To get annoyed at having to prompt dh for some money?

[WomanCalledAlice]

I work FT and get paid monthly, dh gets paid weekly. My wage pays the bills/clothes the kids need etc. On a Friday when dh is paid he transfers money straight into my account for groceries. Today he transferred £100 so I went to Tesco and spent £70 on food for the week and put the other £30 in the meter for electric.

Now it's my friends birthday today and I'd like to buy her something nice and also my other friend had a baby on Monday so would have liked to buy her a little gift.

Every week it's more or less the same, he transfers money over but I just never have enough. When I ask him for more money he usually says "did you spent the whole £100"? But he always transfers more over its just the fact he questions me and I don't think I should have to ask.

I'm not out buying luxuries for myself (I wish) I'd just like a little bit of cash in my purse. AIBU?

I almost feel guilty for asking him

Doors are locked, I'm tired and emotional, feeling sorry for myself :( shouldn't have drank

(((Alice))) Next year's birthday is going to be so much better. Just keep thinking of how great things will be on your own terms.

Don't feel sorry for yourself. It's just the voddie.

Even if it turns out that 'D'H was lying about the Police friend, logging that he told you he was given a heads up could be useful. Telling someone that the Police are not going to help them is threatening. Either the Police Officer did something very wrong or your H did.

Have a big glass of water, take a paracetamol and sleep.

Shit shitv shit

What happened love?

I'm worried, Alice. Come back and update. Or call 999 if he is there and causing problems.

Alice.....are you OK.

Alice love,

I have been married to a policeman for 16 years- believe me if he told a pal something that had come in via a report- and that was subsequently complained about- he would be suspended, probably sacked and quite possibly prosecuted!!!

if the policeman in question had done it- and looked up the incident then there will be an audit trail on the Police national computer- and if he has looked without it being his business then he is in big trouble and rightly so!!!

Anyway you must not hesitate to ring 999 if you need to - and if there are any problems re the 'police friend' please pm me and I'll ask my husband how you need to take it further.

Unmumsnet hug and kiss- you are brilliant and brave xxxxx

Alice, you ok love?

Alice hope ur alright read the thread and really feel for you, hope u stay strong and he stays away

Hope you are okay,and that you are getting some well-deserved sleep right now. Please take care of yourself. Am not in UK so not sure how police reports etc work out,but am guessing he is bluffing re hearing from his friend. Stay strong,you deserve so much better.

He's been texting and at the door harassing me for nearly 2 hours, ice called police. Sorry everyone probably in brd

What are all these threads

Im here Alice Are you Ok

The idiots have invaded MN. Don't let it worry you Alice MNHQ will sort it out. Has he gone yet? Are the Police there?

Alice, hope you're ok. Have the police arrived?

Police haven't came yet, he's still texting but has left

Whats keeping the police FFS. Glad hes left. have you locked all doors and windows. Sorry if that sounds stupid or patronizing. Just worried.

I'm up, have the police come?

Not yet Ffs

He has text and said leave the door open

Don't leave the door open but then you know that.

Don't look at your texts. Make yourself a large coffee.

Keep talking on here.

I can't find this thread in amongst all that shitbsam