To get annoyed at having to prompt dh for some money?

[WomanCalledAlice]

I work FT and get paid monthly, dh gets paid weekly. My wage pays the bills/clothes the kids need etc. On a Friday when dh is paid he transfers money straight into my account for groceries. Today he transferred £100 so I went to Tesco and spent £70 on food for the week and put the other £30 in the meter for electric.

Now it's my friends birthday today and I'd like to buy her something nice and also my other friend had a baby on Monday so would have liked to buy her a little gift.

Every week it's more or less the same, he transfers money over but I just never have enough. When I ask him for more money he usually says "did you spent the whole £100"? But he always transfers more over its just the fact he questions me and I don't think I should have to ask.

I'm not out buying luxuries for myself (I wish) I'd just like a little bit of cash in my purse. AIBU?

I almost feel guilty for asking him

I'm so sorry he reacted this way.

Hope your ok. And stick to it make him go tonight. Call the police if you have to.

. Oh Alice I'm sorry. Has he left the house?

Oh Alice, have you anybody that can come and sit with you?

I don't like to think of you on your own tonight.

I hope you are okay, and that he has gone.. He has been taking advantage and you deserve better. Agree it would be good if you have someone to be with you.

He's in the bedroom, I'm in the bathroom. I'm hoping he's packing a bag. I've text my friend to come round but her dc are sick.

I hope he is too. Do you have anyone else you could try?

He needs to get out. He brought home a takeaway didn't even have the common decency to ask if you wanted one? That got arsey when the game of his freeloading fuckwittery is up and pitched the card at you? I hope you didn't give it back to him! I'd fucking clean his fucking account out and then call the police to make sure he leaves.

Oh honey is your eye ok?

What an utter prick.

Call another friend?

Oh, you poor thing. Try to find someone else to come round. Where are the kids?

He did that because he knows he's behaving badly and wanted to be all dramatic to try and convince you that your in the wrong.

Did words to this effect "omg your sucha money grabber,go on take it all see if I care" also come out of his mouth in a stroppy tone?

I don't know what to do, I just told him to go again. The kids are home about 10am tomorrow and I want to be here when my parents drop them off. I'm going to need to ask them for a loan of cash until I get paid in 2 weeks.. Can't believe he's done this, everything he's put me through and now this shit. I'm exhausted with it all.

I read that as he got a takeaway for them both.

Massive overreaction from ops partner there though!

Trying to make you feel guilty because you have to ask him for money isn't good. But, if he's still there, now would be a good time to calm down and have a good honest chat.

I would usually just say LTB but it's always worth a good chat. You aren't a mind reader and neither is he.

Good luck OP

'. I told him I want a fairer deal and haven own cash and not have to keep asking him for cash. '

And you will once you stop paying for his arse.

Take a photo of your eye, now. He may have scratched your cornea. If so, you will need to see a doctor.

An honest chat? Whilst her eye is scratched and hurts?!

Get online and transfer money to your account. He's lucky you haven't called the police.

What expat said.

Honest chat my arse.

I can only transfer money when he puts it in the savings account which is totally empty, I've checked already. If he even has an ounce of decency he'll transfer some funds over. He knows dd has a birthday party tomorrow and I need to buy a present .

Has he gone yet?

Borrowing off your parents until he sorts out PROPER payments is better.

OP im so sorry this happened. I suspected hed do his nut and turn it back onto you once hed realised his game was up. Fucking freeloading abusive arsehole. Agree with expat. Hes lucky you havent called the police.

He said he's not going, he's getting picked up for work at 7am. I'm just going to sleep in dd's room. He's sitting watching telly like nothing's happened. My eye is stinging, I need to hold it shut because it hurts when I blink. What a nightmare, just want to curl up in a ball and hide :(

So he threw it at you knowing full well you couldn't get any money, and you hope he has any deceny?

He has likely scratched your cornea.

You need to ring the police. He needs to go. If your eye continue to hurt you need to see a doctor and tell them the truth.

The pain will get worse.

PLEASE take a photo of your eye! It would be preferable to ring the cops but I realise you won't.

You do know that if you call the police he will have to go don't you?

And his bail conditions can prohibit him returning as an a police obtained protection order