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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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VelvetSpoon · 27/02/2013 22:12

Castro, what you will learn about POF is that what people say they are looking for often isnt. Most men are down as 'Dating' or 'Long Term', but an awful lot of those are only looking for a FWB, if they are even looking to go on dates at all (some only seem to want to chat and never to meet).

So really it doesn't matter much what you say in terms of what you are looking for, if you do meet someone nice you can always say you changed your mind :)

48howdidthathappen · 27/02/2013 22:13

Rose Go you! Congrats Smile

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 22:13

Well done Rose, and beeeeautiful pics!

CastroIsDead · 27/02/2013 22:22

thanks. im going off the idea

OhWesternWind · 27/02/2013 22:23

Rose you are just beautiful. Stunning. And what a lovely little sweetheart you have there too. Congratulations on the place offer - bit of an ego boost even if you're not going to accept it. You've got so much going for you, this is really going to turn out to be a great new start for you

Pom loads of good luck for tomorrow.

Juliette I dunno, go for it if you like him, but the not-even-an-extra-ounce thing would make me wary. Too superficial. But if it's just a quick snog you're after, should be fine!

Scrazy I'd never Skype but meeting in person is fine. Its much easier if you can actually be with the person you're talking to.

Snape this is so lovely, all the anticipation and butterflies. Wonderful feeling, enjoy it Smile

VelvetSpoon · 27/02/2013 22:24

Castro, I'm sorry, please don't let me put you off!

I am a little cynical re POF (and OD generally), but this is only after years of it. Do give it a try if you want, don't let my cynicism be a downer :)

EternalRose · 27/02/2013 22:24

Thank you for the congrats everyone, I am just so glad I dont have to go through the application procedure again. It was like X-factor bootcamp for this particular course.

snape You never fail to crack me up. He wont be able to walk for a week. Grin

Glad you like picture of my munchkin too. She will kill me for it when she is 18, but I dressed her up as an elf for christmas day.

Flipper924 · 27/02/2013 22:43

Rose, she is just too cute. And congratulations!

Snape, your anticipation is so tangible, I can feel it from here! I'm looking forward to Friday already on your behalf!

Castro, I'd say go for it, no harm in looking. You have to start talking to and meeting new people sometime. I first joined pof a good 7 or 8 months before I felt I was ready for a relationship, but hid my profile do I didn't get messages from people who might be taking it seriously when I wasn't.

Any news from Mr iPhone, yet, Lubes?

Juliette, I wouldn't, because of the weight thing. I don't like people who are obsessed with other people's looks. Having said that, one person's idea of average build is another person's overweight, so it may not be as bad as it sounds.

Did you contact LC, Velvet?

Hope you're feeng better, today, Nora.

You all sound so busy at the moment! My sofa is still and quiet. I like it at the moment, but I've rewritten my pof profile for when I jump back in!

VelvetSpoon · 27/02/2013 22:51

Yes, Lubey - anything back yet?

Bloke I know from school (who is currently several thousand miles away on hols) has been messaging me on FB tonight, which is rather sweet of him. Telling me about his hols, and general chit chat.

I'm still not interested in him though Blush

Flipper no I didn't text C yet. I am useless. But there are so many things I have to say to him I find it hard condensing them into one text. And I know he can't see me for ages so no hurry...how are you feeling now btw? Other than enjoying the relative quiet of the sofa :)

CastroIsDead · 27/02/2013 22:53

velvet im cynical already and not even started yet. maybe a bad sign i just find it all so confusing.
flipper thanks didn't realise that was an option will people see me if i message them? would give me a chance to work out what to say

Flipper924 · 27/02/2013 22:59

Indeed, Velvet, there's no rush, and it's good that you're feeling relaxed about it.

I'm getting there. I think it all caught up with me for a bit this week, so I've been in a bit of a 'poor me' mood. I have a sneaky suspicion it's being worsened by pmt as well, but I kind of feel like I'm just riding a wave. I know it will get better.

Thanks for asking. You, and the rest of this thread, reassure me again and again that there are normal, emotionally healthy people doing OD.

JulietteMontague · 27/02/2013 23:00

Rose what lovely pics! Munchkin is so cute Smile

Flipper yes it's not the actual weight, its the idea that whatever he thinks is overweight is some standard that his partner has to adhere to because he says so. Being told never sits well and I couldn't imagine being with someone and knowing he was literally weighing me up. I've taken another look, great first pic but he is quite scrawny thin.

Flipper924 · 27/02/2013 23:01

Castro, yes, they will be able to see your profile if you message them, but they won't see you in any searches, even if you've looked at their profile (I think, someone please tell me if I'm wrong).

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 23:02

Nope, not yet

At least i do know in advance he is useless with his phone. I expect he won't even look at it til tomorrow.

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 23:05

Flipper that's right

and I'm sneaking in a hug for you too

ordinarybloke · 28/02/2013 06:56

Juliette,I would never dream of saying such a thing about the weight/body shape of a (potential) gf/fwb. he just sounds bloody rude and controlling.

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WarmFuzzyFun · 28/02/2013 07:47

Hey Castro, POF can be an ego boost and a distraction but it can also be a little soul destroying, you need a thick skin. It might be useful for you to set up a profile and have a look around at profiles and join me (and Voice) in the forumsSmile. There is the option to say you want to date but nothing serious, currently my profile states that.

Eternal Rose you look fantastic, wow, and your son looking like as absolute bundle of gorgeousness and mischief! Well done on uni, looks to look forward to, I guess uni is a great place for meeting people too.

On other news...I broke into POF and Match late last night...spoke to my ex Blush and a new man Smile although he says he is quiet. Now ever online you guys would have deduced that it not exactly my main personality trait, we'll see.

I think I definitely need a hobby, oh wait, maybe trawling POF and Match for suitable men is my hobbySmile

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WarmFuzzyFun · 28/02/2013 07:49

yeah usual typing errors: lots to look forward to and even online...

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lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 08:55

I seem to have lost the power of my legs and other muscles

Just got a text from BC. He's back.

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 08:55
OhWesternWind · 28/02/2013 09:00

Back for good??

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 09:03

it all went wrong apparently. He's still looking at other options for working abroad. but for now is back, yes.

I have turned entirely to jelly.

OhWesternWind · 28/02/2013 09:07

Bloody hell Lubey your life is just a roller coaster at the moment.

Are you okay? Deep breaths ....

How are you feeling about him being back?

lubeybooby · 28/02/2013 09:10

My head is spinning! Deep breaths indeed.... christ.. I don't know apart from overwhelmingly wanting to see him if he is in this country

OhWesternWind · 28/02/2013 09:20

Has he asked to meet up? Hope you can get to see him soon. Fingers crossed for you. What a shock!

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