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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 08:56

and this bloke has an ok profile but I lost the will to live when trying to be generous and reply to this message

"Ur picture is more nice because is nice woman on there. Yes I like my camera but I need more time for us my passion...
Sometimes I working in Northampton area I'm happy when I can meet u, know u and drink a coffee with that nice woman like u
Xxx"

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 08:57

He is allegedly English by the way Confused

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 09:02

Lubey - Dear. God. Above.

ike1 · 27/02/2013 09:06

Lube those messages are bloody depressing....

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 09:12

Yeah. I might just randomly mash my face into the keyboard instead and send that as a reply.

Mr notananalrapisthonestguv has of course been blocked.

ike1 · 27/02/2013 09:14

You may as well Lube.....

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 09:24

I had a brief trawl on POF last night but set the radius to 75 miles, just to see if the pickings were much better. Not greatly, it has to be said. But generally I don't want anything that sort of distance anyway because it becomes hassle. Long way to go for a 45-minute coffee date.

But why is the most common headline from the women something along the lines of "We can say we met in a pub" or "We don't have to say we met online" or words of a similar description. Admittedly, it can be a swine to think up something original but if you're selling yourself (as it were) online, are you really so embarrassed to tell people how you (potentially) met the perfect partner? I once changed mine to read "Unusually, this man WILL stop and ask for directions" and got a lot more views at least, because it was different.

The second most common thing I see in profiles is "must be tall, at least 6ft, and sporty". And I amazed how many women in their 30s not only regularly go to the gym but enjoy watching rugby and football.

ike1 · 27/02/2013 09:32

Well they obviously havent seen what is on offer then!!!

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 09:43

Mine is 'Seeking a little romance and fun' figured I may as well give a hint of what's coming in the profile.

I don't mention the gym or rugby or football because none of it is true. Well actually it would be true to say I like the gym but I am incapable of going at the moment with back problems. And saying I like it would imply that I go. I don't.

Common headlines among the men seem to be variations of 'gona give up on this soon :(' and 'no likey no lighty' and 'where r all da nice/genuine girls'

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 09:45

Ike - you're right, because I once looked to see what my 'competition' was locally. Definitely some people who probably enjoy watching sport, possibly play a bit, but distinct lack of guys over 6ft. Apparently average male height in the UK is 5ft 9. I'm 5ft 10. Nice to know I'm above average in at least two areas.... Grin

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 09:46

Lubey - the second most common among women, oddly enough, is also "no likey, no lighty" which is enough to make me avoid their profile.

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 09:48

Voice I agree! Urgh... anyone that watches that utter bollocks gets a big fat no from me. Disturbing even that they like it too, enough to quote it in their headline. Hell no.

ike1 · 27/02/2013 09:49

or mentioning something to do with Mr Grey......yawn. I feel thoroughly cheesed off...someone suggest something that will cheer me up please....

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 09:52

Ike - Oh yes, plenty of Mr Greys in women's profiles. Again, if someone has actually read it and thought it a good book, they're not someone I'd want to share my handcuffs with.

How about a picture of a baby hedgehog, curled into a little ball floating in a bowl of water? Would that cheer you up? Saw that online this morning (sad to say, Daily Fail, but I always check most of the paper first thing at work)

ike1 · 27/02/2013 09:55

Never read it....looks boring. why is it in water?

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 10:00

Oh the fifty shades references piss me off too.. not averse to a great deal of little kink myself but that book is terrible on SO many levels. There is much better free erotica out there... I have a mate that writes erotic e-books and she is fabulous... she's currently at number #2 in the uk chart.

VoiceofUnreason · 27/02/2013 10:03

Having a bath!

ike1 · 27/02/2013 10:10

Of course!

ike1 · 27/02/2013 10:11

I hate pmt

OhWesternWind · 27/02/2013 10:15

What's no likey no lighty FFS?

Horrified by some of these messages! What planet are these people living on where they think something like that is going to be a babe-magnet?

I need a little bit of advice, please. You know I had that conversation with him on Saturday - well, it was a bit of a cry and a rant and a ramble about my dad in the main part and then some talking about our feelings. Well, the next day I was out all day and he texted to see how I was feeling. Bit of texting Monday, I phoned him last night and we were on for half an hour or so chatting. But nothing from him about how I was feeling, nothing about meeting up, said he'd ring me today. So - I'm left feeling a bit deflated, not that I want him rushing round makign soothing cups of tea or anything, but I could really do with seeing him, having a hug and a bit of comfort off him, and I feel let down that none of this seems to be happening and it's all kind of brushed under the carpet. Do you think I should just come out and say that I could really do with seeing him? I am worried I have put him off with all that emotional stuff on Saturday. And I don't want to be chasing after him, I want him to be looking after me for a bit.

BUT I am dealing with this okay. Not panicking just feeling sad.

ike1 · 27/02/2013 10:16

You were right about that favouriting thing voice...sent a brief e-mail to that bloke...nothing...reckon he's been on line tho. I find that v. strange.

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 10:17

ike

also have been dying laughing at

ike1 · 27/02/2013 10:17

OWW yes ask him lovely.

OhWesternWind · 27/02/2013 10:18

Actually I do want him rushing round making soothing cups of something . . . Want a bit of looking after.

lubeybooby · 27/02/2013 10:19

OWW yeah go for it, he's your boyfriend, he's lovely, he loves you, you want to see him, just relax! You are really past the point of worrying about this stuff now, it isn't early days anymore... it's way more established...