Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

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velvet I am green with envy at the thought of your do ..

MrCheeky emailed me this morning .. HE still wants me HE misses me .. And could I send my mobile number to him again if I still feel anything for him.. Still all about him eh? I deleted and ignored but I'm not sure if I should just reply and reiterate that I am done for good .. Thoughts? I am probably going for the ignore tack

Hi everyone. Just had proof that OD is mad, the first OD guy I ever met (nearly a year ago) just e-mailed me! WTF,we had one date, he left sharpish to catch a train (with a suitcase!!) - couple of texts after it but no 2nd date, winked at me a couple months later, thought he didn't remember me and now an e-mail, just playing people and wanting an ego boost methinks, no interest in dating at all.

Kirsty you are so switched on about Mr Cheeky. Good for you. I think ignoring is the best tactic otherwise you're just getting drawn in.

Kin ironically, if he is that way inclined he would take mahoosive offence, store it up and use it later

Kirsty I'd say you're right to ignore. I also think it's doubtful he deleted your number, smacks of part of a game play to me.

Hey everyone, so I've been busy searching on Pof, seen a guy I like the look of messaged him and we have exchange a couple of messages, he's not that chatty but looks muscly and manly anyway he has asked me if I have Facebook, do you think I should let him on there already? I think I will but I hate it when they ask for numbers or Facebook too quickly

Juliete I suppose since meeting Mr R&R I haven't thought about Mr OZ much. Talking to him today though it was as if I had seen him yesterday, it just flowed.

You are right though I cannot imagine my life without Mr R&R.

I will be on my best behaviour. I think it will be a very painful but necessary goodbye.

Moving - I wouldn't. I feel a bit weird if someone wants to 'friend' me when I haven't met them.

If he cancels the date, is it because of some weird photo of you and a friend/ex/kids etc or just because he would have cancelled anyway?

But - you'd get to poke around his history too, a bit. It's mutual. Do you want to?

Hi all just heading out I'm looking forward to it but nervous for some reason. Hope you all have a good night

Have fun Daddyspence.

48, if you haven't thought much about Mr Oz, then that is a good sign. No harm in meeting up for a drink at all.

I had a nice dinner date with a man from POF on Wednesday - we got on well - I wasn't sure I fancied him, but I would have liked to see him again.

But he sent me a text saying I was lovely and he was glad he met me and thought we could have a good time together, but didn't see how as we were at differents tages in our life, that I had young children and little support, so I wouldn't be able to go away on short notice weekends like he can.

I feel a bit annoyed we didn't determine this kind of thing before going out, and also a bit down as it's made me wonder if I can actually manage a proper relationship. I have 2 young children, and not much free time. But I've done the casual thing and had enough of that now. So feeling a bit sad about that. How do other people manage?

Good luck with Mr Oz 48 - I hope you're able to come to an easy conclusion about who you want (and can't help hoping that it's Mr R&R)

splish how absolutely annoying!!! He is not the type of man you want in your life then if he views your children as a problem after only your first date. You will then spend your time trying to prove how they are not a problem. He is an idiot.

This is my worst od nightmare. I also have 2 really join children and worry it will put men off but I am at the stage now where I think take me or leave me. The children come first and we are a package.

He has made me mad!!! Message back saying you actually thought he was a mindless moron and couldn't think if anything worse than going on a second date with him!!

Splish, that is crap tbh. Sounds like he wants someone to take off at the drop of a hat and that isn't you. He should be dating people with no ties if it's that important to him.

Splish, that's really crap. He should have thought about this before he met you. To be honest, I tend to avoid people who put on their profile about lots of travel, weekends away etc because I know I just couldn't do it without a lot of planning and organising.

If you have babysitters/family to help out so you can get out sometimes, or if your ex shares care of the children, then I think it's perfectly possible to manage a proper relationship. Thousands of people do it, don't worry.

Have a great time, Spence!

Splish One of the many spontaneous men. Yawn.

Have fun Spence

Splish - agreed, he's a fool. He'd see you as a weight around his ankles even if you were childless if you couldn't or wouldn't drop everything at the last minute to do what he wants

I think I suggested a text response to a similar situation a few threads ago. Something like

'That's a shame, because obviously I'd be willing to put my kids up for adoption just to spend more spontaneous time with you. You dick.'

Maybe a little harsh in this case but he shouldn't be dating women with young kids if he wants to jet off every fortnight. It's like meeting someone on ChristianSingles.com and then complaining they always seem to have plans every sunday morning.

I LOVE this!

Moving I wouldn't. You don't know him and you are effectively letting him into your life. It's too much. Should you decide to go and have a look around his fb if he hasn't locked it down, then that seems perfectly reasonable to me

Splih what Bant said, time wasting knobber.

48 that's good news. What was the reason you didn't meet up before now?

Splish, sorry this happened. Unfortunately a lot of men in the OD realm are narcissistic bullshitters. They are lookinf for women who can make trhem the centre of their lives, because they are so insecure it's the only way they can cope. If you have DC of any age - or indeed any friends or life of you own - you won't fit in with their requirements

I wish I'd come on here first to get some nicely cutting responses! I just said it was a shame we hadn't ascertained that our life stages were compatible before meeting...

I don't have any nearby family, and they don't see their dad at all. They see his parents and sister once every couple of weeks for the day, and had them overnight once (but didn't get the impression they'd be overly keen to repeat the experience as little sleep was had!), so am reliant on babysitters to go out in the evening. They're only 4 and 7 so the situation isn't going to change any time soon.

Thank you all for cheering me up [busmile]

He has only been back just over a week Juliette

Splish the last man who talked about weekends away in his 'second home in the Mediterranean' turned out to have a caravan in France

48 ok

I had a message once from a bloke asking me for a date. He had caravans listed in his hobbies.

I politely declined as caravans aren't my thing.
He said "I asked you for a date, not to come away with me"
I replied "Have a nice trip"

Splish I have to rely on babysitters most of the time too as I'm in a similar position and my dcs don't have contact with their father. My mum babysits occasionally but it is a bit of a song and dance so I try not to ask her that much. It's still doable! I have some local teenagers who come over and do their homework and watch telly, very cheap and their parents are only across the road in case there is an emergency, so it all works okay most of the time.

But that bloke was just a knob.