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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Mouseface · 23/01/2013 17:50

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! Grin)

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

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Mouseface · 08/02/2013 15:18

Ma - any news on your brother btw?

In the time it took me to write that Nemo has woken up. DD is due home any minute bless her. Hope she's okay :)

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Mouseface · 08/02/2013 15:49

Nemo has just puked his tube up. Damn reflux. Sad

Need to go... back later xx

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aliasjoey · 08/02/2013 16:46

Big weekend with friends - part of me really wants to get drunk and relax - I have been feeling very stressed lately (my back is sore from tensing up the muscles so much!) But I remember that I don't sleep well after drinking.

I have a sort-of plan: I haven't had a shower so tonight I will make an excuse to go and have a bath. I've also found that if I'm drinking, then taking a break, having a bath, cup of herbal tea, seems to clear my head and discourage having any more. So, am taking plenty of tea with me.

I also have to be aware that even if I only have a couple of glasses tonight, it will trigger a craving tomorrow. ODAAT but also keep in mind that slippery slope.

guggenheim · 08/02/2013 16:57

Being stinky as a strategy? Smile actually, a nice hot bath and a cup of tea is a great way to slow down. Do your friends drink much joey or can you get away with just having a glass?

mouse hope nemo is doing ok.

ohcluttergotme · 08/02/2013 17:02

curry so sympathise with your mil issues, I always crave a huge glass of wine when around mine to try to stop myself getting wound up by her constant subtle judging comments. Agree with mouse advice, your house, your terms & think a fab idea to have one to look forward to when she's gone Grin

ohcluttergotme · 08/02/2013 17:12

Aw well done gugg sounds like you've been working so hard in all areas, looking after little one, doing your course work & beating the ww, amazing....no wonder your shattered! Huge good luck for this weekend alias your plan sounds a good one & a nice bubble bath to look forward to Smile
Hope your Dd better soon MA and must be nice for you having your own dm around & maybe a comfort for your dm to be around you & your family with all the worry over your db (( ))
Aw no mouse poor little Nemo, hope passing his tube not too much of an ordeal for him or for you hugs to you sweetie, you have your hands full as always ((( )))
Wishing all brave babes good luck tonight. I was so close to buying a bottle of wine as been an exhausting week but the thought of facing tomorrow with my crazy boy on a hangover has been enough for now to stop me, so bought myself some coca cola as a Friday night treat and going to make Nacho's for tea. Me & dh watching Alias so got some downloaded for when ds goes to bed & dd staying at a friends & horrible bully not had school today so she had a good day Smile

aliasjoey · 08/02/2013 17:47

clutter you're watching ME ?!

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Mouseface · 08/02/2013 18:09

Thanks all xx

Clutter - it is a HUGE ordeal and we all hate it. I have to pass the tube, whilst DH holds Nemo down, but I have to use tape to secure it, and there's a guide wire that runs through the tube so that sometimes hurts him. Sad

HOWEVER - and this is a BIGGGGGY...... we're going to see what he is like without his tube in tonight and tomorrow. If he will drink enough of his feed, (to survive calorie wise, we're going to monitor him CLOSELY) we're going to see if we can get away from tube feeding whilst the opportunity presents.

His cleft team and nurse have hinted at this many a time in the past and I've always said no because he's never drunk his feed in a cup willingly before now. Today, he's had 300mls just in his cup which is almost what he's been having anyway. So......... I'm bound to have jinxed it by telling someone but I just want to share this, and you guys are important to me. We've not told anyone, in fact, it's only you guys who know.

Wish us all luck please. Smile

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Ladamequirit · 08/02/2013 18:14

Mouse Good luck, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that this works for you and little Nemo. It will be such a big step if it does xxxx

ohcluttergotme · 08/02/2013 18:32

alias ha ha hadn't noticed that yep me & dh watching you & we are loving you Grin aww mouse huge huge good lucks it sounds like such an ordeal for everyone & if you can find a way that helps and Nemo gets what he needs then I so hope this works for you all. Maybe now that Nemo is older you can reason with him that if he manages his fluids then he won't have to go through the procedure that he finds so scary (( ))

determinedma · 08/02/2013 18:56

Oh mouse how scary for you and how brave. I KNOW you can all do this. Go little fella.
Mum stayed here all day with Ds. Richard arrived at her house in the meantime, prior to moving back in. Mum didn't want to go home by herself when I got in from work, said she didn't know what she was going home to. I took her home, bro was in bed, more booze missing from cupboards. Mum crying, says she can't cope with having him home but he is her son. What else can she do.
Told her to come and sleep here tonight if bro is shitfaced when he gets up and tell him he has to be out of the house by the time she goes back tomorrow.Her fibromyalgia has flared up because of the stress. I feel so sorry for her.

guggenheim · 08/02/2013 18:58

mouse I've got everything crossed here. Good luck!

clutter you are very sweet Smile I am knackered this evening but I have also come to the realisation that I whinge rather a lot and need to get a grip.

Hello, I'm guggs and I'm an alcoholic drama Llama. I'm probably not in recovery from the whinging. Grin

clutter enjoy this evening and I hope you wake up tomorrow full of boing having avoided the ww.

guggenheim · 08/02/2013 19:00

ma your poor mum! Glad she has you. must be terrible to have a child, of any age in that state. It's awful if it's anyone but no one wants their child to go through that.

Has the Derek effect lasted?

jesuswhatnext · 08/02/2013 19:01

BOING!!! Grin yes!!! i've got me boing back!!! Grin

happy birthday obrigada !

good luck tonight mouse, hope the little fish can drink his fill! Smile try and stay calm about it or he will feel your anxiety!

now, mothers, mothers-in -law and drink Hmm i love my dm dearly but she is whats known as a 'difficult' woman! i have struggled to maintain what i would describe as an equal relationship with her for years, it has been a great deal easier to deal with her now im sober (if you take out my blip i have been sober for getting on 3 years) i find i can reason with her/walk away when i feel the need etc etc, - when i was drinking it was a nightmare, she felt able to judge, treat me like an idiot, a general failure etc etc and i never coped well with her or her moods - sober, its 'almost' a breeze! Grin i also do this wierd looking thing, i wander along behind her muttering Blush Grin she cant hear what im saying so i call her whatever i like Grin it helps! Grin

jesuswhatnext · 08/02/2013 19:03

ma - just a (((hug))) mate!

determinedma · 08/02/2013 19:11

Thanks Jesus

determinedma · 08/02/2013 21:54

Where is everyone tonight?

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Mouseface · 08/02/2013 22:05

I'm here............

I hope your mum's okay sweets. xx

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Twogoodreasons · 08/02/2013 22:16

Just checking in before bed. Hope Miss Mouse and Obrigada had lovely birthdays.

No whispers from the WW for me tonight - liquorice tea and decoupaging a stool - rock and roll!

Up at 5 for work, so night all, keep the WW at bay!

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Mouseface · 08/02/2013 22:37

Thank you Two, DD is at her friends' house which I weird but she's having fun!! Smile

Well done for keeping the WW at bay, sleep well xx

Nemo is asleep at last, JWN was spot on about my anxiety.... I tried to get him to have more feed from his cup before bed and he was adamant (I always think of Adam Ant when I type that word, showing my age! Grin) that he was having none!

So it's bedtime in the Mouse house.

Will keep you posted on how the tube situation goes. Prayers and crossed fingers greatly welcomed from you my friends. Thank you in advance xxxxx

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KoalaKube · 08/02/2013 22:41

Evening Babes Wow the week has flown by - but in a good way. Back to work but still croaky. Had a check up with nurse this week and BMI has dropped but cholesterol is apparently too high at 9something. Hoping the healthier diet will help, but might have to have statins for a while to get it down quick.

After a busy day at work today I had a strange moment on the way home I automatically pulled into a local shop I used to use honesty alert I only really used it when I had bought too many bottles at the other shops and thought somebody would notice the daily amounts, would also drive to it drunk as the roads were a back route and hardly used. Well I automatically pulled in this evening - my mind was on other things and I was hungry and tired. Luckily I realised what I had done as soon as I was parked and got out of there swiftly - bloody Wine Witch catching me when I was off guard.

Off to AA tomorrow lunchtime and then a bit more decorating - I'm finally at the top of the house and even though it looks fab I've also noticed other bits looking shabby - so I'll deal with all that too. Don't mention the garden I'm hoping I can hold spring off a little longer until I'm ready to deal with that too - I've neglected so much over the last few years - I really was a bit of a wreck only just holding it all together for appearances sake.

As Yazz used to say, the only way is UP!

Goodnight - I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TOMORROW.

NewMoomIn · 09/02/2013 03:53

Hello ladies. Some of you will remember me from a long while ago - was one of the original Babes. In fact I named us. I think! Feels like years, oh hang on it was!! Just wanted to say hello. Have really been to the bottom of the barrel these past few months but I'm ok now. For now I guess. It's weird to be posting again but nice. Hope that everyone is having a peaceful night xx

ohcluttergotme · 09/02/2013 08:08

Morning NewMoomin sorry you've been going through a really tough time again & welcome back to the bus. I'm a pretty new babe, joined in September but have found the support & strategies for avoiding the ww inspiring.
Hope things ok in house of mouse overnight x
Wishing all brave babes a good day x

greeneyed · 09/02/2013 09:06

Morning babes, sorry been lurking, in a very strange place. Taking new meds for ADHD. Like being on recreational drugs without the good bits! Tired but unable to sleep, temperature all other the place, agitated. Had a couple of glasses of red the last couple of nights to settle me down (no interactions but i certainly wouldn't risk drinking anymore) will stick with it for a couple of weeks if i can to see if it settles down, hopefully won't go mad in-between - sorry me me me, just updating and keeping my place, too tired to nc but thinking of you all and wishing you all well xx

aliasjoey · 09/02/2013 10:19

Morning babes

The plan was pretty unsuccessful, there were more people than I expected so I couldn't have a bath. I did have herbal tea and water, but late arrivals meant I didn't get to bed till 2am and I am knackered

I found myself reluctant to make the tea, but thought that was a SIGN that I really needed to!

No real hangover, but slept badly, sore throat (acid reflux) oh yeah another problem is we were sleeping in the lounge, so we couldn't go to bed till everyone else had. Just excuses, I know!

mouse how did your night go?