This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

he sent me a text by mistake in the evening which said 'Hi, I'm outside x'
^^
Smothie sounds more like a 'mistake' than a mistake!

Shitehawk I like this

Voice, more sympathy from me, it's shitty being single when everyone around you is coupled up. When I was in a relationship, there were loads of single people around, but now I'm single, they've all vanished! I have lots of lovely coupled up friends, who make time to see me on their own or with their other halves, but it's not the same.

Smoothie, shitehawk indeed.

Right, I'm off to name change, as my current name is too close to my real name.

No, I don't think so Mercury - he's very secretive and the DC told me he never lets them near his iPhone any more! He was just being Billy Bullshit in the poor-me-give-me-sympathy stakes.

voice such supportive messages here and we are here to grip your hand whenever you want.

The incomprehensible Itallion has replied to my message about being historical and satorical: Snape if you thought the last one was romantic, wait till you see this one!
you welcome,,any sleeem chance to have your ph number in order to lissen to the music of your voice,

Plus a Mr Squirtgod has messaged me and a MrLicker. Its all good.

Voice sorry you're feeling low. You've been so proactive, with different clubs and activities (and now must be a fab cook, a dab hand at racquet sports and exceptionally well-read)!

Has anyone used the well-worn cliché on you that 'it'll happen when you stop looking'? And if so, was there minor violence?

"Listen to the music of your voice"?

Where's the 'vomit' Smiley when you need it!

Sorry that you're feeling low Voice. Your life sounds really full, all kinds of different things going on. I wish I could be as productive and had the motivation to have all those interests.

Third date is in the process of being arranged with Mr Full On. Really nervous.

Smoothie - I dropped the badminton. Neither club were very sociable. It was turn up, play, and go home. Never a drink in the pub afterwards or the odd meal out etc. If I want just exercise without anything else, I'd rather go for a run. As for the cliche, only about 100 times. Well, I haven't been looking as such for six months (ie, no online dating) and bugger all's happened yet!

Shitehawk is going to be my new expression to replace wanker, which I use too often I think. Shitehawk has far more finesse, less vulgar!

Voice have you had your particulars gone over? Happy to check out any old/proposed profiles.

scatty the italian is such good value

How do I know I CBA with the whole OD thing? I just rejected a possible match because I didn't like his wallpaper border (which in fairness was pretty hideous)

Hope you are feeling better soon, Voice, I'm pretty much in the same boat with a very painful anniversary today.

Wrt your best and other female friends. I have been of the opinion that friendships between men and women are complicated and admit that I have, in the past, ended a romance when a guy has appeared to be too close to too many female friends. Ones I have never met, because of being in different locations etc. There were other reason surrounding it as well, e.g not being upfront about how much time he spent with them, raising my suspicions that they weren't just innocent friendships. Suppose I'm just wondering if my experience is way off mark and I have been jumping to the wrong conclusions.

I haven't dated a man with so many so called female friends and don't have close friendships with men without there ending up being some attraction of their part. I'd be interested to know if you or they might want more from the friendship or if it is possible to be purely platonic. Hope you don't mind me asking.

To Smoothie - I say a harsh inward ha! to the 'happen when you least expect it' brigade. They are invariably partnered (nay, smug marrieds), and it's either that cliche or 'you have to put yourself out there'... which is it to be?! Hmm?

Juliette - I had several of my female friends go over my profiles back in the day (ones who had used OD themselves, mostly) and they only suggested a couple of minor tweaks and still to this day don't get why it didn't work for me.

I think as much as anything it must be the area as even when I was searching on POF in a 50-mile radius the number of women not wanting any/more children was pretty low, even before looking at whether I found them attractive or interesting. It took out about 85%. Or perhaps round here, they are just ridiculously picky and don't recognise a marvellous, sensitive, witty guy when they see one .

More evidence for the area is that one of my more attractive female friends was on Match for 2 years and only managed a handful of dates locally and in the end started having to date guys well over 50 miles away (currently seeing a guy who lives 110 miles away, weekends only).

I've been talking to someone on POF who seems really nice and normal. He can use sentences, capital letters and full stops and he didn't suddenly stop talking to me when he saw my picture or knew the age of my kids. He's nice looking too and a bit 5 years younger than me. I'm going to keep talking to him and see what happens.

I just got oi'd at by some bloke on chat there. Because I didn't reply within 3 seconds he oi'd me. I couldn't understand what else he was trying to say because I can't understand text speak! He's been blocked for being rude.

Scazy I would see it as a good sign if a man had a lot of female friends, I think it shows he gets to hear a woman's perspective on things, recognises that women 'real' not just in all our glory and genuinely likes women's company. The last two men I was seeing had more female than male friends, the last was in close contact with his two significant exes. I didn't want to meet the exes but had no problem with them meeting up. Some men like men's company but also appreciate women. Personally I miss being in an all male office, I like listening to geeky men's banter.

Smooth I'm so pleased you said that, I thought it was just me who had a problem with interior decor

Wallpaper is one thing - anyone else think that a profile pic clearly taken at the guy's computer (by pc webcam, reflection of screen visible in specs) is a no-no - either such a saddo that he hasn't got a single pic taken by friends, or massively lazy - both non-starters? Do women do this too?

Juliette, interesting, thanks for that.

Voice, have replied, sorry for the grammar mistakes as I was rushing.

Walk that doesn't bother me, I think that is because he is single.

Holy shit. Put a new pic up on PoF of me with a really big grin and it's getting some adorable compliments. I might just sit and enjoy the ego boost awhile...

Lubey, enjoy

hey - my first proper post here apart from to say hello. Have just joined an online dating site and I guy I've only chatted to for around three messages wants my number. TBH I don't really want someone having my number until I'd been on a date. He seems nice, friendly etc so don't want to seem rude so what's a nice way of saying 'no you can't have my number'

My bubble didn't last long scrazy... just got one saying I look like a need cock (wtf? it's just a grinny head shot!)

oh well..

Kelly why not get a cheapy crap mobile to have as a dating phone? just then at least if you or he get held up or can't make the date you can communicate.

If not then just say you'd rather not til after the date... I'm sure he'll understand if he's a nice bloke.