Dating chat thread! Number 47

[lubeybooby]

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

Yeah you have probably come into light sleep after 4hrs what a pain! Good luck with the trick Lubes!

Well actually I slept for half an hour or so then woke up. Can't get back to sleep, feel pretty upset.

Hope your cup of tea works Lubes!

How was the film ike?

What do you want to talk about lovely? I went to see Side Effects that was quite good... I thought Zeta Jones looked too thin and it made her look old.

Hows that for a rubbish review haha..

I find it hard to sleep when I am upset...thats why I keep a store of sleepeaze.

I'm feeling a bit crap really Ike, can't switch off. He said its "better for me" if we finish. What is that supposed to mean?

Full believer in pharmacuticals ...even though after that film ...erm maybe I should review my keeness

If I had some I'd take them!

Oh...I thought I had read most of the thread ....has he suggested you finish then?

OWW all I'm going to say is that you are a spectacularly lovely woman and you deserve so much more than this. And it's not you whittling or whatever, you really should be getting a thousand times more here. Shutting up now.

Hot cuppa being downed... I'll be back in about half an hour if it doesn't work!

I wonder what he means by that? What a peculiar thing to say.....

Well I said what he was saying sounded like a prelude to finishing it, but we could have something amazing but I'm not running after someone who's not interested, he said point understood and accepted, I said well that tells me what I need to know, is that it then, he said he thinks it would be better for me, then I tried to phone, he wouldn't answer, texted that we will talk tomorrow.

I really am a bit discombobulated by the situation OWW and at a loss as to advise really...I dont tend to finish relationships very decisively and tend to let them drag on longer than they should. But, for example, when TR and I finished, it sure was over and I was happy with why. Does that make sense?

It sounds like some sort of strange blame shift to me...and then a power trip...annoying to say the very least...

I am a bit taken aback too ike tbh, I was a little bit pissed but not a lot, it all started off by me saying I'd like to see more of him and just because I didn't act all princess's and stamp my foot meant I always seemed to be the last in the queue when he was sorting out his time. Never expected any of this.

All very, very odd and upsetting.

This just doesn't fit with how he was with me on Thursday, we had a great night, I know he did too so what really has changed? All I said really was about seeing more of him. Feel like I have been really strung along and misled to say the least if he's going to finish it now.

Yes it is OWW... not cycles you are describing sound a bit like myself and TR...totally different argument topic but it would be 2 weeks of fun and laughter then a row a week of ignoring and then the same again. Exhausting and actually althouh I miss his company because we did have alot of fun, my god I am considerably more settled emotionally without him.

sorry the cycles

I am not particularly more lonely because I have let others into my life to fill the gap now...and do other things...the gym, ushering..etc

Well that makes sense Ike, this hot and cold stuff is very hard to live with and no good for me, must have been the same with TR. emotionally exhausting.

I am assuming these cycles occured are because fundamentally we were not emotionally compatible, even though the fun and quirky side of out personalities did. And at times we really sparked off an abusive side to each other aswell...unhealthy. I suppose I am suggesting the same may be true for you and LM to a lesser degree. What do you think OWW?

Sorry the above reads very badly ...but you get the jist?

Yes, that all makes sense. I'd really thought lm and I got on really well, haven't argued or anything but this whole relationship has made me really anxious probably because I could sense at some level he wasn't feeling the same even though he says he loves me. I am just so confused over all this, need to talk to him I suppose.

Thank you for listening ike

I suppose what I am trying to say....extremely badly...is that there are some fundamental differences in both of your emotional make up and needs. This is causing a schism in the relationship. At the present time he seems unwilling or unable to give you what you need.

You need to weigh up the benefits of the good times against the not so good times. This is a cycle...how you break it I dont know...but in my experience the good times will become fewer unless you do break the cycle.