Hi I'm Mouse
One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)
There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.
We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese 
and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.
So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)
This is our latest journey with a link to others
And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread
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Mouseface · 24/03/2013 12:23
Hi babes, hope everyones managing through the freezing cold & no ones suffering too badly with the snow. Purple thats amazing about Libby, hope this all works out. Your poor little boy with his sore skin, hope he gets something soon. I know when my ds was really little he had a horrible rash & kept getting fobbed off with all sorts of rubbish that didn't work. He then got a really strong steroid which did the trick but think a lot of the time the gps don't really know what spots/rashes are so don't know how to treat?
Well done all babes on beating off the ww & wishing strength to those trying.
I've got a party on Saturday night, I really don't want to go but it's a neighbour I like & don't want to let her down. I just want to stay in my safe little bubble away from booze!
I'm trying to finish my Allen Carr in time for Saturday & hoping this will miraculously enable me to go to party , have a good time & realise I can do this without booze!! 
Evening, tis me, Mouse
Lots going on with me but I'll catch up on all of that tomorrow.
Hey Fuzzy/Lola, welcome back lovely :)
Raw post alert -
For you and those who are worried about the GP and what they can reveal, then please, please stop. They only ever want to help and if you are drinking too much and driving your children to school the next day, or yourself to work, then they're doing the right thing IMVHO.
Don't get me wrong, I've driven to school pissed from the night before, taking DD in the car, only around the corner etc... 
it was only down the road, we were okay........ right?
Thing is, if you crash, of course you won't, but if you did, and killed a child, your child, another person's child, another person, how much worse would that be than not having a that extra drink tonight or tomorrow? Why is that worth it? I'm sorry to seem arsey and cruel but wake up and see what drinking does to you. Not just you but those around you. My dad used to drive us pissed from the night before, just like me.
Almost everyone lies to their GP about how much they drink, at first at least, at the first appointment and maybe for a while longer after that too......... it's fear, it's the shame. It's the failure, the pitying looks you think you're going to get, the 'what has it got to do with you?' feelings.
The self defence, the self preservation........ it all matters.
Well, so do YOU! YOU matter, YOUR life matters, YOU have people who love YOU, need YOU, want YOU. In whatever form, it is there.
Your GP has an legal obligation to disclose your records if required but ONLY if you agree to it with things like medicals for jobs, insurance for driving etc.
For those who are worried, then please, take some time and look HERE PLEASE
If you really, honestly want to stop what you do night after night, (or day) the abuse of your body, the lies, deceit, the pain, the hurt, the denial, the wondering why, the feeling ever so worthless, so wrong, so cheated.
Life is short, life is fucking hard, life is cruel and mean and takes a bloody good smack at you when you really don't deserve it. You strive to provide, you try to get beyond, past, through, around the anger, the disappointment of another day wasted, wondering, thinking, scared to say anything to anyone.
Life is too short to worry about the small mindedness of others. Set your stride, make it strong, make it count. Make it yours.
If you believe that you can stop the torment, the pain and the sorrow, then why not start today? Tomorrow or the next day, but soon.
We are all so alive, so needy, so desperate to be happy and healthy. Let's start taking the control back from the other things in our lives - the gas bill, the car battery or MOT, the disappointing school report, the feckless fathers, the pain that some of us go though.
I'm sorry for the long waffle but life is too short, life is precious. Life is yours to take if you want to have it. I know that sounds petty, it's not, it's that easy once you strip away the shit that is clouding your sight just now.
We're all here for you, new or old Babes, we're a team, you can rely on us, we will hold your hands.
I need to go. Tomorrow is a whole new day. Be safe and be kind to yourselves xxxxxxxxxxx
Morning, tis me, Mouse
Sorry about that rant last night, I was a little fired up after seeing a 'friend' who constantly goes on about how she can't wait to get home each night from school after picking her child up to have a drink after such a hard day at work and then having to look after her two boys..... it's so hard for her, etc etc etc.
I have all the time in the world for those who have a tough time of it, those who work, raise a family, do the school run, do all you can to make ends meet but this particular person managed to push my buttons for purely selfish reasons.
Nemo starts half days in preschool after Easter (going from full 3 times a week to half days every day and I have GOT TO LEAVE HIM) to mirror the days he'll do in September once he starts at his primary school.
This person was moaning about how each day having to cope with her boys at home, she's got lots of support, family, friends, DP etc.... is just a PITA and wine cures all.
I'm sorry, my post wasn't meant to upset, more point out how I was feeling I think reading back.
Hope you are all okay Brave Babes.
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So, last night I went to see a private physio and he's told me after an hour of tests and examinations, that my pelvis is twisted and that I have one leg 2.5cm longer than the other because of how I compensate when walking due to the pain. He's recommended an insole for my left leg, in the hope that I'll straighten up a little as my posture is dreadful too.
He said that he wants to get my core as strong as possible to support my spine, and try to keep me out of a wheelchair for as long as possible. He also said that if I had my spine fused once, I'd spend the rest of my days having it fused again and again because of how DDD works. (Degenerative Disc Disease)
So there you go, that's where I'm up to. I promise not to post when emotional like that again. Sorry Babes.
Off to make Easter masks, eggs, and chicks at a craft morning at school soon. See you later Babes, stay brave 
We've had around 4ft of snow over the last few days here and I'm bored of not being able to walk on the pavements because the stupid council decided to plough the roads each time it snowed, sending the snow into the pavements, which is now frozen solid. Poor DH has had to carry Nemo to school every day!!
I'm really going now, stay safe xxxxx
Thank you Clutter - will PM you later :) x
Morning All!
Purps - re. your son - does this ring any bells? "Non-bullous impetigo - initially causes red sores usually around the nose and mouth but sometimes on the arms and legs. The red sores quickly burst leaving a layer of yellow or brown coloured crust on the skin, which turns into a red mark before disappearing."
Mouse My sister has DDD. She went to see a podiatrist and has a lift in one of her shoes. I've had a twisted pelvis which I've had untwisted, but I'm just in the sciatica stage, nothing, nothing, nothing like you. My sister is in constant pain as well, but has had a lot of relief from the lift. She hasn't had the spine fuse, just cortisone injections. I liked your post from last night, actually. I've often found that its those people with pretty much nothing to complain about who complain the most...... Anyway, little Nemo starting preschool sessions on his own. That's going to be a big jump. I hope that it works out ok.
Fuzzy the perimenopause can last for years.... Just sayin'
kate that's good progress.
Wishing you all a peaceful and sober Easter. I shall be relaxing with the babies (ha!) and talking myself onto the bus again....
mouse I loved your 'emotional' post. It says what lots of people might be thinking, or not wanting to think about too deeply, the short-sharp-shock is what we need sometimes.
It must be frustrating listening to your 'friend' but read your own advice - life's too precious to be spending your time dwelling on someone who isn't worth it. Think of her as toxic alcohol - don't let her take up your valuable time/emotions. Imagine she's a bottle of vodka, cork her up, put her in the back of the cupboard and do something more interesting. 
Thanks all :)
Katie - YAYAYAYAY for day 5!! Thank you for telling me about your poor friend, it's nice to know I'm not alone in my quest to stay wheelchair free for as long as possible!! I've not heard or been told anything about the Alexander Technique so will Google that soon!!
I have been told by the physio last night, GPs, pain clinics and back surgeon not to swim, I have other issues too, Facet Joint Syndrome, SPD from being pg with Nemo so now my pelvic halves are twisted, the left side 'leans' forward, they're in opposite directions and I have 3 herniated discs so 'swimming' as such is out. 
I had three wonderful years of hydrotherapy but there's only so much that can do and Nemo's needs always come before mine I'm afraid, so I had to give that up as I couldn't get there. :)
However, I've just joined a health club with a warmer than average pool, sauna and steam room, with a jacuzzi which will help no end. Heat really helps me so the end of Winter (some time in bloody April according to the BBC weather nobbers) can't come soon enough!
I can use the pool floating in it, using foam supports and carefully walking in the warm water, but because of the severity of the DDD, the lack of support my muscles currently give my back, lumbar region and pelvis, if my bottom sinks (which it does) I'd be putting too much pressure on that area. Does that make sense? :)
We're starting from scratch so I have to tighten my lower abs as many times a day as I can and try to hold my belly in when I bend. The physio I saw last night taped me up again, with k-tape, but the middle strip came off last night. Luckily I have some more from years ago so I can just replace it until I see him again in 2 weeks. I honestly didn't think he'd be able to help but if he can strengthen my core, then that will help so much, the pressure will be less on my hips, pelvis, knees, ankles everything, it all has a knock on affect.
Joey - thank you :) you are, of course, right xx
Lemony - they did try to 'untwist' my pelvis when Nemo was younger but failed, they're not going to try again because it's too much for my body to take currently. Who knows what technology we'll see in the future? :) I had injections into the spine last year, anaesthetic and steroids but it failed. the pain was excruciating. The poor nurse was holding my hand and I swear I cracked a few bones! I'm glad your sister is getting relief. I'm going to give it a shot with the lift, see if we can get it on the NHS or via our healthcare, that's what it's for after all!!
Obrigada - thanks xx
Another epic waffle from me!
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BOING!! happy easter babes! sorry not to name check and rush in and out - am having very exciting time work wise, have an event tonight, launch of s/s collections wooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
love to you ALL!!!!!
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