Dating thread no 45

[JulietteMontague]

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

Lubey the view from the train on that line is lovely :)

Sadly I have to go and have invigilator training or it would have been great to have met at York.

Mr Nice messaged me at 1 - they were safely there and it is Hot. I have warmth envy.

Moving - I'd have no contact with either of them, they've both mucked about in the past and you don't need that sort of stuff in your life.

Ooh Bant she's sounding good, I like the cut of her jib (apart from the glasses on a string. Was it a plain cord or beaded and bejewelled?).

Snape lovely to hear that things are moving on well with Nameless. So very happy for you.

Miranda the only thing to do is keep busy. It will pass before you know it and he'll be back.

Velvet well it's great that C is replying a lot more quickly. That's a very good sign, and like you said the other stuff isn't new, it's just how he is, so I don't think there's anything sinister to be read into it. Shame about Friday, though.

Flipper - good luck with the shed. It's not a bad job if you're okay on ladders.

Still smiling here . . . All feels good. Seeing him on Wednesday but it's my teenage babysitter not my mum so I have to be in by 10.30. Oh well, much better than nothing, and I might bring him in with me afterwards for Coffee (definitely with a capital C, can't get enough of him) if children are fast asleep . . . Shop stuff going well, feels like it is all coming together. Nora could I PM you sometime about some health stuff though please?

Yes where is Kin? Still posing for her portrait???

Western I know I'm being silly. I am so ridiculously tired I just can't think straight. I am a bit disappointed about not seeing him on friday too, because it probably means I now won't see him til next fri, which seems ever such a long way off :(

Really struggling at work, today will be really hard going. Just want to go home and sleep. Except I know that when I do get to bed, I will just lie awake for hours. Ugh.

Moving - I would also keep well clear

so, by way of a bit more information - I was hammered and playing scrabble with nameless on sunday night - general chat?. I finished an email with 'I'm a bit smitten with you - just so you know' there were more generally chit-chatty kisses, no mention of the smitteness - he finished up with 'I wish I could kiss you right now' then a bit of a lull Monday morning, at which point I'm thinking I've over-played my hand a bit, maybe. Anyway, I bowled up last night with cake. there was kissing. he said he might be a bit smitten with me as well, then offered me a massage. I took off the majority of my clothes , got a fab backrub and afterwards, when we were tucked up in blankets he said, 'well now that we've both had a massage, I think that means we're a couple now?.if you'd like to be?'

this is terribly good fun, just as I was leaving for my train (no sleepovers on school nights?) he asked when he'd see me again, I'm all, 'oh. I have to see you again NOW THAT WE'RE A COUPLE? can't we just skype?'

texts now go 'home safe, bundled up in my jarmas, no need to allude to sexy nightwear/bareskin NOW THAT WE'RE A COUPLE'

he has the docs on wednesday re herpes. hoping for an all-clear as not having PIV/genital contact until all clear

updated fb with 'sitting cross-legged on my kitchen table, listening to a mix tape some boy made me and grinning like an idiot' got 25 likes and then deleted it. One does not splash ones life all over fb, one ensures that the people who need to know have seen and digested it and then enigmatically deletes.

velvet (((hug))) Sorry, am being smug and insensitive.

I saw your fb status Snape (and liked it). Was lovely :)

Snape - all sounds lovely. But I hope all goes well at the doctors!

Velvet - sorry to hear your not feeling happy at the moment

That insomnia is a bugger, Velvet. Hope you can manage to switch off tonight and get some decent sleep.

Velvet I don't think you are being silly, you feel like crap, haven't slept, have a heavy work day that you have to be there for so it's not surprising you might read more into the text although it is a normal C text and at least you know.

Bant I'm in camp Duffy, she sounds great and you like her

Moving just no, both of them are bad news and you can do better that either of them

Flipper do you still have the felt? if so, a few heavy bricks can keep it in place as a temporary thing to stop the roof getting sodden if rain is due.

I've disabled my profile on OKC. I seem to have exhausted the possibilities on their and will reinvent myself as 49 I have never had any possibles on POF, I could count the messages that were literate on one hand over 2 years.

Will bite the bullet and re-subscribe to gsm

Snape
Moving - Avoid them both

Well MedStudent just had to postpone our planned second date on Wednesday, which would mean it would be middle of next week when we're both back from trips away.

I liked her. She was very intense and, as I said, a bit more on the bitey side than I usually like, but we talked for 9 hours straight, along with some kissing.
Okay, lots of kissing, and quite a bit of nakedness once we got back to hers.

I've said we can meet when she's back.

However, Buffy (who looks nothing like Sarah Michelle Gellar, actually now I think about it more like Selma Hayek (?) ) didn't impress me hugely when she turned up. She looked, as I said, very schoolmarmish with the big thick framed glasses with a (beaded) chain - apparently she can't wear most jewellery and doesn't like gold so that's the only thing she can get away with. She is, as I said, ridiculously left-wing, a democratic political activist from Chicago, almost to the point of pastiche.

And we verbally sparred a bit about politics and tv and books and agreed on some things and disagreed on others, and I made her laugh a few times - then we realised the place was closing after 3 hours so moved on to another place, sharing a cigarette on the way. Then more beers and food, I took her glasses off and it was like Plain Jane from Neighbours (hey, I'm that old). She was really very gorgeous indeed. And we kissed a little bit.

Then we walked back to the Tram stop together, kissed more and she did that whole pulling-me-toward-her-with-her-whole-body-thing which is just the right amount of aggressiveness for a first date passionate snog.

She jumped on her tram going one way, I was going the other way. For some reason I reached into my pocket and pulled out a pack of chewing gum and broke it in two and gave it to her. I was going for the 'give you my last rolo' thing but she said. "Mints? After a kiss? Really?" and grinned, then the doors slid shut and I was grinning like a moron.

She wants to go out next week. I asked her, she said yes. And she knows Rolos after I told her that's what I was going for.

But.. she's leaving to go back to the US in a couple of months.

bugger

Bant yes she's leaving, but is sounds like she could be flexible. You really like this woman, yes it would be sad if she went back but meanwhile you'd potentially have a wonderful time. I'm getting vibes that she's kind of special and you deserve a good one who is going to be able to match you.

Snape, this is great, to actually ask you if you want to be a couple rather than keep you guessing, I don't think anyone has actually asked me this all my life.

Bant, she sounds lovely. I guess she is a feminist so you might not get on that well in the long run . I think you once dissed it on here but you might have been joking.

Velvet, hope you feel better soon.

Lubey, sounds like Scotland has perked you up.

Nothing new from me, I'm off down south for a few days on Thursday.

High to everyone else.

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One thing I learned about online dating from Buffy. Apparently there is a site in the US for 'furries' - people who want to dress up as animals. Cats and bears and such. Then have sex with each other.

However, she thought the concept of UniformDating.com was hilarious.

And I have no problem with feminism. My father was a feminist. Not my mum though, my dad didn't approve.

Buffy looks like SALMA HAYEK!?!?

and you're complaining that she wears glasses!!!???

I remember plain Jane on Neighbours. I am not old :)

Thanks Juliette, I know I am being a bit silly and over-emotional though. Got offended by a friend's text earlier by completely misconstruing the meaning due to tiredness. Am going straight home after work, boys will have to have crap ready meal dinner as I am a shit parent too tired to cook, will have a bath and then bed. And hopefully sleep.

So being tired and overthinking I have got upset today thinking about all the happy stuff on here and on FB (2 people I know got engaged at the weekend - not to each other - one couple has only been together since October!) and wondering for the millionth time why it never happens to me and clearly never will, what makes me not quite good enough etc.

Yeah Bant watcha moanin about it could be On the Buses Olive when you took those specs off (btw I bloody hate that too....I'll remove my own specs thanks)

Velv...if you think you might have trouble getting to sleep ...if you are passing a Boots grab a pack of 50mg Sleepeaze...one tablet and you are away in 40mins....got me through some pontential long dark hrs I can tell you.

Velvet pah to bad parent. DS believes M&S is the gold standard it is. He started off on the little kids meals and now gets a specific curry for 2 plus extra rice for comfort food. We had Colin the Caterpillar cake for his exam results celebration, he is 18 .

it isn't a question of not being 'quite good enough' it's a question of having standards and knowing exactly what you want, sticking to your guns and not settling for nonsense. stuff friends getting engaged, I mean good luck to them, that?s lovely , but it means nothing - the only people who know what goes on in a relationship are the two people who are involved in the relationship (and half the time they also have no idea!) the rest of us can only look in from the outside?and we don?t have the benefits of foresight - we don't know that these people will be joyously happy ever after. anything can happen - the grass is not always greener.

and bollocks to being a 'shit parent'

Lovely Velv this is because you are tired out and Cuthbert has a weird communication style and isn't as available as you would like.

Hope you get a good sleep.

Oh yeah M&S ready meals are BETTER than home cooking in my opinion...

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