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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Boinging Into Spring, With A Dance And A Sing!

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Mouseface · 16/02/2013 20:58

Hello, tis me, Mouse and I'm one of the regular travellers on this Bus!

This is a Bus for drinkers, the completely sober, those fighting to stay sober and everyone in between! No matter what, you're welcome here if you feel you don't like the way you drink anymore, or you're worried for someone else.

Take a seat.

You'll be listened to, looked after and maybe (if you're lucky), slapped with our resident Squid, Barry whom I'm sure you'll meet in time!

So, what have you got to lose by posting? What have you got to lose by coming to say hello and telling us why you don't like the way you drink anymore?

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And the reason we're ALL here in the first place, the first ever thread is ALL HERE

See you soon xx

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Fairenuff · 26/02/2013 21:28

Ah, night mouse, hope you get a good rest and maybe a snuggle with MrMouse to make things all well in the mousehouse.

Oooh, ma another vote here for a photo! I remember the last one, that surely can't be a year ago already

curryeater · 26/02/2013 21:49

Fairenough, great post.

Back home. Didn't drink. No one near me wasn't caning the wine. I felt weird at first, but I did it. It was great. I stayed exactly as long as I needed to to talk to the people I needed to talk to, and then... I just walked out. Said bye and walked out. And was free. And have renewed some good contacts. Should have done this bloody years ago.

Good to see you all

sorry to be so me me me me me me

Isindebusagain · 27/02/2013 00:41

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PurpleWolfe · 27/02/2013 08:28

(( )) Isinde Stress = huge trigger. Sounds like it was an almost impossible situation. Stressed and also being 'expected' to join in - part of the team. Plus, the first drink was already bought before you had a chance to say 'no'. And we all know the struggle after that first drink. You were already on the back-foot by being caught up in traffic and being late. Usual advice - today is a new day and you need to put yesterday behind you and dig in to find your resolve.

Not a hopeless case - just human. x

PurpleWolfe · 27/02/2013 08:30

PS Besides, I'm the Bus 'Hopeless Case' just now! Coming to you from my well worn side car chair.

Lemonylemon · 27/02/2013 09:35

Purple I'm with you in the side car

I'm struggling a bit at the moment. I just don't know what's wrong. Maybe it's the (rather elderly) hormones....

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 09:57

Morning guys!

curry bloody hell, you did reeeeeeaaaalllly well in that situation, you must be/should be chuffed to bits with yourself today!

isinde Not many could have got out of that particular situation unscathed completely, and you did stop!! You stopped for food and water unlike I would have done so please don't beat yourself up today.

lemony and purple don't be sad, please, I feel like crying today because I fucked up yesterday for no apparent reason, so, now trying to follow advice and just get through literally an hour at a time.

Mad thing is, I'm applying for jobs in pubs!! Really need a job part time close by, and there's a few going, in the middle of nowhere here though, so won't be able to drink after work as will have to drive, does that sound like a ridiculous plan?!

Everyone else, morning, hope you all have a good day.

aliasjoey · 27/02/2013 10:33

purple you should listen to your own advice! It's so easy to help other people and yet so hard to do it ourselves, isn't?

isinde that sounds like a really tough position you were in, but at least you recognised that you needed food...

The GP has prescribed me sertraline for anxiety. That's the 5th different drug in nine months

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 10:35

Blimey Joey hope this is the one for you?

PurpleWolfe · 27/02/2013 10:44

Joey I is Queen Of Do As I Say And Not As I Do! Got a crown and everything. xx

determinedma · 27/02/2013 13:01

Ahem, there are no such things as hopeless cases on this bus but there are a few of us way too cosy in the sidecar!

guggenheim · 27/02/2013 13:34

Hi there lovely babes

libertine sorry, this is cheeky of me, but no I really don't think that working in a pub is a good idea- sorry! I know it's nothing to do with me, but I think it will be difficult to stay sober around booze. I deffo couldn't manage it. Sorry

joey at least you are doing something about it! Really hoping this makes a difference to your anxiety. Poor you! I worry about you and your anxiety sometimes but that's not very helpful really is it!

isinde Think you would need saint like control to stay off the sauce in those circumstances! Travelling is part of your job isn't it? Does everyone drink? If so then that is really hard. Do you want Barry for your suitcase? Just pop him in your washbag- you'll be fine.

curry fab news- well done. And you have set the bar (excuse the term) for next time you go out with those friends. They won't ask or notice what you drink after a bit.

purple and lemony for you- lots of sympathy x

faire that was a great post, thank you!

mouse big wave. Hope you are ok.

guggenheim · 27/02/2013 13:35

How rude- ma ALL and ANY pictures of cake are welcomed, thanks.

aliasjoey · 27/02/2013 14:00

Did somebody say cake?

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 14:11

OK, am acting a bit strange now. Went to see about job (mad as that may be :) ) was nervous as hell, wanted a beer before, didn't get one, even though I went in shop.

On way home, I went and bought one, got home, opened it, felt immediately better, made a coffee,and there it stands?! That was half hour ago, wtf am I doing?!

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 14:12

didn't drink a sip, in case that's not clear.

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 14:40

OK, have drank it now, not so strange after all eh?

aliasjoey · 27/02/2013 15:15

Maybe plan some distracting techniques for the next time you crave a drink? Kettle on, have a bath, go for walk. Sometimes you just need to delay for a few minutes or hours and the cravings WILL GO AWAY (honestly!)

obrigada · 27/02/2013 15:17

Is beer your drink of choice Libertine? It's drank now so no changing that, have you plans to get any more beer today? Or are you going to distract yourself and stay away from the shop?

LibertineLover · 27/02/2013 16:03

I've gone into a really low mood, I never get low either, sorry I know I'm going on and on, yes I want more beer, and i sometimes drink wine, but when I'm trying not to one or two beers seems the lesser of two evils.

I think I'll just give up TBH, obviously your lovely support is not going to help me, just fill your thread up!

Thank you all, I wish you all the very best of luck xx Libs xx

Fairenuff · 27/02/2013 16:36

Libertine there are other things to try. What about Becks Blue? It's very low alcohol beer and, for some, it's enough.

Please don't feel you have to 'succeed' to be here on the bus. We are all at very different stages and not everyone is trying to give up anyway. Some of us just want to cut back or at least get back some control.

Stay with us, lovely, and just sit for a while. Today might not be the day for you. Doesn't matter. Just stay for the company ok?

PurpleWolfe · 27/02/2013 16:47

Libs Don't you dare go! All of us on here have had failures, some more than most . This isn't a thread for people who don't drink - it's for those who, at whatever level, would like to have a better relationship with alcohol. And, from what I've understood of you from your post - THAT'S YOU! You don't have to feel like you have to collect 'good behaviour' stars Lovely! Stay. I'll be good for you. xxxx

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Mouseface · 27/02/2013 18:19

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Libs - if you really want to stop with the drinking, then stay. Drinking or not, ready or not Today, stay! We're not talking about you stopping this minute and for EVER!! We're talking about you stopping, your way, in your own time. We're all so bloomin all over the place that you're so not alone are you?

Purps - I'll be good for you? Do you mean 'it'll' or is there something I need to know?

Nemo is driving me mad with the clingy behaviour, back in a mo......

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PurpleWolfe · 27/02/2013 18:41

One missing letter Mouse! Just one! xxxxx

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Mouseface · 27/02/2013 18:45

Sorry........ RANT ALERT!!!

Currently I'm struggling. We're right back to the start with Nemo and school, I'm supposed to be going out tonight but have to put him to bed first and hope he goes to sleep before I can leave and he doesn't wake. He won't let ANYONE near him. All the hard work has been undone and I can't take much more.

Ever since he was ill, after his op, it's all turned to shit. My marriage is under so much pressure I can't even tell you the shit that went down this weekend. My life revolves around Nemo. It's not temper, it's not attention, it's real, black and white, he wants me and doesn't understand that he can't always have me.

I am beyond exhausted and I want time out. I can't see a way out of this currently but I have some very good friends who have SN children and this all points to his Autism. I can't wait for them (the Powers That Be) to diagnose him with it 'officially' again, so that we can start to get the help, well, I can start to get the help I need to control him better. In a nice way IYSWIM?

DH is at his wits end, he is so desperate for Nemo to be nice to him, life is just so utterly shite. I can't go into too much detail here but really, life is hard right now. My friend has wine, only one bottle, that we'll share but I was so tempted to go and get more earlier.

Massive wobbles of late..... pressure from all angles to get Nemo to a certain level or place, SALT, school, feeding, this, that and the other, it's all down to me!!! Argh!!!!

Rant over, I need to go. Again. Sorry xx Back tomorrow xxxx

( IsinDe - I knew that would happen re the hotel sweets, I used to have that too, get there, quick drink to settle everyone in turned into bottles and I'd beg that food would arrive! Well done on knowing that you needed to eat and re-hydrate! Are you still planning your detour on Friday? )

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