The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wondering Where The Spring For Their Boing Is!

[Mouseface]

Hi I'm Mouse

One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)

There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.

We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.

So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)

This is our latest journey with a link to others

And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread

Hope to see you soon :)

[curryeater]

Snowdrop, don't worry! Of course you can talk to your GP. I doubt your GP batted an eye at that. Don't worry. It doesn't affect anything.

[SnowdropBlues]

Sorry, actually I'm really upset! But what is the impact of her writing that down? I wasn't addicted and I didn't require help, I don't understand?? Thanks Curry cries

[FuzzyInTheMorning]

Thanks babyjane1! I need to do this, been in denial for too long. Never again is too huge and panics me so I will take every day at a time. I need to. Tell my husband and ask him to not bring drink into the house for at least a while. It's a big ask but I hope he helps. He thinks I take drinking too far ie passing out etc so he might be pleased. He worries about my safety. I'm a bit accident prone when drunk..

[curryeater]

Snowdrop, actually, I think nothing (no impact)

If you lie to an insurer about how much you drink they can check with your GP and your insurance is invalid (you have not done this)
If you suspected of neglecting your dcs perhaps because of an alcohol problem, SS can ask your GP about this (you do not neglect your kids, there is no reason for anyone to ask)
Same with driving and DVLA - if you lie to the DVLA, and the GP knows different, and they check with the GP, it might matter - this does not apply to you
If it is relevant to your job and an employer or potential employer asks your GP, he or she may disclose what you have told them (or may not)

BUT

drinking 25 units one week is not a drink problem, so there is nothing to "reveal" about you - none of the above matters

[kateissotired]

I am doing the one day at a time, I feel a bit cheeky saying that as it is only day 3. I am going to focus on getting and feeling better and if my friends can support me they will. I do not want to belittle the friendship but I need to focus on the counsellor and me and the meeting on Thursday.

[FuzzyInTheMorning]

Btw I was on here exactly a year ago, Lolabelle was my old username. Some of you guys helped me so much but I chose to ignore the problem for another year. Re-read this thread for last Easter and its inspired me! I want my weekends back to do stuff with my kids and my self respect back. Have a cut lip and have no idea why and fell into a chair on Saturday night and woke up with a swollen bruised area. I'll leave where I was swollen to your imaginations but put it this way, sex was of the menu for a few days

[CocktailQueen]

Curryeater asked: 'Cocktail, do you mind me asking why you particularly do not want this on your record - work or something? Because remember that your GP cannot reveal anything about you socially, or anything like that.'

Because it makes me feel like a failure. It's one thing being overweight - for example - and not being able to say no to a biscuit or cake. But in my mind it's a much, much worse thing not being able to say no to another glass of wine, and that's what makes me feel so ashamed. And I don't want people to know.

Mouse - thank you so much for your lovely post.

[determinedma]

rural good to see you. What's been happening? Are you still with dh or free? I worry about you - I hear the echo of me in a lot of what you don't say....
My bro is here to watch the footy and drinking wine. All under control of course, all fine..... bites quivering lip ...what can I say?

[curryeater]

CocktailQueen, you are not a failure.
If you do not have huge practical barriers to fessing up to the GP, I think you should, because I think honesty (to yourself first, and to someone else trustworthy irl) is important in this process.

I write down in a notebook every Monday the units I had the week before and some Mondays - like yesterday - I don't like it. but since I made this a habit it has been a lot, lot less. the honesty itself works. The numbers I would have had to write in December would have been shocking. But I wasn't owning up to it, so I kept doing it.

Do you know your GP? Do you like him or her?

Reasons to see your GP:

If you drink a lot, medical supervision might be important to cut down.
If there is an underlying reason why you over-drink (self-medicating anxiety or something like that) the GP might be able to get you alternative help.
The GP will not judge or say "go on it's just a glass of wine" like you might find socially.
The GP is free! And confidential!
The GP has seen it all before and is not emotionally invested in you like your friends and family, which can make it hard to tell the truth.
Talking to someone irl can be the most liberating thing - like a weight off your shoulders. Talking itself is a way of making a change and making you feel better.

At least think about it - you sound very alone

[curryeater]

My second sales-spiel of the day is about this book:

www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-practical-guide-finding-frantic/dp/074995308X?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

It's a book with an audio-book that comes with it which takes you through 8 weeks of guided meditations.
I have not completed it (though I have had it a year I keep getting tripped up and having to go back to the beginning).
This is a great help for the anxious rat-in-a-maze stressy thinking which calls the wine witch. I really recommend it.

[curryeater]

Thinking of you with your brother, Ma. Enjoy those opal fruits and don't get too wired on those delicious E numbers.

[aliasjoey]

cocktail what do you worry will happen if you tell someone? What exactly are you afraid of?

That they will criticise you? Look down on you? (Honestly a GP would not do that)
That they will run tests?
That it will go in your record and other people could see it?
That you will have to face up to it and start making changes?
That you won't be able to change, and then you'll feel even worse

Sorry to ask so many questions, I'm just trying to understand why you're reluctant to tell your doctor.

[babyjane1]

Good morning babes, on day 3 here and feeling good, having a little trouble sleeping but dh snoring is ridiculous and wine has acted as earplugs for years. I feel productive, have been tackling the domestic projects which have clogged my chaotic mind for months, I think it was purple who once said the state if your house reflects the state of your mind, I believe this to be very true, hope all the new babes are doing ok, shout if you need some moral support and I reckon the wine witch is away for Easter cos she ain't knocking on my door!! X x x

[FuzzyInTheMorning]

Hi babes, had the worst nights sleep. Was soaking wet with sweat, literally dripping! Why does this happen? Won't google as upsets me! I literally had to wrap myself in towels and keep changing them. It's scary how much I realise now how much alcohol I consumed and how it affects me. Day 2 anyway

[obrigada]

Morning Baby and well done on Day 3:) I too want to tackle my home as I believe that, like you, the clutter in my house has been clogging my chaotic mind as well. We can become domestic goddesses together:)

[curryeater]

Morning baby, morning fuzzy, morning obrigada.
well done baby!
Fuzzy - day two here you come, well done.

Have a good day all

[Lemonylemon]

Morning all!

Still in the sidecar. Welcome to newbies/oldies with new names :)

Fuzzy how old are you if you don't mind my asking? The sweats could be something else.....

Mouse hope it's calming down a bit for you.... Under a cosh, you are...

curry fab information there, thank you.

obrigada how many days for you? Tons and tons, isn't it?

[obrigada]

Morning Curry and Lemony:)
Lemony, I haven't had a drink since 1st March when I drank way way too much and wasted the whole weekend/week feeling shitty and hating myself with a passion!

[PurpleWolfe]

'Twas me, Baby. And my house looks like a shit heap right now. Supposed to be going to Cornwall for a holiday on 6th April and have sooo much to sort out before then. Worrying that it just won't get done.

Back to the doctors - again - with DS2 this morning. He's had sores/spots on his face for over 5 weeks now. He's been prescribed antibiotic cream for a week - gap of a week to see if there was any sort of improvement. Didn't work. Then oral antibiotics for a week - gap of a week to see if there was any sort of improvement. Didn't work. So, now, we have a different/stronger antibiotic and yet more cream. But at least, if this doesn't work, after a week, she said she would refer him to a specialist. He's only 6 and getting subconscious about school friends (and adults) asking about his spots. Love him. I so wish I could have them instead of/for him.

On the 'good news' front, there is a really lovely man (and his civil partner) interested in giving Libby a home. He's sent me photos of his current Giant Scnauzer and one he lost to old age and talked to him for nearly an hour on the phone last night. The plan is to meet up at the weekend. Fingers cross - but it will be very sad, at the same time, if it happens.

Thank you everyone for your lovely words. Will nc a bit later. Need to at least do some washing up right now. x

[babyjane1]

fuzzy the sweats will pass quickly, try not to overthink it, you will just stress yourself out and that's when the wine witch
Will catch you out. If you have a local leisure centre, steam room, sauna and a nice swim will speed up the process of getting those toxins out, day 2 is brilliant, the only way is up!!! obrigada Glad to welcome you to goddessville!!! I'm going to see an alcohol counsellor today, just want some RL support to keep up the momentum, and you guys are amazing, thanks for all your support, anyone know how kola
Is? X x x x

[guggenheim]

Morning lovely babes

Hope you are all feeling well today and a massive well done to anyone on day 1 ,2,3 + without the booze. They are by far the hardest days of all,get through them and it starts to become easier, and then easier again.

curry I love the info and I've chucked that book recommendation into my wishlist. I'm not very good at relaxing so I need to work on that next.

fuzzy Sorry to hear about the night sweats, it might just be the crap working it's way out of your system, so in a few nights time you can be clear of it all. I hope that koala doesn't mind, but I can remember her talking about all the physical effects of detoxing, not nice but she did it. Where are you koala by the way? I had night sweats each and every night, even when I'd only had a little bit to drink. The many years of drinking where catching up with me. No night sweats to report now! Stick with it,you'll feel better soon.

rural good to hear from you- come back and post please.

Having boasted about not getting night sweats, I have got another sodding ear infection. It's just in one side,same side I always get it on. I hate,hate,hate ear ache. It's like sodding period pain, it goes all the ways inside,horrid.

ma the green ones are yours. Fab news about your dd though. Hopes for more good news for ma soon.

[guggenheim]

baby x post on calling for koala she has to appear now!

Great news on the RL support, I think you'll really benefit. Hope the ww fucks off away from your house! x

[aliasjoey]

purple good news about Libby, did you say she doesn't get on with other dogs? Fingers crossed it works out for you.

[babyjane1]

gugg thanks a million, meant to say to ma brilliant news on dd, you must a very proud ma indeed, hope your all having a good day, sun is shining in Bonny Scotland and I don't have a hangover, that'll do for me for now x x x

[PurpleWolfe]

Hi Joey and thanks. Yes, she's not good with other dogs(but lived alongside another dog for the first two years) - and this couple have another GS - but he's confident that he can help her become re-socialised. He's done it before with another rescue dog. He has a vet/animal behaviourist friend that he's already spoken to about Libby who thinks it would be workable. Libby would love more company so I think it would really benefit her - just need to find the right person with the time, money and effort to do it. x