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Dating chat thread! Number 47

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lubeybooby · 20/03/2013 19:43

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

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ike1 · 21/03/2013 15:07

Think about after school club oww...mine love it! Do you think it could be the start of alzheimers or dementia?

48howdidthathappen · 21/03/2013 15:08

What a day.

Came home for lunch. Locked myself out Angry Mad panic! Shut my bedroom window this morning. I never do that. Sat in car pondering what to do. My sister called she had just bumped into Mr OZ. He has just got back.
He is calling me tonight

Went back to work. Text a friend "get on my sons FB and find out no of his locksmith mate. Called him, he came round and sorted it. For free Smile

Told Mr R&R by text Mr OZ is back. I don't like secrets.

Going back to work now. And breathe.

OhWesternWind · 21/03/2013 15:11

She's been getting more erratic for a while but this week's behaviour is very bizarre and upsetting. Could be the start of something but she will never admit there is a problem.

Only thing about after school club is the ££££ but it might be the only way forward. Sad [worried]

OhWesternWind · 21/03/2013 15:13

Oh bloody hell 48 what a day!! Mr Oz is back double bloody hell!!! What are you going to do?

ike1 · 21/03/2013 15:18

Depends OWW you may get tax credits...

ike1 · 21/03/2013 15:19

Or part and part with mum and after school

KirstyWirsty · 21/03/2013 16:08

48 what are you going to do re Mr Oz

OWW are there no mums from school who could help out?

I may have a date on Sunday Wink

Snapespeare · 21/03/2013 16:27

buffy (I know you're not here but)

bant I hope you are walking around with a GIANT grin on your face today. and extra points for being honest with MedStudent

48 yay! and ooh. points for you as well for being honest and telling mr R&R

OWW hope your mums MH isn't too difficult. Thinking of you. agree re tax credits, but finding an after-school can be a PITTits

VelvetSpoon · 21/03/2013 17:37

Western, how stressful re your mum. Hope you can sort something out re the DCs.

I might (and it is only a might) see C tonight. It may be end of next week or later otherwise, and I don't want to wait that long. So we are trying for tonight - subject to how late the school thing goes on etc.

I am reserving judgment til I speak to him, and we have a proper conversation. I know you all think I deserve better, and am probably being stupid, but this feels like the right thing to do.

JulietteMontague · 21/03/2013 17:47

Velvet you are not being stupid, hopeful yes, but never stupid. I hope you see him, I hope you are able to get some answers as you really do deserve better than this.

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lubeybooby · 21/03/2013 17:48

Velvet, there is no doubt you do deserve better... but keep up that bolshiness and keep up the contact with C and maybe he'll actually be able to give the 'better' version... if that makes sense.

It's been so long now, it's worth a try.

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lulubellaboozle · 21/03/2013 17:51

velvet I think it is the right thing to do, find out where you stand and then you can make an informed decision about what you want to do. Hope you get to see him, parents evenings don't finish that late, and good luck

OhWesternWind · 21/03/2013 17:53

Yes, LM is at a parents' evening before he comes over tonight, it's that time of year! Hope you get to see him, Velvet, and to have a good talk with him.

My mum's currently not speaking to me, which is a relatively easy option Grin

48howdidthathappen · 21/03/2013 18:39

I am going to see Mr Oz if he is up for it, would rather tell him about Mr R&R face to face.

Mr R&R has said he ok about it, not so sure he is. But hope I proved my honesty.

VelvetSpoon · 21/03/2013 18:42

Am feeling a bit stressed both by the prospect of the conversation (and hearing stuff I dont want to hear) and not knowing for definite* if I will see him, and may therefore end up having primed myself for nothing. Aagh.

*because I don't think it starts til 7, by the time he's seen the teachers, either had a chat with his Ex (if they've gone together) or dropped DC home and then spoken to her (if hes gone alone) thats going to be 9ish at the earliest...

Plus I've never had any sort of conversation like this before, not just with him, but anyone. I've either known how someone's felt about me and been happy with the status quo or if not just dumped them without any discussion. This all feels a bit grown up and unchartered territory Blush

Am going for a lie down and to try and stop thinking about it all, and hopefully feel a bit better!

KinNora · 21/03/2013 18:43

Velvet never yet seen you be 'stupid'. I hope you get to see him tonight.

OWW give him a bit of northern diva, Little Miss Sheep Eyes needs to know precisely how unimportant she is.

Moving what a tool he is, I think you need to go out and get yourself a foxy replacement.

Bant - go Buffy ! Whadda gal.

Juliette did I miss what happened with GSM 'What Day is It' Man ?

48 blimey. Good luck with Mr Oz.

Kirsty excellent news on the date.

WFF really liked your 'things to bear in mind when OD-ing' list, it pretty much summed up my own thoughts.

Ike what's the deal with the herbalist bloke, are you going to meet him ?

Waves at everyone. No real news chez Nora ( apart from having to take part in a cheesy work photo op tomorrow with a donor, of puddings, not organs). Mr Showbiz sent me a photo of a pair of very sparkly high heels the other morning. shoe perv. Mr Software is checking out a cocktail bar he's going to take me to on my birthday trip to his city, to make sure it's 'good enough' for me. I might go Buffy on his ass.

lulubellaboozle · 21/03/2013 18:43

48 have you told Mr R&R what you are going to say to Mr Oz?

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lubeybooby · 21/03/2013 18:47

Woohoo! I'm off out tonight for curry and maybe some slight naughtiness with #1fwb. Who, thinking about it is also one of my best friends. We rock the fwb thing.

Kin I liked WFF's list as well, verrrry very good indeed. WE should put that somewhere on every thread! And yes, we should all go the way of the great Buffy at some point in our lives. :o

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48howdidthathappen · 21/03/2013 18:56

lulu I have no idea what I am going to say to Mr Oz. New ground for me Confused

I do know I missed him loads more than I thought I would. Need to meet to see if there is anything still there. He is only man I have ever met that sex didn't matter Shock

MsCellophane · 21/03/2013 18:56

hello everyone, too much to catch up on but glad everyone's tests came out in the way wanted and jealous of Bant and Snape and in awe of Velvet - you are pretty amazing!

I have been planted firmly on the sofa after MrCM. He dented me a little bit

But have been back on POF this week and set up another IE profile - hoping to find a new hotbut (who is never around when I am, have had to cancel him twice recently as my off time didn't match his)

I went on a date today - the man had 2 and a half teeth and 1 was black! I can't do bad teeth - shudder. So that was disappointing

Last night on IE profile, MrCM messaged me, didn't know it was me supposedly - absolute prick, it describes me to a T - hair, eyes, shape, location - had a brief convo, I scared him apparently (bless) he still isn't sure he is ready for anything, he asked if he could say hi sometime, I was polite and said if you want to. I didn't say I would say hi back though and I don't think I will :)

No other men in the pipeline, so will carry on halfheartedly and see what turns up

lulubellaboozle · 21/03/2013 18:59

I can see why Mr R&R may be a bit unsure then 48. when you say sex didn't matter, what do you mean exactly? xx

lulubellaboozle · 21/03/2013 19:00

Oops texting and MNetting at same time, added xx as derigeur for my texts Blush

48howdidthathappen · 21/03/2013 19:04

Mr R&R & me are both very sexual, which is fantastic, we have a lot of Coffee.

Mr OZ not so, he is very inexperienced and quite shy. I didn't care. Loved every minute with him. It was like we had known each other all our lives.

JakeBullet · 21/03/2013 19:14

Glad to have found this thread....hoping for some advice.

I have been single a long time but recently heard again from a man I started chatting to on a dating site last year. We have never met because I wasn't in the frame of mind for it last year but we did exchange a couple of friendly emails.

Anyway....lots of recent emails later we are now planning to meet up for lunch.

So...he is widowed, has older and adult children...some still living at home.
Nursed his wife at home while she was dying.
Has been single more or less since she died....had one relationship after a year but said it was too soon so didn't last.
Now it's several years on and he feels ready again he says...his children are much older now.

But but.....the younger ones have had loads of issues as a result of losing their Mum...this is understandable.
He is out of work and struggling financially.....again this is not an issue to me.
There seems to be a lot of need still from his children....while I have no issue with this we do live quite a distance apart and am not sure we can have a relationship as I am tied to this area and he is tied to his.

We are going to meet for lunch in April but honestly don't know if this can go anywhere. He sounds like such a lovely man though and comes across well on email. It's less easy by phone as I am nervous and he is just....well....a typical bloke who doesn't know what to say on the phone lol. I need to meet him to see if this can go anywhere or not.

Would the issues put YOU off? I am a little bit reticent but it's due to the logistics rather than anything else.

SweetSeraphim · 21/03/2013 19:22

Yes, they would really put me off I'm afraid.

There are so many men out there... why pick one with all that baggage. Dykwim?