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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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48howdidthathappen · 28/02/2013 17:08

Are you feeling better Kin

Things are going great Smile We are still learning about each other, so some misunderstanding. Strangley they seem to bring us closer each time. I am going to tell him about Mr Oz at the weekend, he is due back end of March. Mr R&R is for keeps.

Going over his tonight. He will be running late. So we will chat while he takes a bath, always seems very intimate to me. Never did that with my ex in over 25 years.

KinNora · 28/02/2013 17:08

Actually Voice, that's probably just as well, I'm a pretty experienced cook and every time I've attempted to make fudge it's turned into a granular tragedy of hugely disappointing proportions.

KinNora · 28/02/2013 17:11

Blimey, 48, that's just made me feel a bit emotional, how absolutely, totally marvellous.

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 17:18

I have fudge! Not rum and raisin though just regular vanilla.

Still gibbering. FFS Mr iPhone just.fucking.reply

JulietteMontague · 28/02/2013 17:34

48 ooh you slipped that in there quietly, did you think we wouldn't notice. So pleased for you, its brilliant and he sounds like a truly lovely man Grin

Lubey goodness. Did you tell him you were going no contact or just stop? Either way, you have to go for it. Why does he want to work in other countries now.

CastroIsDead · 28/02/2013 17:48

i didn't know pof had forums. Confused
how is OD soul destroying? not sure im up for having my soul destroyed.
anyway i met someone today so hopefully will get a date without running that risk

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 17:50

I didn't tell him Juliette I just stopped replying. He got the idea within a day or so.

As for working abroad he's desperately trying to find some greener grass somewhere I think.

The job is very high pressure and really long hours, he's had enough of the culture of being first in at 7am and not leaving til 8/9pm then working a bit more at home. He's won all sorts of awards and stuff and it all looks good on paper but the reality is never having any down time as catching up is then impossible. He only puts his blackberry away while actually shagging

The HK lot let him down by the sounds of things saying he would be doing one thing but then it turned out to be just the same as here. His boss here was pretty desperate without him, so he's walked back into uk life no problem. But he still wants out and a different pace of life.

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 17:55

48 that is lovely :o

Castro - not for everyone. But some, like me... I found the men I really liked always didn't quite like me enough or worse weren't interested at all. The ones that liked me enough, I wanted to run far away from. When that's constant it's not fun or nice anymore! And god knows why that happens with OD because I never seem to have a problem with an uneven balance of feelings when I meet someone in RL. All my relationships that have lasted beyond a few weeks or made it into long term, have been from real life meeting rather than OD.

It's also the constant 'hi babez luv yr tits' or 'hay hunni' mails

JulietteMontague · 28/02/2013 18:08

Lubey that makes him rather keen on you then Grin. With the type of job that is so full on, it is not going to change wherever he is. HK is not exactly known for a relaxed working environment either although it is ideal for dipso expat types it could look more relaxed from the outside.

CastroIsDead · 28/02/2013 18:10

thanks lubey. why do u do it??
the main thing i don't get is saying u want to date but nothing serious does that mean dating all different people? doesn't everyone want to find the 1 deep down?or maybe not. but if u don't want it to get serious just seems like intending to meet people u don't want to spend more time with iyswim? im a worrier all this is just procrastination i know

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 18:58

Castro for me non serious dating means I'll hopefully just be seeing one person and have something of a connection with them but I don't have to commit anything of myself. My time or space. Just seeing someone only when I have free time that coincides with theirs. No meeting my daughter and no partnership/moving in/etc. No sacrificing anything in my life to make more time, as would be necessary to build something long term/meaningful.

Eventually yes it would be nice to be in a committed relationship again but it really isn't for me right now.

Juliette, I agree he isn't going to find that pace of life unless he gives up the money and goes with his ultimate childhood dream of being a builder like his dad :o But he won't because he likes his nice shiny things and expensive lifestyle too much. So I think wherever he goes if it's for roughly the same job and industry he's too much of a workaholic to do it any other way.

Snapespeare · 28/02/2013 19:02

Nameless played 'wanton' at scrabble today.

I then played 'hose'

Wanton. Hose. he's been trying to put me off my stride by messaging me that he has been practising his belly dance in the shower.

It's working. I'm losing like David Cameron in the last general election.

Snapespeare · 28/02/2013 19:04

Lubey!! I'm very excited about BC! Grin

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 19:18

I'm far more excited about you and nameless than I am about BC :o

now I've calmed down and stopped wibbling, all it means really is I potentially get some more of my absolutely favourite sex evahhhh and he will be under the spell of the P of the V. Just as i like him Wink

I am no longer in love with him and i don't think that will ever come back unless he declares undying love and buys a house in my town, which isn't going to happen, and I'm having a lot of fun with the dating stuff right now, and Mr iPhone is quite exciting even if he is useless at replying to FUCKING texts. Gah!

I remember dreading BC leaving just from the perspective of being thrown to the lions looking at OD again but having been away for so long, it's not that bad. With the added anticipation of the RL Mr iPhone.

CastroIsDead · 28/02/2013 19:22

ok yea i get that suppose i am in the same boat myself really. what about sex do you sleep with these people? do they expect it? i feel so naive.have been out of the game for so long. don't have much free time don't think i will bother with pof just yet i don't want to be a time waster. hopefully will get a rl date

Snapespeare · 28/02/2013 19:32

Well, I'm thigh-rubbingly vicariously excited about 'your absolute, favourite best sex evaaaaah'. Because I'm on stop-gap sex tomorrow - and I absolutely demand that you get laid spectacularly!

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 19:39

Castro, Hmm. It's mostly about having a regular person to have sex with for me I think but I do have one of the strongest sex drives I've ever heard of. Like now, no sex for 5 weeks and I'm going completely insane. This is over and above my limit!

I don't think anyone I ever dated has expected it though.

VelvetSpoon · 28/02/2013 19:44

Lubey what amazing news re BC! How great when stuff like that happens when it's completely unexpected.

Am v vicariously excited for you re him, and Mr Iphone!

Kin, I think it was Western who suggested me asking C for brunch, but as we have our various DCs at weekends it's impossible. I've asked him when he's free next week, but as I know fri is out and weekdays are difficult, am slightly resigned to it being another couple of weeks til I see him again...

Western, hope you're feeling a little brighter and that not being at work today helped.

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 19:46

Snape yes I suppose seeing BC is exciting from a favourite sex evaaaahhh point of view. I am very much looking forward to that! It won't be til the 12th though when I'm serendipitously staying 9 miles from his house. So by then you'll be the one getting spectacularly laid I'm sure :o

If I had my wits about me instead of just madly wibbbling earlier, I'd have invited him to my place much much sooner, but it's a bit late for that now...

Flipper924 · 28/02/2013 19:46

Castro, you do whatever you want. And you don't do anything you don't want to. It really is just like rl once you meet someone.

Nora, I think that's my MD - she want's to get me dating, not get me a job! Being friends with her does have it's advantages in the workplace, though Grin. A few of us are going out to dinner on Saturday - she's invited a bloke who apparently was saying he wanted us all to have a night out soon, and specifically mentioned me! Eek! Unfortunately, I have absolutely no interest in him, and he's friendly with my ex.

Lubey, what is it this week with you and all these men from the past? They're like buses! Enjoy!

Voice, I love coconut ice. I'll help eat it if you're struggling.

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 20:02

Flipper yeah, buses! fucks sake.

KinNora · 28/02/2013 20:04

Obviously the copious amounts of codeine have made me forget all the actual details of what everyone's up to, sigh ...

EternalRose · 28/02/2013 20:25

snape Boo to Aunt Flo!

Lubey I am all excited for you about BC!! Grin

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 20:26

How are you feeling now Kin?

:o

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 20:30

Thoughts turn to Mr iPhone again. I wonder what my pressie is and when it will arrive. I have all kinds of weird and wonderful things on that list so god knows what he's got! Still no damned reply either.

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