Dating chat thread! Number 47

[lubeybooby]

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

[ike1]

Dont ask, tell.

[ClippedPhoenix]

Thanks all.

Don't worry I've used dating sites for years. So know the score and have a skin like a buffalo

Just wanted to know what sites are good these days.

Will give OK Cupid a go too seeings as its free.

[48howdidthathappen]

OWW A long, long, sexless weekend. 4 days!!!!! No chance this weekend either. We both have too much on.

Yes. The arm waving place.

I feel very seasonal

[WarmFuzzyFun]

They are all a 'good' as each other, of course I have a bias Match is best avoided, allegedly

[Scrazy]

Velvet, I would also second, don't say anything to him now wait until tomorrow. He is telling you that he is messing you around and he is. It reiterates the saying 'people tell you who they are'. I know you liked him and it must be hard to take but you need someone who won't mess you around.

[ike1]

Its a broad church that athletic description isnt it?

[KirstyWirsty]

ike I think a lot of men think athletic means that if they own a pair of trainers then that's them

[ike1]

Yep! Think you might be right there Kirst....pic of a pretty enormous bloke in Maccy D's ....athletic apparently. Well, well...

[JulietteMontague]

Velvet you have done patient, you need to know what is going on with him so I second Lubeys suggestion, no explanations, feelings etc, just about meeting up tomorrow, Sunday etc. Nothing to loose at all.

[48howdidthathappen]

Or watching footy on Sky.

[JulietteMontague]

Where is Bants loo update? This could be a good sign

Clipped any of them, except MatchAffinity, Match or e-disharmony. I like okc as it's a bit more alternative and friendly but it depends where you live apparently.

[VelvetSpoon]

I've sent C something. I couldn't condense any of my actual thoughts onto paper so I've gone for the can we meet tomorrow idea instead. In the hope that he says yes, and that I can actually manage to verbalise said thoughts by then.

Thanks so much all of you for your kind and thoughtful advice tonight, I may not take all of it because I'm irritating like that, but it is v much appreciated nonetheless :)

[lubeybooby]

It's ok velvet there tends to be a lot of conflicting advice as well... hope he pulls his finger out. Keep us posted and keep that chin up... don't let anything spoil how brill your work day was!

[JulietteMontague]

Velvet keep meaning to say congrats on your work stuff today!

[VelvetSpoon]

Thanks - the work stuff is keeping me going! That and some harmless flirting with the guy from school who's on my FB...

C can't do tomorrow, youngest DC's parents evening. I have checked, and it is true. I've suggested he should come up with an alternative. look at me getting all bolshy!

[JulietteMontague]

Go velvet

[VelvetSpoon]

My god, he has now actually sent me a flirty text. C that is. First one ever

Maybe I should be bolshy with him more often?!!

I am not sure I will ever work men out...

[ike1]

Velv...what the????????????

[JulietteMontague]

Ok so he's woken up
Name the day C, name the day.

[ike1]

No Velv....nor me....

[lubeybooby]

eeeexcellent velv...

[WarmFuzzyFun]

Told you '{Some} Men are strange creatures...'

[48howdidthathappen]

Woo hoo Velvet

[Snapespeare]

Velvet what's he playing at? His texts read (paraphrase)

1. I'm rubbish, aren't I? you'd be far better off without me being sporadically communicative and never making an effort to even grab a coffee with you bearing in mind we live so close to each other. you'd best dump me?.
   
2. flirty flirty flirty flirt.
   
   he's a head-fuck. he's blowing cold and hot. I know you have this 2nd-date cherry mindset and I know you like him, but you deserve to be treated with honest communication and respect and I'm not seeing any of that. I'm seeing either someone with an over-inflated opinion of themselves who likes keeping a variety of women dangling because it feeds his ego, who is calculatingly applying a hot/cold to keep you interested. or someone who is just a twat.
   
   in summary: he's an idiot. you are a young leopard print clad Jackie Collins. If I were you I'd get back on dating sites toot sweetie - especially the ones you know he frequents.

[OhWesternWind]

Got huge butterflies/nerves about seeing LM tonight. Sense of impending dooooooom and it's not even Winedoom. He's been good with phoning but seems to have totally abandoned replying to any texts which is unsettling me. It's over a week since I last saw him, nearly two since we had the chance to go to bed.

I'm feeling very sidelined and pushed out, low down on his list of priorities. I know his children will always come first, but i cant see why we cant see each other when he has his children, either all together kids and all or stopping in. Or he could get a babysitter like I have to. And he is making time to see his sodding Little Friend over Easter but no plans with me so far. Just feeling a bit frustrated, I know he's been hugely busy with his shop, which I do understand. Just letting off steam a bit.

Maybe I should be a bit more high maintenance and demanding like his friend (and his mum) but its really not me, plus I think he has enough demanding women in his life.

Part of me thinks tell him, part of me thinks this isn't a good time for that kind of conversation and to leave it a while. Advice please!