Dating Thread 43

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Here it is...

...or that it's best to post pictures because not very pleasant to have someone say 'no thanks' or not reply after you've sent pictures?

I guess thats why I put pictures up to save myself the indignity of being rejected after I've e-mailed them!

I've been out all day taking the dcs to see ex's family and Blimey a lot has happened on this thread. Thank you everyone for your kind words and support about LM. How did you all know it would be okay? Really sad that so many of you know what I'm going through about my dad. It's shit. Hugs to you all.

But I am really happy. Teenagerishly and embarrassingly so. I have worked so hard for so many years to cultivate my grumpy cow facade and now it's all ruined, ruined I tell you.

Kirsty great stuff! Having the new flat is the start of a whole new happy chapter in your life. Brilliant.

Velvet hope you hear from him very, very soon. Dreaming of him eh?

Snape so glad N is in touch again. He sounds lovely. Do not worry - just do the terrible things unless they're truly, truly, mindblowingly awful.

Lucky What do you think you'll do?

Lubey so pleased to hear you've got your Lubey-ness back. You've been amazing.

Rose I think staying on the sofa whilst you get into a better place in your head is a good plan. I gave it eighteen months after I split with my ex, maybe it should have been a bit longer but I just felt ready in myself after months of saying "Never again". It's maybe not the age but the person.

Mic oh no what a bad one to get for your first date! But you did everything right, radar fully working there.

Hi Raskolnikov good to see you again!

And good luck McB -keep posting!

Nora move back. Best thing I ever did.

Ike is it tonight you're going Dutch? Loads of good luck if it is.

Hello to everyone else. Will get properly caught up now.

Sorry, have probably missed

Have been having real life - much of it in bed tbh. And eating and watching while flat pack stuff was being built. Very glad that LM called last night OWW :)

Mr Nice did very good building of children's desks and coffee table and desk swivelly chairs. And put pictures and clock on walls. Then we took children along to XHs house and went and got bookcase from his house. Came back and did Good Talking (in bed but clothed ). Both reassured the other that neither of us were going off the other one and I realised that he does have a lot of things on his mind in general (ex wife moving back up here, about to finish his job and start another one, he and his DS are going off to America for a coupe of weeks and that's all happening in March). Plus the one night of porn which hadnt helped the ED.

We have had various types of sex which have all been very good (not quite up to the full penetrative stuff but getting nearer it) and I felt quite like a weight had been lifted. Both of us slept v well last night and we had a good lazy Sunday morning/afternoon until 3 when we emerged to eat. And a lot of kissing which was very good :) We talked more about the whole moving in with each other in a few years thing which was nice.

Am much more cheerful than on Friday

Miranda that all sounds very positive and especially that you've been able to talk about this and reassure each other. How do you feel about his ex moving back? Is it amicable between them?

Really glad things are back on track for you.

Hellooooo apparently the kid got 'called into work' unexpectedly at 4:00pm...a likely tale....strangely unperterbed by this as was half way through a lovely sunday dinner with my mate and it meant I could indulge in vino instead as didnt have to drive to a venue anymore. Apparently we will 'meet some other time' ...well since ex H off to Cuba for the forseeable future that is unlikely...whatevs.

Managed to spend £60 on skin illuminating powder and eyebag concealer ...will let you know if it works and if so the name of the products which I cant remember at the mo. Will scroll back and check out todays hijinx....

ike - that stinks.

Do you think? My mate thought that too, not sure I have an opinion one way or another really..

He owes me nothing and I wasnt put out, carried on my day regardless, at least he let me know in good time...I wont contact him again.

That is very rude behaviour from him Ike but hope the vino was good compensation

I tell you what does stink...spending £60 on vanity....it had better not be snake oil...I want fresh, young skin for that money..

Am I missing something? Why is it rude?

ike you are soooooo cool and chilled! I'd be pissed off but it is brilliant that you're not!!

mercury no id be worried about the indignity of being rejected by pic when its just for fwb. Not sure why, i should be less bothered

What job does he do that gets called into on a Sunday?

Its just the nature of Online Dating though ...at this point we only owe each other basic common courtesy. That's it. No expectations other than that as otherwise it is energy misspent.

I think it's rude to change plans just a few hours before a date. If it was me, I'd have arranged a babysitter so their plans would have been changed too, probably wouldnt have anything lined up to do instead or time to make other arrangements.

But that's just me, glad you're fine with it.

Report back on super duper make up required!

Well he does work shifts so it is absolutely possible....we will see, if he contacts me again I may consider rescheduling...not gonna poop me panties over it...haha

ike I think that's carp too. Happens a lot with OD.

That would annoy me ike. But I may be somewhat less chilled than you :)

Oh Yeah OWW I totally see your point re babysitters...that would be a complete pain. Just thought I'd better check in case my rude behaviour radar had turned itself off.

Crap obvs
Unless its genuine then ok (ish)

Well exactly Jule.. never happened before to me but I am always aware of it as a possibility.

carp will do absolutely fine.

Ike, it's happened to me a few times, bloke has cancelled on the day citing some work related emergency or other.
I assume it's just an excuse, and I dont make any further contact, generally suspect it's some juvenile ploy to try to jerk me around and get me to chase after him

Yeah possibly Merc ...not my style though...I assume its an excuse but his job certainly lends itself to be called in ad hoc. Not gonna waste too much time second guessing.