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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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lubeybooby · 25/02/2013 00:17

That's true mercury but they don't want to pay for it (I think anyway from what it seems).. I've been on quite a few dates where men say their nightmare anecdotal type messages and dates have been from/with women who turned out to want paying

VoiceofUnreason · 25/02/2013 00:18

That's no help! I don't know how old you are and a gentleman never asks.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:21

I bloody told everyone when it was my birthday...you only noticed belatedly and I am not bloody saying it again...so there...Man...Toblerone is mega sweet!

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:23

Do you think we will all be on this thread in 10 years time still moaning about POF etc etc??

VoiceofUnreason · 25/02/2013 00:23

Well, this man who DOESN'T look the same as every other man and still has a full head of hair and all his own teeth is going to bed to get some beauty sleep in the hope of not EVER looking the same as every other man.

JulietteMontague · 25/02/2013 00:24

There is a London look. Actually it's not true I've only fancied 1, I have seen men i think look attractive my age but they have always turned out to be from the US or Europe. The Europe I can understand (tend to make the most of themselves) but I don't understand the US thing unless its subconsciously teeth or something.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:24

You'd better get some of that eyebag cream on then Voice...night!

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:26

What's the London look then Jule? I bet its got nothing to do with Rimmel or Kate Moss!

VoiceofUnreason · 25/02/2013 00:26

Indeed. Or people will say I am actually looking my age, rather than the usual guess of 6 or 7 years younger than I am. It's my birthday very soon, damn it. Which means only a year until....sob....40....

Runs off to cry in bed. Night.

JulietteMontague · 25/02/2013 00:27

voice you could never look the same as every other man, ever! Grin

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:28

Dont worry Voice...been there it was ahem er...bearable.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:28

or bareable

JulietteMontague · 25/02/2013 00:30

I'll find some samples ike, tba.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 00:34

ok Jule..

mercury7 · 25/02/2013 00:45

last time i checked dating sites were full of men who want easy no strings one off sex!

mercury7 · 25/02/2013 00:51

Lubey I guess all men would say that they wouldnt consider paying for sex..then again I imagine those who do use such services keep fairly quiet about it...

mercury7 · 25/02/2013 00:52

oops, something funny happened to my phone, excuse the duplicated post!

VelvetSpoon · 25/02/2013 01:16

Gosh everyone has been busy today!

I have spent the last 2 hours trying to finish DS2s homework (a motte and bailey castle) delivered here at 11pm by the Evil Ex, with a text 'can you ensure finished by tomorrow pls' Hmm

This is on the back of a days wedding discussion with friends. Am bloody shattered now.

I did get a text from C though. Thanking me for Friday (he is so polite - I was telling my friends how he always stands up when I get to the pub which they thought showed v good manners!) and saying he had a great time. So am :)

Lets hope this is a good week for everyone!

micshi · 25/02/2013 06:50

I was out all evening, only to find another message from Mr.Greek on the website asking why I hadn't replied. He told me not to bother! I don't know whether to tell him what I think or not. My main worry is that I'll bump into him in the street as he lives fairly close! I'm not going to date anyone in the same part of London as me again!

VoiceofUnreason · 25/02/2013 08:17

micshi - looks like we were right about your lovely date! Dodged a bullet there. He'd already told you via text not to bother when you hadn't replied within his inbuilt time parameter. Why repeat himself on the website.

Some people would say reply with something along the lines of "Well, I didn't get a chance to reply to the text you sent yesterday because I was busy and before I could, you sent one to say 'not to bother'. So I didn't. And I won't" and then block and ignore. Some people would just block and ignore.

SweetSeraphim · 25/02/2013 08:41

I wouldn't be able to block him without first giving him some smartass reply I'm afraid! Knob Hmm

VoiceofUnreason · 25/02/2013 09:08

Sweet - usually I would tend to agree with you, I would find it hard not to give him a bit of the old verbal but as Micshi says he lives fairly close, I'd not take that risk!

Scrazy · 25/02/2013 10:10

I think that for some men on the sites they will never get replies or dates. The ones who do have success to get as far as the sweet trolley mentality will have a great photo up with a great profile I would think, or they are just out for sex and are not too fussy.

I have a friend who is on POF and well he's not my type but he isn't hideous, he says he hardly ever gets replies and if it gets to a date the women don't want to take it further.

ike1 · 25/02/2013 10:22

Bant must be drop dead gorgeous then...the amount of dates he's had (I wanna have a look at his profile!)

OhWesternWind · 25/02/2013 10:26

Velvet - Cuthbert is really coming good. Really glad he's been in contact without too much of a delay. He's getting better! Hoping you get to see him soon. Could you have a daytime coffee and cake date or something over the weekend just so you can see each other for an hour or so?

Mic oh dear, I'd just ignore him I think. There's no point engaging with people who are behaving like this as they won't take any notice of your point of view.

Lack of suitable matches - well, there wasn't a great choice here either, being a bit in the sticks and also looking at the 40+ age group. I just ended up messaging anyone who looked and sounded vaguely okay. None of them that I met up with were awful in a rude or offensive or red-flaggish way, and the worst experience I had was one bloke I met who was very, very boring. I think that most of them looked different from their photos, one was very much older than his picture (this is the boring bloke), another was a lot shorter than he had said, the others just looked different in real life actually talking to them and seeing how they moved, how expressive they were etc. I don't think LM is classically handsome, didn't think much of his photo one way or the other (he is going a bit bald and grey and wears glasses, looks a bit geeky I think but I quite like that look), but I like how he smiles, how he talks, there's just that something about him, which of course you can't tell from a photo and is a really personal thing anyway. Load of waffle there to say unless there's something really dire and dreadful about the picture or profile then I'd go and meet them and see how things are in real life.