Dating thread no 45

[JulietteMontague]

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

On the other hand Snape, people who get engaged might be blissfully happy. I was looking round wedding venues last weekend, they are very happy and have been together years. Nothing worse to make you feel single, nah it was a pleasure really and got me thinking about my own white wedding many moons ago.

Velvet... it's sooo not down to you not being good enough, just the blokes so far have not been good enough.

Hope you get enough sleep and feel better soon.

oh and ike is right about boots sleepeaze 50mg (the one a night ones)

have sorted me out many a time when my sleep goes all crap/wonky/poor quality etc. Just use them a couple of nights for a decent earlier routine again, that's what i do anyway. helps no end.

I agree it's not about anyone not being good enough.

oh they'll be blissfully happy.... for a while...

Well, thanks OWW, for the encouragement, my shed now has a new roof! I'm just a weeny bit proud of myself (you're right, though, it's not actually a difficult job).

It will all buckle and what have you in the summer, because I couldn't be bothered to get it taught enough, but who cares?

Oh, and I managed to flash my arse at my neighbour, builder's bum style, while on top of the shed.

Welcome home, Lubes.

velvet 'getting engaged' as a concept as opposed to just deciding to get married is just so, and this is the most damning thing I can say, Slough. And only the deluded are happy in Slough.

You are lovely, the men you've met generally simply haven't been good enough for you.

In irrelevant news, I did 15 minutes of intervals in arctic conditions which has broken another taboo about running outside so I'm

Yay for the intervals .

Will run tomorrow. Today had a bit of bike riding in.

Hello everyone, not had chance to read properly today but will settle down and catch up in a bit .

well done juliette! :o

oww - great news about LM. It just proves that it is best to follow your gut instinct.

velvet - I hope you get a good night´s sleep tonight. I hear that lavender helps. A nice long bath with lavender bath salts/bubble bath might help, if you have that. And I am sure you are a great parent - you just need to be easier on yourself.

lubey - glad you had a great time in Scotland. Perhaps you need to conquer (the men in) Wales and Northern Ireland next!

Bant - you need to have a good old think about what would be better - a temporary relationship with the US lefty or not - the latter will either mean you do not meet someone so nice/compatable in that period before she leaves or that you do meet someone like that who is not planning to return to another continent within the same period. It is a difficult one, but it is still very early days with her.

And me? I had a nice date with CJ Friday we talked loads and openned-up about a lot of our past to each other. But there was no intimacy - neither kissing nor hand-holding. I wanted to, but the opportunity just did not arise. So either she does not fancy me or she is a bit reserved about being the person to initiate such behaviour. We correspond every day or two with each other and in my e-mail tonight I made it very clear that I really liked her. So hopefully I will receive a reply which gives me an idea of what she thinks about me.

Date with woman no.2 (I will give her a proper nickname if there is a 2nd date) also went very well. She did have to leave after a couple of hours later to pick up her DCs. Later on the day (Sunday) I sent her a message saying how much I enjoyed being with her and hoping we could meet-up again. Well that was 48 hours ago and still no reply from her. I know she has a very busy life at the moment and that she was not feeling a 100% on Sunday, but since I sent my message I have seen that he has been online on the OD site a couple of times, and still nothing. It does not take a couple of minutes to send a "sorry, I am very busy but I will reply more fully later" message, so I am not too hopeful.

Velvet, have you ever tried relaxation/self hypnosis tapes or apps ? I use them whenever I'm very stressed or having problems sleeping and they work brilliantly, despite me being Lady Cynical Mc Dubious of NoWoo Hall.

Snape, more awwwws, how delightfully lovely and heartwarming (also nearly Dr Who time again - yaaaay !).

Ike, I'm glad you're back to your usual incorrigible self, I haven't been posing for The Fallen Madonna With the Big Boobies, I have been working, innit ( and flirting a bit )

Juliette, I'm so going to pick my own pope in a minute. ( GSM going through a fallow phase at the moment IMO )

OWW, couldn't be more pleased that things are getting back on an even keel with LM.

48, your mum's not back home until Friday, is that what you said ? Are there problems getting the house ready for her ?

Lubey, your little trip up to Scotland sounded just the ticket and the journey along the coast is just so beautiful, I love it.

Bant, yes to Buffy, repeat, affirmative to Buffy - she sounds the best so far (I'd leave it a while before you get your wurzels out though )

Flipper, blimey you're brave sorting out the shed roof, especially in this weather.

Miranda, how long's Mr N staying in California ? 2 weeks ? It'll fly by.

Moving, another one saying avoid the tosspots.

1980, don't be putting up with any shit, those days have gone for us all.

And a big ' helloooooooooooooo' to everyone else.

Mr S still being resolutely unsmutty but was genuinely very pleased when I said I was visiting his city. Mr Showbiz is showing all the signs of being a right perv, I may have sent him a photo of me wearing the 5" heels I teetered around my Christmas party in, he described it as a 'fillip'. Strange Coincidence Man is quite possibly on the knobber scale. Still no sign of Mr Perfect. Pah.

bloke, in my experience, there is always time to send a quick text if you want to. Sorry mate. NEXT!

SweetSeraphim, she just signed-on to the site 10 minutes ago. And still no message. I am a firm believer in the saying "treat others the way you would want to be treated."

I completely agree bloke. She is being utterly rude. But there's a lot of it about, I'm afraid!

Bloke meh to people without manners, CJ sounds more promising.

Kin do let me know which Pope you choose. I had the one from the Philippines (possibly most difficult word to spell, that). Wasn't sure if you would like Mr S to be smutty, personally I don't do men who get smutty out of the bedroom and ime the less talk the more action

Lubey it's great to see you enjoying Scotland yourself, you so deserve a little me time.

Miranda I had no idea how much running in the cold feels like going uphill. I'm in awe that you do it.

Juliette, freaky, I got the bloke from the Philippines too, is this a sign ? Are we instruments of The Holy Ghost ? Shall we nip down to Ladbrokes ASAP ?

Kin yes it was absolutely gorgeous and so sunny just for that portion of the train ride too. Lovely, really glad I went that way. Glad i didn't bother upgrading to first class... I had loads of room anyway, a table all to myself, virtually empty train and the seats were nice. Good one and a thumbs up to east coat trains there. And they gave me 15 mins free wifi :o

Flipper wow well done with the roof!

Bloke, nah I think I'll stick with the Scots, seeing as I have one visiting me soon and I was so thoroughly impressed with them in general. I agree btw woman no 2 is being very rude.

Oh and Mr S is the perfect gentleman but I wouldn't mind the occasional twinkle of smut.

Lubey it's the way the track virtually runs along the edge of the coast, so wild and windswept, of course you get the Lakes when you go up the other side of the country - it's win/win, and you end up in Scotland so win/win/win.

Yes Kin I love the west coast too though got to drive through that thanks to my lift... have done that journey on the train though before as well but this was my first jaunt down the east side. Really stunning. I wanted to stop and go for a walk.

The more I think about the trip, the more I'm impressed with Scotlandish males. So many very gorgeous and polite and even... chivalrous... that was in person, generally around town, the various hotels, train station, even cab drivers and train staff were more helpful and nice. Plus my dates. So it seems my experience with PoF being not so awful for that area maybe reflects how it actually is. Hmm. May have to conjure up work events there more often..

thanks everyone for being so kind to poor sleep deprived me :)

I know it's silly, but all this getting married stuff makes me sad, because I've never EVER felt like it was within my reach. I always thought growing up I could be and do anything, that I was amazing and unique, and I would have whatever man I wanted, because thats what my parents brought me up to believe. But I've never even been close to being married, no-ones ever loved me that much. and although I know many marriages fail, and its not the be all and end all, its still quite a sad realisation, especially since I know people my age on their second and third marriages. And I never even got out of the starting gates!

Anyway after a few tears I've had a hot bath and am now mn-ing from bed (that's possibly TMI). Am feeling tired so hoping sleep won't elude me. I have a slight fear of making myself sleep, I dont know why (I am a bit odd sometimes I know), so with luck it will happen naturally...fingers crossed. and hope that with more sleep i'll be slightly more cheery tomorrow.

Yes Flipper congrats on the shed roof.

Kin it is indeed a sign my child. All rise (that's to the others, doesn't apply to you or me of course)

Velvet look around you at friends marriages. Some people just aren't very choosy.

Velv apparently I managed to MAKE my exH marry me....so if I can do it...