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Dating thread number 48 :-)

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MirandaWest · 25/03/2013 23:36

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

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48howdidthathappen · 30/03/2013 14:51

My neighbour has started on his obsessive lawn mowing. For gods sake someone shag him!

Scrazy · 30/03/2013 15:15

Daddy, go to my registration, then nicknames and type a new one in, if it's available save the changes.

OhWesternWind · 30/03/2013 15:28

Spence, all you can do is be yourself and be honest. You'll soon see enough on here to realise that some people abandon all standards of normal behaviour when OD, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Ike are you out tonight?

Having some nice, very complimentary chat this afternoon with an OD new boy, only three weeks in, so it would be good to nab him before he gets all sweet-shoppy. Think he's working his way up to asking me for a date. Good, civilised, vaguely witty chat - could be a possibility. I've called him Deffo to my friend, so will do the same here.

48howdidthathappen · 30/03/2013 15:37

The cock blocking has started Wink

JulietteMontague · 30/03/2013 15:42

I should get out there a socialise, when I'm feeling down I become a hermit and that is no good either. Gym was good, my trainer was in there with a client so I had to keep going Smile.

Spence looking forward to your new name. Good call on 'saving yourself' especially on the sodding strip club Grin

JulietteMontague · 30/03/2013 15:44

48 bless, just a good job they don't have antlers

Ike little kiddies Easter eggs covered in your wine shame. Love it Grin

ike1 · 30/03/2013 15:48

I know...extra taste Jule...

48howdidthathappen · 30/03/2013 15:51

Get out there Juliette Who knows what could happen. I didn't even want to go to the Rock n Roll. So very glad I went Grin

spenceuk · 30/03/2013 15:53

well that seems of changed thanks

yeah strip clubs arent my thing. If they wanna waste there money there thats there choice

JulietteMontague · 30/03/2013 16:03

48 I am one of only two singletons in a sea of couples who do only couply things. The only other one used to be free some weekends and now due to exH issues, isn't. You're right though, I did do a meet up thing and met nice people, not sure I could face it even that at the moment but I do need to get going. Just want to go to a comedy club or something, also missing LM because we always did interesting stuff together and it's Easter and meh. Going no contact was the best thing ever, it works. This is my first LM wobble since whenever.

Scrazy · 30/03/2013 16:50

How long has it been Juliette? I did 3 months nc with my recent ex, we are chatting again now. I'm not chomping at the bit to meet up though, so alls well.

OhWesternWind · 30/03/2013 16:52

Hey Juliette all these LMs are wankers and wastes of headspace.

I don't know if I could be bothered with socialising at the moment, not that I have anywhere to do it. But it's a big effort sometimes isn't it

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MirandaWest · 30/03/2013 16:53

I eventually got dressed today Blush.

XH has been being particular pain this weekend - he has crap car and "no money to change it" (he earns enough but when we were together he went through it like water so still does I suppose). He's taking DC to his parents tomorrow so asked if he could borrow my car. Then today (whilst we were in bed albeit definitely after noon) he texts saying DS wants to go swimming and DD doesn't and could I get her? Was meant to be getting both at 5pm. Said some choice words then started texting back and she did want to go....

Am glad I'm not married to him anymore :) and what a shame my car hasn't got much fuel in it...

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OhWesternWind · 30/03/2013 16:53

Can I ask Scrazy why you got in contact again? I think I'd be wary in case it opened old wounds or I started getting feelings again.

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MirandaWest · 30/03/2013 16:58

Took me about 9 months after XH moved out to start doing OD chatting and about a year to make a concerted effort. Had taken about 5 months after I found out about his affair for him to move out and tbh I knew out marriage was rubbish for about 18 months before that but didn't have the courage to do anything about it.

I am in touch with XH quite a bit due to taking DC to and fro and both of us managing to be at least civil to each other which does make think easier with the DC. Also we had debt stuff together which we have to discuss every so often. Occasionally wish I didn't have to be in contact with him at all though.

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Snapespeare · 30/03/2013 17:51

DCs safely packed off to scotchland, going to order a takeaway and watch DW with some cider.

velvet we're all saying stuff about C from a place of concern and good GOD I know no-one wants to get back out there after 4 years of bollocksy wankiness ...but you could be missing out on someone incredibly more awesome than cuthbert. You're not in a relationship. Go on some dates, please. If oohing else it will confirm the awesomeness of cuthbert. Hmm

spence you're like a hive consciousness construct. Doesn't go to strip club with the lads? (Box tick)

Anyone remember years ago from threads distant past I had a commuting crush on 'train guy' ? I saw him in the supermarket today he's still very exceptionally cute. So is his girlfriend Grin I still took my freshly washed hair out of it's ponytail and swished my way around the supermarket.

Scrabble play from nameless at half our this morning. I woke up at five, terrible nights sleep... Can work out if I'm excited about DW (& then drifted back off to sleep and had an EPIC doctor who dream, set in a jobcentre Hmm ) or was worried about getting DCs to train today, or just really really horny. Haven't seen nameless for over a week. He's going to get it so good.... Blush

48 hope it goes well. :)

JulietteMontague · 30/03/2013 18:01

I've been NC now since my pre Christmas melt down. You all told me it works and it certainly does. I have no intention of contacting him, I haven't looked at his website, twitter and already blocked him on fb.

It finished last July, and I'm surprised I still think of him at all but I think it wasn't helped by the next brief man being a fuckwit and really, truly, crap in bed, the kind of crap when you know that whatever you did, said snapped it was never going to get any better because they deep down he didn't really like women. I'd forgotten what crap sex was like, (I felt moved to ask him if he had any sex toys in the house from the very first time*) and felt no connection with him. This all compared particularly badly with highly intelligent, informed, sensuous, sex God LM.

More to the point I think is that I haven't had the pleasure of a good man naked since July which is far too long.

*he did, brand new in box, what do you take me for [bugrin]

Scrazy · 30/03/2013 18:02

OWW, it was me being nosy and wondering whether he was coupled up. He was the one with too many female friends for my liking. I felt enough time had passed and he had been a friend from along time ago. He says he misses me blah, blah but I won't go back to him. I'm fine with us being back in touch.

OhWesternWind · 30/03/2013 18:10

Oh I see Scrazy - if you were friends first then that does make a difference. You've got those years if friendship as a base to go back to, more difficult if you've only had someone as a love/sex/whatever interest.

I think NC is by far the easiest way to go for me too. I would very much regret texting or calling in a weak moment and I don't really think I'm going to. Feel like I really am moving on although I'm expecting a fair few twinges yet to come. It's not bad at all, though.

48. Really hope all goes well tonight.

AndLibbyMakesThree · 30/03/2013 18:30

I'd agree with NC being the best way to go. In my early 30s I split up with a boyfriend I loved (and who I'd imagined I'd spend the rest of my life with). I really wanted to keep him as a friend (especially as we'd been friends before getting together) but knew it would be too painful.

The first few days and even weeks of no contact were so hard, and I nearly gave in countless times. But gradually it got easier, and I'm convinced it was the best thing to do.

48howdidthathappen · 30/03/2013 18:39

I'm off. Report back later Smile

KirstyWirsty · 30/03/2013 18:49

Hope it goes well 48

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MirandaWest · 30/03/2013 18:53

Am thinking of you 48

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KirstyWirsty · 30/03/2013 19:28

Have you surfaced for air then Miranda Wink

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MirandaWest · 30/03/2013 20:27

Just about Grin.

DC are making an Easter egg hunt fir me and planning to the minute when were doing it tomorrow morning. They are currently writing clues :)

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