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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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ike1 · 25/02/2013 22:38

ChooChoo that sounds great! Hopefully it will save you the hassle of trawling through the desperados.

Can you not just say a date and time Snape and then leave the details till the day before....I just would need to know a date in advance and possibly would start getting a bit pissy if this non arranging thing carried on. That's not an unreasonable thing to do y'know.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 22:40

TR used to have a standing arrangement Weds and Sats anything else could be adhoc.

48howdidthathappen · 25/02/2013 22:42

We usually manage 2 or 3 nights a week. It is hard though with everything else going on.

lubeybooby · 25/02/2013 23:03

ChooChoo I hope all stays good! I heard something once about sometimes the start of attraction being the realisation that someone is attracted to you... all sounds very good anyway. Good luck.

Flipper.. I'm still comfort eating. I have been since about November. Oh dear. I will have to get a grip soon, seriously!

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WarmFuzzyFun · 26/02/2013 08:39

Morning all. Got in a message war with psycho on Match, why didn't I just block and move on eh? Sometimes it is so clear why some chaps are back on the market.

So, I have the day off, cue daughter off school ill....There must be some law somewhere.

I am back on the OD horse (although, if OD was a horse, it would be one of those poor horses neglected and featured in a RSPCA commerical I suspect Grin)

Choochoo, good for you, though I am Envy at your seeming ease at potentially having found a nice normal man. It Is Rare.

I will be watching DVDs with aforementioned daughter and trawling the OD sites (currently on Match and POF) messaging at least one suitable man. Oh and sometimes I even manage two!

Ike, make review, this eyebaggy woman needs steering in the right direction. Oh and have you had that thermo thingy (facial massage) yet?

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WarmFuzzyFun · 26/02/2013 08:40

make up review...Blush but you knew what I meant didn't you?

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OhWesternWind · 26/02/2013 08:59

Yes I am hanging on all agog for Ike's eyebag advice . . .

WFF enjoy the enforced rest day! Your challenge for today is to message not one, not two, but three men . . . (Notice I left the "suitable" out - have a couple of wild cards in there, you never know).

ChooChoo - sounds really good so far.

Snape sorry a bit late but am sending psychic Date Six vibes in the direction of Nameless right now.

I like it best when I have the next date arranged at the end of the last one, if that makes sense. Haven't done that this time as LM is in the middle of getting all things shop-related sorted out for the grand opening so I am leaving him to see how it all goes this week. But it's nice to be able to look forward to something arranged in advance. I like that part of it, all the anticipation and (still) butterflies about seeing him. Seeing as I am on a bit of a roll with actually talking to the bugger, I might have to mention this at some point.

Nora hope you're feeling better soon. Bloody southern germs Grin

howdidithappen · 26/02/2013 09:17

Thanks for the advise. Never thought of OK Cupid.. will take a look.

Not having much luck though to be honest. I only tried GS last year for a couple of months and was contacted by a wonderful woman more or less straight away which led to a 10 month relationship, so I foolishly thought that I would meet someone in the same time scale, but I must have sent 20 messages and only had about 4 replies, non leading to a date. Keeping on trying. Good luck everyone.

ike1 · 26/02/2013 09:19

Hi guys eyebags not been thermo'd yet, that's next week...using guerlain's precious light on the bags with moderate success. To be honest I am veering towards fillers in the 'tear troughs' at the mo as doc reckons it's hollow eyes as opposed to bags. I will probs do that in the summer though....

ike1 · 26/02/2013 09:25

Just want to add that these 'improvements' are mainly for my own 'pleasure' not to lure in any blokes...just incase any lurkers are reading this with raised eyebrows...(those that havent had botox, cos then you cant raise your eyebrows)

Bant · 26/02/2013 10:09

howdid - it seems to be a numbers game. Sometimes you can message, or be messaged by, someone straight off the bat and get along swimmingly (if you don't mind the mixed sports metaphors there).

I'm on the sofa at the moment (as in, not dating as life is too complicated) but I once worked out that for every 6 messages I sent I'd get a response back, then about a third of those would lead to a first date, and one fifth of those would lead to a second date.

So to get to a second date (of which I had 6 in 6 months of OD) I needed to send about a hundred messages. And no one really responded to 'winks' or 'favouriting' people apart from when I did it accidentally with someone who was just really not my type at all.

But there were some months better, and worse, than others, and that was all on Match.com - OKC & POF went nowhere for me

McBuckers · 26/02/2013 10:29

Has anyone tried 'DatingforParents.com'?

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 11:18

good luck with the fillers Ike, I have some lines that I'd like eradicated, but I'm thinking it's going to be a painful procedure and my pain threshold is pretty low!

Also, not that I've researched it. but would the filler itself carve out a deeper groove, so that when it dissolves you are left with a more pronounced line..or have I totally misunderstood things?

I was getting fed up with the quality of the offers on the dating site, so I shortened my profile to one sentence (something along the lines of 'dont be daft') and I took my face pictures off leaving only a few black and while 'arty' underwear shots.

Now I'm getting more and better offers, which on the face of it is nice, but it means that if I want to pursue any of them I'll have to suffer the indignity of the bloke changing his mind when he see's a face picBlush Sad

Snapespeare · 26/02/2013 11:29

I am utterly astonished Envy that Envy someone Envy went on a Envy first Envy first Envy date and they were not only nice, but not mad Envy and thatEnvy there Envy was a Envy spark Envy

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 11:32

he-he talk about a kick in the teeth :o
some people have all the luck!

howdidithappen · 26/02/2013 11:32

so I shortened my profile to one sentence

Maybe thats where I'm going wrong. I've waffled on loads on mine... obviously bored everyone by the second paragraph.

Is there a guide to writing these things ? Or any tips ?

ike1 · 26/02/2013 11:33

No I think the filler just gently plumps the area merc and invites moisture that is lost due to the effing aging process....eventually it will dissolve if semi permanent....

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 11:44

Howdid I once said I'd run out of things to read and asked for book recomendations Blush

ok Ike, I suppose people who have fillers would notice if the line was worse when it had dissolved and they'd not be popular, so that alone blows my theory out of the water!

Hopefully with increasing demand the technology will improve and soon we can all look 28 again :) :) :)

ike1 · 26/02/2013 12:11

I tell you Merc by the time I have finished wit this I will look younger than when I was 20...I've always had eyebags and a saggy face...

OhWesternWind · 26/02/2013 12:22

I don't really want to look young, just not grumpy and not tired . . . I don't think how I am on the inside (generally quite nice and approachable) fits with how my face is with the horrible frown lines. My face moves about too much, I think. LM says he can tell what I'm thinking most of the time and he probably can, it all shows on my face. Don't like it. Would be crap at poker.

SweetSeraphim · 26/02/2013 12:40

This quote by Roald Dahl has been doing the rounds on FB - it's one of my favourites Grin

?A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.?

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 12:55

it's true that your habitual expressions become carved into your face, I suppose that laughter lines are preferable to frown lines, even so laughing leads to crows feet and naso labial folds, and whatever you do your face will sag and jowls tend to develop from late 40's onwards

OhWesternWind · 26/02/2013 12:57

I have laughter lines and frown lines (from concentrating and squinting - hate sunglasses - as well as frowning) and all sorts of other lines I don't even know the name of. And I am a bit saggy. Oh god, there's no hope.

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 13:05

it's the same for all of us, some people age more slowly but we all age, and we all had smooth faces once.

Just makes me wish I'd more confidence when I was younger...I guess we all think that though, it's the whole 'youth is wasted on the young' thing!

Snapespeare · 26/02/2013 14:44

i look fucking excellent for 45. it's one of my few redeeming qualities - although I am noticing more jowls and chin hairs.

date six is friday.

Grin

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