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Dating chat thread! Number 47

999 replies

lubeybooby · 20/03/2013 19:43

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

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OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 19:43

Last time I phoned he didn't pick up. Am now slightly pussed so don't want to speak.

KinNora · 23/03/2013 19:43

Moving I hope you told him to go fuck himself, nothing to do with him how you conduct your life. He knows nothing , remember that.

Juliette how very awkward, I don't think that ever gets easy still, character building for him

48howdidthathappen · 23/03/2013 19:45

Means I have shave my legs now Grin

KinNora · 23/03/2013 19:46

OWW just spend the evening having fun, getting drunk and send him some mucky texts later if you feel well disposed toward him later on.

KinNora · 23/03/2013 19:47

Awwww, Mr R&R, he luffs you, 48

48howdidthathappen · 23/03/2013 19:47

to . The thought of unexpected cock is affecting my brain.

MirandaWest · 23/03/2013 19:49

I'd quite like unexpected cock. Well only one cock and if it appeared now would be very unexpected.

KirstyWirsty · 23/03/2013 19:49

nora no ..west Kilbride

OWW does he always reply immediately to texts?

KirstyWirsty · 23/03/2013 19:50

48 I think he loves you too Grin

KinNora · 23/03/2013 19:52

Kirsty he just sounded like someone I used to know, seeing as he's not, he might turn out to be alright.

lubeybooby · 23/03/2013 19:59

warm milk and an early night for me tonight... I am too cold to read the thread properly despite full heating, fan heater, three layers and a dressing gown Shock so time to give up and head for the duvet i think.

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OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 20:00

Sometimes he replies, sometimes not. Can't work out why. He's texting less now than at first but I think that's normal although I do miss the banter. Oh dear. He says he might have his boys tomorrow, won't know til tomorrow. But this is his child free weekend in theory. I know it's difficult to turn down having the children but how can we make plans if he jumps every time his ex asks?

Snapespeare · 23/03/2013 20:07

Owooh, kin missed it. Will grab on catch up...

Movingforward123 · 23/03/2013 20:14

Kin - I did tell him to fuck off out of my house :(

I'm just upset as some of the things he's saying is true, I am alone, I do spend every night alone, I do struggle financially as I'm a single mum (although I am still better off then him) and I do also worry that I won't ever be able to settle down, due to the guys u think I like not bothering with me and me not liking many people.

But I have the sweetest little girl in the world and even tho I'm not as comfortable as I would like to be my dd has everything she needs and we have a nice home and nice car etc. I'm studying to better myself and keep trying!

He is a lazy little 22 year old who has a girlfriend and thinks that he is better then me a I'm alone? How does that work out!

KinNora · 23/03/2013 20:26

Snape don't be too excited, I thought it was going to be all Dr Who questions but it was the same as usual, except with ex-Dr Who cast members. K9 did put in an appearance though so it wasn't all bad.

Moving but what about all the good things about you and your life ? I don't suppose he mentioned those, did he ? Like the fact that you're brave enough to be independent and strike out on your own. Like you bringing up your child to be a decent human being. Like you studying to improve life for you and your child. Your life won't always be this hard, things will get better, don't let him get to you, he knows nothing. Chin up, chuck

lubeybooby · 23/03/2013 20:28

yep, moving... what Kin said

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KirstyWirsty · 23/03/2013 20:38

moving I can't put it better than Nora so what she said ^

OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 20:55

Moving you ate doing a brilliant job. Hell yes it's hard, but you are stepping up and providing a wonderful life for your dd. good on you. Your life (and hers) will get better and better, thanks to you. Other people's won't.

It's only going to get better for you, you know that.

Movingforward123 · 23/03/2013 21:08

Thank you all for the support! I just think its really crap of him to keep zoning in on the one thing I'm missing in my life. I think the reason he does it is because he is trying to show me that I should have a man in my life. And he thinks I don't want one, I really do but I'm not settling for one that I just don't want enough.

When he got home he tried calling me twice! I didn't answer and he left me a voicemail saying that was a pointless argument and he doesn't want to fall out with me. But he didn't say sorry for attacking me about my
Own life! He said call me later if you want to make friends.

We are usually very Close and I always try to support him when he has problems etc, but I don't feel I get that back from him. Which used to be ok as he is my younger brother, bug as he thinks he's such an adult then starting to feel like the support should go both ways.

I feel like texting him to explain that him going on about me being a single
Mum and being alone every night, and with my bad leg having to stay at my mums and not having a partner to support me etc, is like me saying to him "oh you never have any money, you can never hold down a job, you and your gf are very overweight" but I don't say those things and zone in on the negative things in his life. Instead I encourage him to get a job and help him to prepare and advise him on other ways to find jobs etc. and I encourage him to exercise and say that I know he can reach his goals instead of putting him down.

I wonder if I should text him to explain this?

KinNora · 23/03/2013 21:12

Personally I'd just leave him be for a bit, you're not going to make him see sense. He sounds way too involved in your life - you're an adult, he's allowed to care about you but not foist his opinions on you.

OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 21:20

Oh bollicks seem to have got into a not seeing me often enough/ Little Friend conversation by text when pissed. Not good. Could say the wrong thing. Have already told him to disregard any texting after 8 pm but it's not going to end well even if he doesn't reply to my last one. Don't think I will be seeing him tomorrow.

KinNora · 23/03/2013 21:30

OWW if you think you're going to say something you'll regret, turn your phone off and lock it away somewhere.

Movingforward123 · 23/03/2013 21:35

Western - what did you say in the last message?

Its not good when your just waiting for a reply and they take too long!

OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 21:44

Oh it is a bit late for that. I think it's fucked. I said I need to see him more than every eight days, he said he feels the same and will be fine when he's sorted with the shop and his dcs, I said well that's a bit of a moveable feast, feel like I'm a low priority cos I don't cause a fuss and stamp my foot and btw is your Friend staying for a few days soon? He said i need to think about what im doing to you, will call tomorrow, i said well that is jyst a orelude to finishing it, i live you and think we could have something brilliant but i am mot going to kerp chasing adter someone who isnt intersdted. Then he said point understood and accepted, I said well that tells me all I need to know.

OhWesternWind · 23/03/2013 21:45

Except without typos Grin

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