Dating thread number 48 :-)

[MirandaWest]

Here's the latest thread for everything dating related. All welcome :)

thanks rainydays im probably getting a bit ahead of myself asking those kind of questions to be honest.

I will probably sign upto one in the next couple of weeks and just be honest when describing what im looking for. Its quite exciting really its been a long time since ive been single

thats a good idea WFF i live near a big city in the north so im sure there would be plenty of people registered. I hope you ladies wont mind me asking you for tips

Of course, as long as you let us live vicariously through your dating adventures!

All the nice men live up North...

i will definitley share my stories good or bad lol

well im glad someone likes northern people most people hate the accent lol

Ok so he's just come back to me with all the times he is free to meet in the next couple of weeks. I'm going to try and get a babysitter. This is good yes?

MrV texted to ask if he'd upset me so I've told him that I hope he's not got the wrong idea about what we will be doing tonight. He's sent me a very gracious reply so all may be well ...

Daddy just take your time. You've got a lot to deal with at the moment emotionally and if you need friends to talk to try us lot in here. I think you can have a quick look around most of the dating sites for free, see what suits as it can be very area- and age-dependent.

dont worry western i wont be rushing into anything, to be honest im 'working' from home today but seem to be spending my time on here. I just know its over with her, she has chosen someone else and i need to get used to being single again. Im just trying to keep busy and get tips/hints for when i do decide to make the plunge.

everyone on this site has been so understanding, helpful and just generally postive and its really lifted me. It feels weird saying thanks to strangers but im sure some of you have been in similar situations and know how appreciated it all is.

Hey Daddy nowt wrong with a good northern accent! I'm in the north-west but out in the sticks a bit so it can be slim pickings sometimes. If you're near a big city it should be a lot easier.

Glad to see someone who likes a good northern accent :). It must make it much harder if your out in the sticks but i suppose as long as you can drive it will make things much easier.

This thread is brilliant Daddy and I count a lot of the people on here as true friends. The support they have given me is absolutely amazing.

Wine I have had my share if men with ishoos too - a couple of minor ones are fair enough, we all have them, but I'm not going near anyone with major problems/hang ups etc ever again. Too much hassle. I just want someone nice and uncomplicated to treat me well and have good times with. I have been the strong one too far too often and it would be good to be more equal, mutual looking after. We'll get there.

Rainy I would tread very carefully with this one. The only way to know for sure is to arrange to meet him as soon as possible. It can be very intense online and it can be disappointing to find out you have used up your time talking, mailing and answering texts to someone who turned out to be not for you.

Spence welcome, I haven't read your other thread but you will get lots of companionship and good dating advice here when you are ready. OKC has people looking just for friendship, it's free to join but very much depends on the area you live in.

Last night was the first night I didn't spend with Buffy in about a week. I went to the sweet shop - expat evening full of French people. There were some ridiculously attractive people there (including me of course. Har har.)

I had some beer, chatted to new and old mates, ate some french cheese. Nice evening. Was pleased to have a night away from Buffy simply out of physical exhaustion. I'll see her again in a week when I'm back in the country.

Interestingly, last time I went to the Sweet shop was when I was kind-of-dating Med Student. I compared her to the other people there and she came off poorly. Buffy is also not as attractive as some of the model-types from last night, but much much more interesting to talk to. So, no comparison really.

Bant pah, model types

Warm - sounds lovely I am very

Kirsty - I completely second your thoughts, a clean, sexy man with stamina! Why does it seem so much to ask? Are these type of men already married?

Ohmy - anyone saying they wanted a relationship before I met them would put me off big time, I think it sounds very fake as they havnt met me!

Western - glad to hear the date is looking interesting for tonight, but I hope you don't bump into LM!

its good to hear everyone here is looking out for each other and good friends. I dont have many friends round here since we moved especially female friends so it will be lovely being able to come in here to talk and offer/receive support

Winefield - is whatahisface the Pof guy you went to the hotel with?

I know what you mean about men with issues, I was speaking with a friend recently and every guy I have been with have had bad childhoods, some of them have even been in foster care. I've decided to try to go for a few guys that have had nicer childhoods and see if that helps!

I fed up of having guys that feel so insecure that they have to cheat etc.

Western good luck this evening, it'll be good to have got back out there and strutted your stuff

Wine lame duck syndrome, been there over and over too but it's now on my mental checklist of things to avoid. With me it was very much a sense of acceptance of someone who was 'different' and then I'd overlay qualities onto them that just excused everything from social awkwardness to serious personality disorders .

Spence - I've been reading your other thread. Sorry mate, I know that's not much comfort but you're obviously going through a shitty situation.

When I split from my STBXW, it took me months to get my head straight - and that was without any affairs or anything, just low level EA and the fact we'd drifted apart. Still, being away from my DC, having to find somewhere else to live, reinvent myself, or maybe rediscover who I used to be, all took time.

I wouldn't rush into dating. Get used to being single again, things are very fresh for you and you're going to end up getting hurt. Friends, however, that's a good choice. There are things like MeetUp.com which isn't a dating thing, just events for likeminded people who like similar activities.

Only once you're getting over the shock and stress would it be fair on yourself to meet someone. Dating is a minefield and you don't need more potential anguish on top of what you've gone through.

My mum and dad have left. Children have an INSET day so we are sLobbing around a bit which is good.

Seeing Mr Nice tonight and there will be no one else there so we can be naked. This is very good .

thanks bant i wont be rushing into anything that meetup.com does sound like the thing id like to try first before going on dates.