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This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

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lubeybooby · 25/01/2013 15:38

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

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watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 09:22

lubes, it gets better. he declared, that had he had of had man v food on a few mins earlier, that would have been the best thing, man v food, getting head and then some kind of meat sandwich, delievered to his bed by me.

likei said. not attentive

and i wasnt expecting that at all either....

it was like a totally different person to the day before and earlier the same evening.

JoylessFucker · 02/02/2013 09:25

Oh dear watch, I'm Sad on your behalf.

I know there is a general view that meeting up sooner rather than later is the way forward, but I tend to take my time as I don't want just massive amounts of lust, I want to know that I'm going to enjoy their company too, otherwise its just so bloody disappointing.

In other news, someone I never got off first base with (due to my deciding on someone else who was in the screening process) has returned. He's been in touch - on and off doe some time. I know he's keen, I know he enjoys my company and loves the fact that I can talk rugby with enthusiasm and knowledge, I know he is fond of me. I also know that there is something complicated in his life which means he feels like a married man, whilst being divorced (yes, I've checked). I've shied away from him as I have a feeling I could fall for him. At the moment my life is so busy that I don't have the time for a 24/7 relationship and that is what he has always said. So maybe I'm judging him without cause ...

I'm think I'm going to give it a go, but I'd really welcome the wise words of MNet on the subject. My friend has dubbed him Mr Whippy and I'm going to spend the afternoon with him now, but I'll be looking out for your comments and/or questions when I get back later.

Flipper hope you're feeling more comfortable, lubey hugs from here too. to everyone else, hope to hear good things of what everyone's getting up to.

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 09:26

WHY, WHY cant i find someone nice!!!

WWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.

hopeless, really is.

Snapespeare · 02/02/2013 09:26

flip glad you're settling down a bit - sending positive positives to you!

OhWesternWind · 02/02/2013 09:29

Flipper so pleased things seem to be going well. Have been thinking of you a lot.

Alittlestranger · 02/02/2013 09:31

Watch it sounds like he was deliberately trying to make you dislike him, to avoid getting into any of the damn heavy stuff. That comment sounds like a how to guide to being totally obnoxious.

Flipper924 · 02/02/2013 09:45

Thanks again, all. Scan is Tuesday, Watch, which seems like an age, but is a shorter wait than I was offered last time! It's tough, I know a scan won't make a difference to the outcome, but I'm stuck in limbo!

Watch, here's a tissue and a cup of tea, blow your nose and pull yourself together. This 'man' is not a reflection of your ability to meet a good one, it just confirms that there are still shitty little wankbadgers out there as well. What a prick. If he suggests seeing you again, I'd ask him what he thinks you'd get out of it!

Joyless, if you think you might like this guy, then I'd say go for it. You can only give so much at the moment, but a serious relationship means different things to different people. He might be fine with the level of commitment you can give.

Where's Velvet? Am hoping she's having a lie in after a lovely date...

ike1 · 02/02/2013 09:46

God makes me glad that i only associate with males over 80-at least they are attentive and ......grateful for just conversation...

ike1 · 02/02/2013 09:48

Right t'en Snape its up to you Watch and Kin to restore faith in O.Dating...so no pressure...

ike1 · 02/02/2013 09:49

oooP NOT Watch ...Velv...

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 09:55

yes, not me. no way.

am hoping velvet had a better time.

and snape, with your date too.

flipper, im not upset, though thanks for the tissue i shall use it to remove last night make up im just, fucked off with the whole thing. Actually, thats too strong a word. disapointed? I looked fab last night ( a took a quick pic and stuck in on fb because i was frankly shocked myself, 17 likes and a ton of comments.... i was rocking it. ) im bloody nice, and interesting and fun. and terminally single in a sea of rubbish men.

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lubeybooby · 02/02/2013 09:56

Yes Velvet where are youuuu?

Had a chance to read back a little bit, Snape! Second date! Oooh!

ike you do make me giggle.

Flipper, another hug, and wishing you so much good luck. So, so, so much.

Watch, what an utter and total complete 100% knobber. Fucks sake. You WILL meet someone nice, even if I have to find him myself and duct tape him to your sofa.

Joyless, go for it - these things are usually always worth a date or two just to suss out a bit more.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 09:58

for over 4 years!!!

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 10:01

go for it lubes. go for it.
My lesbian friend has said i should swap teams.... i would consider it if i didnt like cock so much.

ho hum. to quote queen, another one bites the dust.

flipper, its the being in limbo thats the hard bit. am thinking of you.

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 10:02

oh bollocks, i seem to have a date for tonight.

with an igloo building, australian chef. 3 messages, im game, fuck it, why not.

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lubeybooby · 02/02/2013 10:05

Hell yeah watch. Bloody go for it!

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Flipper924 · 02/02/2013 10:06

Watch, you are all those things and more! Don't ever doubt that, and especially not because of some twat from pof.

Ike, this is one of the reasons I drive to the next village to socialise in the pub there. Genuinely friendly community, of all ages, but no chance of pulling. And because I have to drive home, no chance of getting pissed and making a tit of myself.

KinNora · 02/02/2013 10:08

Joyless, agree with Lubey, give it a go and have some fun.

Tomorrow's date has a dark cloud over it - 2 of the dc vomited copiously last night, I'm waiting nervously to see if I succumb.

Flipper924 · 02/02/2013 10:09

Yay, Watch! Back in the saddle, eh? He sounds worth a date, definitely!

watchoutforthatsnail · 02/02/2013 10:10

why not, im childfree, hes scruffy and has offered wine.
i dont even know his name.
serioiusly, could it be any worse than last night, no, no it could not.

flipper, i am :) i know this. men just dont seem to. Ill re phrase that, straight men dont think so, gay men bloody love me. Fuck it, ive decided im kylie, in brunette and chubbier form. Loved by gays, terrible luck with men.
:)

( honestly, i am fine, self esteem not damaged or upset, just, disapointed ) however, due to the meeting quickly, its quite easy to move on.

Flipper924 · 02/02/2013 10:10

Oh, Nora, how are you feeling so far?

KinNora · 02/02/2013 10:17

Oh I'm alright, Flipper, despite my line of work I bloody hate vomiting - I stand there with the vomit bowl, looking away and gently gagging. I'm hoping against hope that my immune system has already encountered whatever it is and is dispatching antibodies.

I'm trying to decide whether to warn Mr Software in case I have to cancel.

Scrazy · 02/02/2013 10:22

Flipper, how far along are you. I had a little spotting with DD at 10 weeks, went for an early scan and everything was fine.

Joyless, it sounds promising, hope you have a lovely afternoon. Don't look too far ahead and worry about falling for him, it's early days and you might or you might find he gets on your nerves the more you get to know him.

Watch, not sure what to say. I would avoid rushing into something with OD, give it a few more dates to suss someone out where possible, go on dates rather than to theirs etc. The only one I DTD with on a second date, went cold on me afterwards. I didn't intend to stay over at his but missed the train. We'd had a really nice night, went for drinks out but I had no choice to stay over. It might have been all the red wine I consumed after I got back to his from the station that put him off me rather than DTD. We still speak 2 years later but I wouldn't go there again.

This afternoon is still on! Wish me luck I am so out of practise with OD. I reckon I will be a nervous wreck later on. Need to get on, do my hair and I might paint my nails. It's in daylight, yikes!

MsCellophane · 02/02/2013 10:26

Watch, sorry he was a knobber but go for it tonight - we don't let the bastards get us down!

I had a deep convo with MrCM last night. He went from running very hot to very cold during the week. So I deleted his number, told him I liked him but I'm not into games and he knows where I am if he wants to continue. He came back with he's not sure if he's ready for anything and he isn't a player and he wouldn't shag and run as it's not him. So, I've left it for him to contact me if he's ever ready

In the meantime been chatting with a moose of a man who spends half his time in Spain and half his time in London - I've never seen muscles like it. I am calling him at 1pm

And the most gorgeous Lenny Kravitz look alike - stunning looking man. Will be calling him later too

Think I will stick to casual with hot pretty men for a while again

KinNora · 02/02/2013 10:27

Good luck, Scrazy, you go, girlfriend.

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