Dating thread no 45

[JulietteMontague]

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

Velvet it just helps you to drop off and wears off quickly after that... they don't totally knock you out and leave you vulnerable or anything. I know having been woken by my cats fighting about an hour after sleep aid induced dropping off once! But anyway i hope you have a lovely nights rest.

And as I was saying on the other thread re marriage ... the past isn't an indicator of the future. You never know :)

and you dodged a bullet not marrying your exes! They are no reflection on you and your marriageability. It only reflects on them, who have already proved themselves to be crap, and most likely just not the marriage type who wouldn't marry anyone ever. And if they do end up getting married ever I bet it's to some really overbearing horrid woman who stamps feet and demands it and they won't be happy.

Lube ,,hahaha ..see above..re 'making'

Oh i appear to be chatting to someone sensible...how did THAT happen???

Day 1 of the 2:5 diet and I could eat a scabby horse between 2 mattresses...

haha ike!! I have a feeling you didn't hold a gun to his head though somehow

No ...tempted to do so on occasions now though....

chokes laughing with mouth full... clears up muffin crumbs from desk and keyboard

and legs

anyone want a nosey at this weeks visiting scotsmens profile.. pm me

Woman no. 2 has replied with a "thanks but no thanks" message so at least I know where I stand with her.

CJ has also replied. she wrote the following: " Thank you for your lovely words about me, I'm just a normal human being with all the normal human flaws trying to do my best and hoping in some small way to be able to leave the world a better place. I do really value the nice friendship we have developed and would love to catch up for dinner on the Friday night". this sounds like she either only wants friendship or wants to take it very slow.

I'd say she's just trying not come across a certain way/be very subtle, bloke. I don't know any woman who really just wants a male friend and will bother going to dinner for friendships sake :) so taking it a little slow maybe but i think she's interested.

it's ok Winefiend there are nearly 600,000 left

Bloke I'm glad she replied, even though it wasn't good news. Well, as for CJ, I think she's telling you she likes you but wants to take it slowly. Maybe she's one of those people who are a bit uncomfortable with compliments, bit of a self-esteem thing maybe. Friendship and getting on well is an excellent start and a prerequisite for anything else to be able to happen for a lot of people.

Velvet you are beautiful and intelligent and wonderful in a lot of ways. Hope you get a good sleep and feel better tomorrow. I've never got married either, and don't think I ever will, but that doesn't mean anything at all about me or my life or my capacity to love and be loved.

And hooray for the normal ODers in evidence tonight!

Bloke, She sounds interested and maybe wants to see if anything develops between you both rather than rushing into something. I disagree with Lubey and speaking for myself I would go out with someone a couple of times if I liked them but wasn't sure if there was a spark, which isn't always a good thing, but then again if I really couldn't see it I definitely wouldn't see them again.

Seems like it's the night for 'normal'. I finally got a photo from a guy off my now deleted POF and he looks very presentable and we have moved onto texts.

Scrazy but that's the thing you would have to have some interest there to want to give it another date to see... and you wouldn't keep that up forever right it goes one way or another.. I don't mean she's she's falling over herself interested... just not intending on only ever being friends. If that makes sense

Yes Lubey I agree with that. I've sometimes gone on another date to give it chance but deep down knowing it's probably a non starter, that's different to a definite ew no.

Hmmmm well it was all ok but he has just told me to 'calm down' because I added a few extra ??? after asking him what a food engineer does. So now he's my Dad and can bloody well wait for a response...

Wine, if you dont mind me asking...why did you split from lovely ex?

Yeah I've done the same Scrazy... been surprised a couple of times too when it's gone much better a couple or few dates in. Worth a go sometimes... but there always must be a little interest/curiosity there otherwise it's just a flat no...

ordinary bloke .....note the words 'love to catch up'???

Bloke if it wasn't for the I'm just a normal etc I would say she just want's friends (if maybe she didn't have many) but with all that I'd say she definitely likes you and wants to see what develops. Agree she wouldn't bother otherwise. .

I've rejoined gsm so let's see. Even with the IE filter off, I got nothing on POF although possibly normal man has just written several sentences. I'm not ugly, I don't get it.

A man with a POF profile that doesn't add up also sent me a message saying he is sorted with his kids and ex and now has the 'return' which means he is serious about dating. Anyone know what a 'return' could be?

Ike??? Calm down

Ike, I'm doing the 5:2. Not sure I can do another fast this week as I'm away on my little holiday but will keep at it when I get back. It feels like it's working, my tummy fat is shrinking and you get used to the fast days, even if you do feel you might keel over.

Anyway, there are plenty if other threads about this so I will shut up now.

Was married once, very young, because my mum had died and I had no family. I grew out of it. :) Didn't marry kids dad, although he asked, he asked when I found out I was pregnant with DD and I didn't think that was a good enough reason.... Then had a proposal from an American chap, but neither of us could give up our home, so that didn't really do it either.

I'd quite like to get married though. Purely because calling someone bf/gf at my advanced age is ridiculous, 'partner' is too businesslike and husband/wife has a nice ring about it... What does one call ones 'significant other' these days? It's been a while....