Dating thread no 45

[JulietteMontague]

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

No Jules that one has me stumped...I wonder if it is a euphemism or something? Wine that must have been such a hard decision to make...I am full of admiration because it is stepping into the unknown with absolutely no comfort blanket! Well done!

Dunno Snape...but I dont think I ever want to go down that route again...how about 'mate'???

You would think it would be the other way around wouldnt you Wine?

Yeah probs Wine...and you really, really wont mind?

Gosh its funny how the feelings turn like that Wine. Well obvs you couldnt remain in the relationship then. See I would be pissed off if TR met someone but mainly because he would have beaten me to it!!!!!

We had that sort of childish, competitve relationship...who could sulk the longest that sort of thing...

I was married once, early twenties in another country. He was emotionally abusive, cut me off from everyone and then became violent. After a year or so I literally escaped with my passport and a plastic carrier bag as I couldn't risk the attention of a suitcase.

I would love to be married.

I was married. He was emotionally abusive but only at times, and I always stood up for myself so those factors meant it took me quite a while to realise how wrong things were. We could have a stretch of being totally happy for up to a year at a time then a really bad spell of abuse. It was odd.

We were friends at first after the split but I try to distance myself a lot more now. We still aren't divorced and he's going to be a nightmare when all that has to kick off this year... argh.

Well exactly...I am far too wonderful for him and he should have tretted me better! In my fantasy I swan into one of our old haunts with the gorgeous, dredded, 'married' gardener on my arm... TR looks up and knows the score is 1-0 to me!!!! That's my main use for Mr Gorgeous Gardener...wierd huh???hahaha

Jule...my goodness that is such classic abusive behaviour! Well done for escaping...where did you go?

Lubes oh god what a drag....so glad I divorced exH early on..I think it was easier to sway things financially in my favour because deep down he felt guilty...it would be a totally different story now

So much for the fasting hummus, olives and choccy dooby oh yeah!!

I have two options, the nightmare divorce where I actually pursue my lot... or the one where I do it myself and just leave it. I have all the forms and could make it very easy... I just dunno.

I am still deciding if it's worth the aggro.

I honestly can't think of a single good reason to get married, not one. Glad I wasn't married to my ex (he did ask at one point and I said yes but then I realised it was wrong and I couldn't, should have realisd the whole thing was wrong!) as he would have taken me for even more money, pension share etc etc when we split.

Interestingly, the I Ching (Snape 's influence from when the thread went a bit woo) says I will get married to LM - did a reading last week in the throes of angst and woe to ask what would happen if I stay with him and it said "Supreme success. This course leads to marriage". Oh no it doesn't!!

At the moment I don't fancy living with anyone or getting married. I like my own space and my own place. I'm probably too selfish and set in my ways to live with anyone again, but who knows? I think you can love someone and have a good relationship with them without having to live with them, at least for a couple of years, and I'll cross that bridge if I ever come to it.

I would pursue my lot Lubes ...depends though, are we talking a house deposit size 'lot'??

Hmm... not really, more like a car...

the update on lack of sleepwatch...managed 10 mins before DS1 woke me up screaming and shouting on his xbox (from the other end of the house. Not happy. And now feel wide awake though still ever so tired at the same time. Bollocks to this.

Still worth having Lubey!

If I could move away I'd go for it... but being in the same town him and his family could make things a nightmare for my DD (he isn't her dad)

So I just don't know. And I can't move. I'd have to take about a million brave pills.