by magic, having moaned that they were all yawnworthy, a brilliant message from a chap with a great profile appeared in my PoF inbox.

Now then... let's hope he's available Friday for some cursory polite but flirty date and then hopefully letting the madwoman loose (yes I do know already he is meetworthy... blimey)

KinNora · 02/04/2013 17:57

Atta girl Lubey ! 'Brilliant message' sounds vair promising.

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 17:58

Oh Cakey has been back at work today so just a couple about first day back being the worst, lots of work to catch up on etc etc. Might do one about me lying in bed whilst he's hard at it ...

But I have another one who wants to talk about primary schools, another one about camping, another one about building yawn yawn yawn.

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 17:59

Ooh Lubey that is fast work! Tell all now!!

KinNora · 02/04/2013 18:02

OWW I did once eat a Cornetto in a provocative fashion in an attempt to inflame the desires of a young man I'd set my cap at.

You could try that ...

spenceuk · 02/04/2013 18:08

ha ha im pretty positive i wont be sending anything like that anytime soon.

I probably shouldnt but im tempted to sign upto a site tonight

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 18:08

Oh once I have the bugger in sight there won't be a problem - its just the remote stuff.

Works well with a Fab lolly too (or so I'm told) ...

OhWesternWind · 02/04/2013 18:11

Sorry too many posts but I'm out with him on Thursday ...

Spence it can be quite reassuring (that there are other people out there who like you) to have a look round online. Looking and maybe a bit of chatting can't do any harm, but it might be early days for actual dating.

lubeybooby · 02/04/2013 18:13

Chatting with him now... he's just my cuppa tbh and absolutely understands my profile too which makes a change. Oooh.

I've asked if he is available Friday....