Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

999 replies

Mouseface · 23/01/2013 17:50

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! Grin)

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

OP posts:
StepAwayMister · 28/01/2013 11:50

Hi everyone

Huey well done you!! That's very inspiring.
Ma thinking of Richard

Well, very mixed weekend here. I drank. Not loads or uncontrollably but I drank. Crap. BUT I spoke to my DH about how much I'm struggling with alcohol, and how it's having 1 glass of wine that's the problem, not the solution (I'm a binger). He was great and today is a new start and he is behind me 100% and I know that if I'm feeling weak I can ask for support and will get it.

So, Day 1 (again!) and here we go..... I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY.

waves hi other babes - hope you're all doing well.

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 12:09

green keep with it! keep with it! I'm starving along with you xx Koala you've been one of my biggest inspirations since I started lurking Blush go you!!! Curry you're doing so well, wow, all that money saved, sorry to hear you're not feeling so fab x We're hoping to save some in the Dame household now dh has discovered e-cigarettes and is getting on with them really well. Never would have thought it, he has been smoking for years and years. All hungry babes, it's the afternoon now, keep it up Grin xxx

NewYearNewMia · 28/01/2013 12:28

I have a question for our new resident chef... Grin

Ladame are you any good with cakes? Or any other Babes out there a whizz with baking?

I made an enormous madiera cake last night (10 inch square tin) which went pretty wrong and took almost 3 hours to cook through to the middle. I had the outside of the tin wrapped in newspaper so it didn't burn on the outside but it is pretty dry and dense, frankly. Sad I froze it over night as this is meant to make it easier to carve and ice I've defrosted, cut it and it's ready for icing; I'm intending to coat it with butter icing then it's going to have two coats of yucky ready to roll fondant on it. Any ideas on what on earth I can do to jazz up the cake itself? Would a nicely flavoured filling bring it up a bit, do you think? It tastes ok, I suppose, but it isn't the melt on the tongue delight I had in mind! DD likes butterscotch icing, but if I fill it with that, would it make it slide around too much for the icing? Should I just accept that the look of the thing is more important than the taste and concentrate on the decoration?

NewYearNewMia · 28/01/2013 12:28

Sorry to talk about cake while lots of you are fasting, by the way! Blush Grin

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 12:52

Mia Hmmm, sounds like it cooked a little too slowly for too long. Does it matter if you don't keep the cake whole? I would use the top layer as a lemon drizzle cake, so heat lemon juice and icing sugar until you ger a drizzly icing, stab said norty dry cake all over with fork and drizzle away into the holes. Leave to stand for 15 mins or so - lovely with a cup of tea (cake and tea cake and tea cake and t.. smacks self on hand). I'd freeze the bottom layer and use for trifles, spread with rasp jam and sprinkled with sherry (in-laws love sherry trifle). Or, cut into rounds, pop into ramekins/little round dishes and fry up cooking apple chunks in pan with brown sugar and butter, top with custard and sprinkle with brown sug, pop under grill til bubbling for nice quick (and delish) pud. Main thing is to add moistness xxx hope that helps xx

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 12:53

Just off to bang head against wooden staircase until faint and all images of lovely cake, pudding and custard have gone ....

NewYearNewMia · 28/01/2013 13:12

Thank you for those suggestions Ladame Smile but it's a birthday cake for DD so it's got to be a big square and covered with two layers of fondant (it's to be a minecraft cake looking something like this

I think you're absolutely right - too low a heat for too long a time. I was so nervous about it being scorched on the outside and raw in the middle that I overcompensated. Sad

I think I'll do a butterscotch and cream cheese filling, coat with buttercream icing and then fondant, and bank on nobody caring too much what it actually tastes like! Grin

NewYearNewMia · 28/01/2013 13:14

Ooh Ladame, could I make holes and drizzle some butterscotch through, or would that make it soggy?

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 13:24

Mia Not if it's not too runny - it might make it a bit 'puddingy' though. That looks like a fabulous cake for a birthday Smile. I think with all that icing and a nice filling, it'll probably be fine. Good luck x

greeneyed · 28/01/2013 13:35

Stop it! Grin

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 28/01/2013 13:42

I'm doing the same as koala and getting into the meetings and finding out what the steps really entail before I fully commit. I think I do want to work the programme but it is still very early days in the greater scheme of things. I have met 2 fab ladies who I have become good friends with. I don't want them as a sponsor as I enjoy their company! Hope that makes sense! Xxx

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 28/01/2013 13:42

I'm doing the same as koala and getting into the meetings and finding out what the steps really entail before I fully commit. I think I do want to work the programme but it is still very early days in the greater scheme of things. I have met 2 fab ladies who I have become good friends with. I don't want them as a sponsor as I enjoy their company! Hope that makes sense! Xxx

NewYearNewMia · 28/01/2013 13:58

Thanks so much Ladame!

Sorry Green - just focus on how dry and dense it is, and how it wouldn't be worth breaking your fast for such a substandard cake! Grin

greeneyed · 28/01/2013 14:32

Ha ha - actually I'm okay - was starting to get a headache so had a weeny portion of soup which takes me up to 100cals today with milk in tea - now just another four hours to go :)

Please can you send me some cake for tomorrow :)

aliasjoey · 28/01/2013 14:52

Diet failed on the first day, actually 3 hours in on the first morning. Blush

I deliberately didn't bring a snack with me, but ended up finishing the tin of Christmas biscuits instead.

At least I'm not drinking...

determinedma · 28/01/2013 15:06

ooh, green that's a clever idea. Fasting from evening to evening rather than morning to morning. it seems more manageable that way....

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 15:07

Joey don't worry, now you know that you really have to plan, because it is pretty tough the first couple of days even if you DO plan. Try again later in the week perhaps. You're right though, you're not drinking and I'm not drinking and you know what? - that makes it a good day.

greeneyed · 28/01/2013 15:16

Ma I had my tea (huge roast dinner) just after 6pm last night - today I am having 500 calls but saving 400 up for my evening meal so I suppose yes there is a 24 hour period of just consuming 100 cals (skimmed milk in tea and tiny portion of soup) It's been okay but I know it will be harder this evening when I'm not distracted by work - At least the cake cowbag might distract me from the wine witch :). I couldn't do morning to moring too scared of going to bed famished and not sleeping.

Joey the biscuit bitch got you! would be good to top up how many calories in wine you haven't ingested in dry January! that will make you smile.

I bombed on dry January but have still had 16 AF days this month and hopefully this fasting will get me up to 20 this week, which is progress in the right direction - fucked off I didn't do the month though - hey ho I'm still trying :)

eminemmerdale · 28/01/2013 16:08

Hello everybody. I hope everyone who is doing the diet is doing ok - despite slip ups Grin .
Managed to get DH to the doctor - his chest infection has cleared but he has damaged the lining of his stomach by...get this...drinking too many lemsip type drinks and taking ibuprfen Shock he's on some stomach ulcer tablets which are making him even more flipping miserable - arghhhh! I just wish he'd go to bed, at least i could shut the door on him.

Fed up today, don't know why, just sick of everything. sorry :(

guggenheim · 28/01/2013 17:27

Evening babes,
koala and huey- yes that's what I thought, that it would just be sensible to go along and think about sponsors (sorry about crap spelling in earlier post) later on when I'm ready. If or when you guys go for it, would you mind posting just to say why you chose that person or time? Just in a general way, nothing personal of course!

emine how much lemsip did he have???? !!!!! Shock

green 16 - 20 days is pretty much a whole month, you're doing fine. Good luck with the 5:2.

Malinky good idea to talk to dh, get some support for yourself.

free Oh yes, sunday drinking on an empty stomach is a favourite of mine! just seem to go together drinking and cooking doesn't it? Try to avoid it for a bit- prepare something in advance, get takeout,refuse to cook whatever. or try opening a bottle of naice soft drink before getting in the kitchen and keeping it well topped up. Good luck!

joey wave Smile

yes, I have a question for the bus chefs- can you both come round my house and cook cakes for me? I'm rubbish at cooking (even when sober).

greeneyed · 28/01/2013 17:35

"emin" suprisingly all my stomach problems did not stem from drinking! It started a couple of months after I'd had my son when I barely drank anything for well over a year - however I had been taking diclofenac for a few weeks after difficult birth. NSAIDs are really bad for your tummy. Since then though it has flared up with drinking and only properly settled down when I am off the booze for a few weeks.

The meds (which I now have to take daily) do start working quite quickly as long as he stays away from other irritants i.e. alcohol, cigarettes, caffeine - sigh if only I could take my own advice.....

Thanks Gugg If I can make it to 20 days that will be two thirds of the month so won't feel two bad.

Right I've now gone all weird and slow motion and definitely need my dinner!!

Ladamequirit · 28/01/2013 18:02

emin me too, same as green needed to take NSAIDs for inflammation and pain and ended up with gastritis and an ulcer. Is he taking PPI's? (usually end in 'azole'), they slow down stomach acid production and he should start to feel better soon. Just had tea (chicken and cabbage - er yum?) and have enuff cals left for a cup of tea before bed. Himself has found it easy today ffs, why do the bastards men always find these things easier than us? Missing his beer though Smile. You might find it a bit difficult to sleep, either a bit 'buzzy' or just freaking starving a bit hungry. x

aliasjoey · 28/01/2013 18:30

guggs waves back Smile how ya doing?

yeah, will try again, will NOT have a snack mid-morning! (can't believe I crumbled over such a small thing, especially when I've done so well without alcohol!)

aliasjoey · 28/01/2013 18:31

soma haven't heard from you, are you okay?

eminemmerdale · 28/01/2013 18:54

Yes he's taking something 'azole' - can't be bothered to go down and ask Grin He didn;t have that many Lemsips, but it was mixing them with ibuprofen that did it i reckon!