Hello lovely thread
I have been absent for too long, but so much has been going on in my world that I struggled to keep up with reading. But I have been delighted to see the good stuff (Nameless for Snape , 48 & MrR&R still together despite all the dumping and awful life stress , fabulous work review for Velvet and the news that the C is still there and still has potential for much loveliness, Miranda's Mr Nice being back) and sad to see the less positive (LM turning out to be a cowardly toe-rag being the prime example, although the good stuff is see OWW rising like a Phoenix from the ashes - wonderfully inspiring stuff).
Not much time in my life for dating, in fact I am currently on no dating sites whatsoever. I still have my little stable of FWBs, with a couple of lurkers coming out of the woodwork in the last week(ish).
I went for my weekend to Devon to meet Harry and I think we'll be great mates. He's quite lovely, but also very affected by the breakup of his previous relationship (my red flag) and he is really looking for a country girl (which I am not). However, he is a sweetie and I am very happy to be his friend and support whilst he navigates the world of dating and he appears to be happy to provide me with a relaxed bolt-hole in rural Devon. So, I am heading down there for the Easter weekend. Its good timing as things on my course have become very distressing and positively surreal, leading to my withdrawal two-thirds of the way through (I promise you that I'm no quitter). It may lead to formal complaints being made but - for now - I am trying to recover my equilibrium and just take care of myself.
I did meet a guy on Reading station when I last travelled to Devon. Very cute and we got chatting whilst I was having a coffee. I never thought he was being anything other than friendly until he asked for my phone number. I gave it, somewhat in shock, expecting all the old dears in the coffee shop to mutter darkly ... instead of which they said "oh what a lovely young man". Well, he turned out to be rather too keen. What many of you have said on this thread, trying to run before we've even started to walk, telling people about "us" (WTF) and planning weekend getaways before we've even had one date. He also really annoyed me by continually going on about my getting anti-biotics (I've been suffering from that lousy coughing virus for weeks now). No matter how many times I told him "its a virus so antibiotics won't work" he just kept on. Even when I said that I'd been to the doctors who'd confirmed this ... He didn't understand that my problem was that he wasn't listening to me. I cannot bear it when someone doesn't pay attention to what I say, especially when I've repeated myself . So, cute or not, we didn't get off the starting line and he still keeps trying to ring me.
The sofa looks dead comfy at the mo ...
Someone was asking about FWBs and exclusivity. In my view, if someone requires that type of arrangement to be exclusive, its not that type of arrangement. The whole point of being an FWB is that there is no relationship and therefore - in my mind - no exclusivity requirement. I've had an FWB that just happened to be exclusive, but its all too easy to start thinking of them the wrong way (in other words - romantically).
Hello new posters, old posters and lurkers ... hope life calms down and allows me to participate better. Oh ... I'll send some of these 
to WFF ...