This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

oh ef it ...just e-mailed a doc who reckons he has big hands and is looking for a woman with large knockers....this should be a laugh....(am 32E if anyone is interested....)

....wht DO 'men' want??? I dunno....gone past carin'....

PP if you're not meeting these people in person it's not "you". Hey, even if you had gone on several dates it still wouldn't be you, but at this stage it's especially not IYSWIM. How many people are you starting chats with? Is there any common denominator which suggests you're inadvertently initiating/being contacted by flakey ones? Do you ever suggest a drink if conversation is going well but dragging on? And are these all from POF??

PP although it seems like a good idea to chat a lot before meeting them, I don't even bother with this any more as I have tv series to watch it saves the disappointment of thinking you are getting to know someone and then finding out they are unavailable for whatever reason. Sometimes the more chat, the faster they disappear.

A couple of emails, a meet up for coffee, not always but sometimes give them my number depending on where the coffee date is. If they don't suggest meeting up fairly rapidly, I make it clear I'd be happy to meet and if they don't suggest that, I drop them.

PP and of course it's not you. It happens to all of us on here from time to time. Remember a lot of them are just after the excitement and have no intention of meeting. Think its a bit like those people who go to look at houses but have no intention of buying.

I second what Jules says.....

At the risk of you all thinking I just want in while it's exciting... (go BabyGs Snape and Watch ; wishing whatever Lubey and Flipper wish for themselves; and good vibes to all)

Juliette it's not just you, there is a definite dearth of real grown ups, ie late 40s-50s, out there. Had a cancellation tonight, but not after he had specified I should wear black boots and a short skirt. Assumed it was a joke, but was reiterated as a proviso for a rearranged date. Even after i'd said I owned neither!

The only real temptation has been an eloquent 31yo - 17 years my junior - but I still need persuading on that one!

Secret I can only find younger men in RL and I have gradually got the age up to close to mine. Even men in their 40s are ok, at least they take care of themselves but I've now had 2 bf who were 49 and 51 and there was something rather attractive about someone who is (almost) my age in terms of common references etc. I've realised that the next man of any age who is half decent is probably going to get laid as I'm getting fed up now.

It's not just the potato heads, it is dressing like a tramp, they even go to the hairdressers sometimes and still come out with ear hair that a wolf would be proud of. I don't inflict my chin hair on them, jeez.

Sorry Secret I meant your 31 yr old, just have him!

Do you think? He's also more than a ft taller than me. I'm afraid u'll look like his shrunken grandma! He does seem quite keen though!

Evening all. Been away. Offering and as appropriate to everyone - take whichever you'd prefer!

Alittle I haven't messages that many to be honest purely because there have been very few that have caught my eye. The two that flaked on me approached me and suggested meeting up. This recent one, I have no idea how we got from arranging the details to him having a complete U-turn in 24 hours.

Juliette I think you're right about talking too much before hand, I was thinking the same thing myself.

Definitely agree about not talking too much beforehand. Establish you have a bit in common - yep, but it's better to get on with it and meet after that point. So much can be different or not apply in the flesh

Definitely agree, although I think the message is out as I've had a number of requests for a date in the first response to a message. For me that's just too quick.

How was your chat with TT last night lubey?

Read your other thread now (should have done that first ).
Hope you manage to talk to him soon.

Thanks Miranda. Have updated it again not that it's anything particularly new. Should hopefully be talking to him tonight, he says he'll be back at a more reasonable time.

Well today was the day that my cosmic order was due and I'm STILL at my mum's and I'm STILL on secondment .. bloody woo!!!

Well Mr Cheeky has tried the bombarding me with angry texts (I lead him a merry dance etc etc) and is now trying the 'we were fantastic together why throw it away after one mistake' tack ... I am not sure what to do .. I do like him and the sex is great - as a long term prospect though .. No! and as he has said he's in love with me FWBs isn't really going to work is it?

KW As your feelings for each other seem to be a bit of mismatch, I do think it would be kinder to walk away.

No, it won't work, Kirsty. I think you should stick to your guns on this. He sounds a bit odd, to be honest, and you're well shot of him. Shame about the sex, though.

Definitely not Kirsty. It's gone past the point of no return with his abusive messages. If he had graciously accepted it or at least not got nasty then maybe

But even so, if he's in love with you it's still kinder to finish.

He'll get over it - all the quicker the sooner he goes no contact!

Kirsty you finished it because he was getting weird, if you start to wobble then remind yourself by reading the abusive texts he sent you.

Secret excuses, excuses

watch can you give me a vague time you might be reporting in on the 2nd date - So I can structure my housework and obsessive compulsive competition entry around your movements today please?

am vicarious, absolutely gagging for a shag

velvet hope you have a lovely evening!

Kirstie no. no no no no no no no no. If you're thought of as callous now, it'll really go to shit when you end it next time.

lubey you too flip

appointments with school and CAHMS for DS1 this afternoon. Hoping to do a charity shop run tomorrow, if I have any cash left. Might suggest a coffee with the nameless one at some point over the weekend. he sent me a photo of him wearing a batman mask and knitting. this absolutely does it for me.

:)

I had to abondan my weekly food shop because i couldnt concentrate. Instead i came out with 24 condoms. A bottle of rum. Ice and bacon.
:)

We have been chatting since 6 am. I didnt sleep much so am attempting some now ( hurrah for part time working )

Date time is unsure. 5 ish if he can get off work early. 7 if not.

My friend advocates not sleeping with him. Then i told her about being thrown out of a shop for too much kissing. Essentially i think if theres chemistry like that you are foolish not to act on it, it doesnt happen all that often. And at this point i dont care if it works out long term or not. I just want him.

:)

And im 34.
And got thrown out of a shop for too much kissing.
It is fab.

Bollocks to growing old and sensible. If i want to snog people in shops, i shall :)