Dating Thread 43

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Western LM is lovely, you know it .

My best friend, when emotional or upset, used to disappear off for a cry because she wouldn't let anyone see her cry. Even me. In the end I got fed up of it and on one occasion when I knew she was upset and had disappeared off I followed her and sat on the bathroom floor while she sat on the loo crying and just held her hand and then talked to her for ages. Now, I am the one person she will allow to see her cry.

I have another friend who can't handle anyone else getting even remotely tearful and will clear off rather than attempt to be supportive.

Anyone who likes weird animal videos (not that sort) please Youtube "baby monkey riding on a pig". The accompanying song is a work of genius.

Voice - I have that on my ipod. I'm not even joking.

And I bought DP a t-shirt for Christmas with a baby monkey riding backwards on a pig

but no one wants to be seen with the whole contorted face garbled voice thing going on..do they?

Sweet - so do I!!! One of those things that never fails to make me laugh if I am feeling like crap. But where did you get the tshirt from (feel free to message me - others may not be interested)???

Merc - I don't care about that, really. I am so far from having anything at all to be vain about that it really doesn't matter. He's seen me being a funny colour and pulling a stupid face before now, unfortunately. It's just the emotional side of it that is the problem. But, I've done it now so I can't change having cried on him and I will probably do it again too very soon so there is no point worrying about it.

Western I think you've done exactly the right thing telling LM you need to see him. And yes take some time off work too if you can, sometimes we all need a little break!

I have no shame about people seeing me cry, which is lucky because I cry a lot. I've only ever met one man who knew how to deal with me when I was sad or upset though, the rest either ran a mile or completely ignored me til I'd 'calmed down'.

Trying to decide whether to text C or not. It is my turn, but I was hoping he might've told me when he was free next without me having to ask...

Text him Velvet - this week we are mostly communicating properly . Ask him out for brunch on Saturday . . .

I wish I knew what the proper way to communicate was!

no one wants to be seen with the whole contorted face garbled voice thing going on

Well no one would ever have sex then

I never cry either. I might get stinging behind my eyes and shed a couple of tears but that's it. Except I can get taken by surprise at a film or something sad I hear. I wish I could cry sometimes but then remember that I don't want anything to happen that would make me cry, except tears of joy.

Or laugh properly ...

I wish these PoF 'men' had a clue about conversation and communication... jeez. Not one has properly read my profile so far. Didn't have this problem last time well nowhere near as much anyway. Siiigghh.

I don't really do the crying thing. Recent events broke me a couple of times but I don't remember when the last time was before that. Not even when BC left, but it did take me a while to realise what a complete tragedy that was..

Ah, I can't ask him to brunch, because I know he will have his DC, and so it will be a no. I suppose I will have to ask if he's free next week instead and keep my fingers crossed. I rather fear that will be a no too (because of the early start etc) and I'll have to wait another couple of weeks.

i don't cry. well, i don't cry at 'me' things. Voldemort didn't get a single tear - but I absolutely fall apart at mushy sci-fi.

velvet have you texted Cuthbert yet? go on.

OWW I think you tell LM exactly what you need. Things are much better between me and Mr R&R since I took the more direct approach. He has since told me some very sad stuff about his life. It has brought us closer.

48 I've told him very straightforwardly that I'm feeling really down about my dad and I'd like to see him soon for some hugs and cheering up, pretty much in those words but with a bit of how are you and the shopfitters stuff first. Haven't heard back from him yet though so we will see. Fingers crossed eh.

The only thing is that he might find it pretty hard to deal with because of his own dad, and I don't want to make things worse for him because of how I am feeling.

Hi, can anyone reccomend a good free dating site please

Not POF

Got to get back to work OWW fingers crossed for you. Everything will work out

Nutcracker I can't really help sorry as the only free site I used apart from PoF was Ok Cupid and I didn't have any success on there at all. I think a lot of it depends on whereabouts you live as a lot of the sites are only any good if you're in a major city. Don't you get on with PoF?

hi nutcracker

there's no such thing as a 'good' free dating site, but some are less bad than others.

Some people like POF.com, but there are a huge number of profiles on there, a lot of crap to wade through and you have to grow a thick skin - but then you get that on all sites.

That's probably the best one in terms of size - and it's a numbers game mostly

Actually OKC is a bit more interesting, you get a lot of swingers on there, and mails from overseas though

Lots of work to fill out the questions though

Yes, I got lots of people from Canada and India messaging me on OkC - oh and one of them sent me a poem Nora, but not one of his own - and men from the other end of the country. Chatted to a lovely Buddhist who lived three hundred miles away so some entertainment value, but no good for actual dates.

Had a glance at guardian soulmates in my area. Quite a nice looking guy on there, my age. He says in his profile that his GS subscription has run out but to e-mail him if interested (he gives his email addy). Would you?

Ike, I would.