The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! )

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

Boing!!

I struggled to get out of bed because it's so fecking cold this morning and my bed was so soft and warm, mmmm. Don't know why I'm feeling the cold so much at the moment - must be all that fat I'm shedding. Hahaha

Am psyching myself up to do The Shred after work today. Was supposed to start yesterday but was too lazy tired.

< waves to MsGee > Good to hear from you again. Anything in particular bring you back to us, or did you just miss us

Laters x

morning all. overslept - thanks to day 1 being a complete disaster yesterday.
Fortunately 4 legged furry alarm clock was hungry so a quick pounce on my head did the trick.

((ma)) hope today is better for you.

Another one here who needs to get things sorted out in the norkage department..... But that's for another day

Day 10. I fancied a glass of wine last night, but stuck to the Cherries & Berries with sparking mineral water. Did the trick. Mondays are usually bad for me (as in, arriving home from work exhausted after the first day back at work after the weekend). Instead, I did some washing, did the dinner, snuggled with DD and watched Doc Martin (which she absolutely loves, she's only 5 fgs), did the bedtime routine, reading etc, cleaned the sink, did the washing up, hung wet washing up, put some more washing on and did the ironing. I finally got to make my cup of tea at 9.45pm and DS arrived home from ATC soon after.

I'm still waking up in the mornings feeling really, really tired - do you all think it's a seasonal/cold/weather thing? I've calculated that I've now saved in the region of £70 by not buying wine for the past 10 days.....

No boinging here either....

Mouse let us know how it goes at the doctor's today.

Horrendous night last night. DD2 came home early from school poorly. DH started throwing up late evening, then DD1 started throwing up in the early hours. No one has gone to work or school today. It's going to be tough to avoid drinking tonight, though I fell a bit queasy myself, so that might help!

On the positive side, I was glad I was sober when I had to leap out of bed in the early hours and start washing bedding/ bathing children etc.

Oh no! two I was going to have a little whinge about everyone being ill but a household of vomming is the worst!!! Good idea to stay sober- anyone fancy D&V plus a hangover? Thought not! Really hope you don't get it too!

Well done lemony, much more productive than sitting on the sofa, drinking and crashing out early. AS for saving money: if it's 70 quid now, how much will it be in 6 months or a year? A holiday? New boots? Loads of new clothes? Nice thought isn't it? I've 'saved' nearly 100 quid since January and that's an underestimate.

ma We're all continuing to send kind thoughts and best wishes to you. I just feel really sorry for you and your brother and family.

Hope it goes well today mouse

two oh no, sounds horrendous! It will definitely help not to be drinking if you've all got a bug. Is your house under quarantine now? Is the Bus your only lifeline to the outside world?

DH is rallying, so I made it out to the shops and to drop DD1's urine sample off at the doctors - oh the glamour!

I have a cast-iron stomach (probably due to the abuse I've thrown at it over the years) so I'm hoping I'll escape the vomiting. I've just got to survive the Cbeebies marathon!

Wishing all the Babes (especially Ma) a happy day.

Hi brave babes been trying to catch up with the thread but little toddler not amused by my addiction to mn
So sorry ma that your having such a rubbish time, hope that someone in RL can hold your hand for you as it seems your doing a lot of it for others. alias hope your feeling better & can get through your job & beat off the wicked ww. mouse so sorry your little Nemo is unwell, hope he gets lots of cozy snuggles & feels better soon. Your BraGate situation sounds a bit o a nightmare & way too complicated, hopefully resolved soon! I got zopiclone from the GP, have had this before so hoping for a good nights sleep tonight
Well done to all brave babes who are feeling the benefits of not drinking & good luck & hugs to those struggling xx

Mouse, can you get to a Sainsburys with clothes? (I know a lot of the big ones are for car users) - because their bras are surprisingly good, though cheap. (No idea how they will last though) I bought some moulded seam-free ones which are very supportive and do the job. If you can afford it, and it is easy to get to, you could pick 3 sizes, try them on at home, and take some back (no fitting service of course but you could use the info you have to date to pick a range of candidates)

twogoodreasons - my thoughts are with you and I am wishing you all the best in standing firm against a rising tide of vomit.

Ma - hope you are ok today, yesterday must have been so so so draining. Can you meet someone for tea and cake and a debrief? We are always here of course. But there is nothing like cake!

Lemon - I know what you mean about the fatigue. I can't wait for the spring time and a bitof energy.

I am on day 4 of this horrific virus and still can't get out of bed. At last I do feel a little better than yesterday though which is a relief. It will have to end sometime.

clutter >> Bragate

thanks for all your kind thoughts and support.
Dh txtd bro this morning and ordered him pretty much to let mum know if he was still alive - it is the least he can do. He has done so, so I can stop listening to local radio for reports of a body being found in the park.
That's where we are at but he is alive anyway.

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Poor Nemo had another awful night, his ear was really hurting him, it only takes a bit of cold and his pain levels shoot up. He's better today on that front but from 2am onwards, I knew it was snowing because I was up with him, went to the loo and could see the giant flakes hitting the window.

He had a raging temp again last night, his nurse has been today and said we just have to get him through it but also said that we desperately need some 'us' time, as in my DH and I.

I guess we do. We've NEVER EVER been out without him since he was born, except for when he was in PICU and that was only across the was for lunch. We've never eaten so fast our lives. He's on little and often feeds and lots of snuggles but boy I'm weary.

Update on me, the doc has given me Carbagen 200mg tablets. I've yet to read the leaflet (NEVER GOOGLE) so can't tell you how ill these will make me, I'm hoping not at all after the last lot from the same family gave me stroke like symptoms! Not great when you're driving!

Two - sorry you are a house of poorly people (bar you) big, germ free hugs coming your way. Cbeebies is my co parent at times! xx

Ma - any news?

Clutter - zopiclone is great stuff! That's what I have used in the past as it doesn't give you that sleeping tablet hangover that you sometimes get. I hope they work for you! Lack of sleep is a really tough thing to experience when it drags on.

Curry - no to Sainsbury's with clothing here, they have a few bits... no bras though. I've sent the John Lewis order back and await to see what response I get! So sorry you're poorly too! All these poorly babes and passengers.

Lemony - Cherries and Berries is the way forward! I love Morrisons English Apple slightly fizzy drink, in a tall glass and lots of ice, feels like a treat but it's not. They don't do it sugar free so I may have to careful otherwise my teeth hurt.

Right, time to light the log burner, the snow is melting but we had a good 5 inches last night and this morning so I want to get the house warm before temp really drops again.

Back later lovely Babes xxxx

Ma - X posted, thinking of you all lovely xxx

Joey - I'm loving my boobage issues now being known as BraGate Hilarious, in fact, it's titillating? Now that joke is pure lack of sleep!

aww mouse hope you get to snuggle up to the log burner and get some rest!

ma at least your mum can stop worrying for now, but I suppose its just till the next time? you must be exhausted from all the stress

I have just got back to my car, and there is a note under the wiper that says 'Dear Driver'. I haven't dared to read it yet. I work in a busy hospital, which has a waiting list of 5 years for the carpark. Even if I managed to get a place (at £300 a year) there is no guarantee a space would be available when I arrived at work. So the closest I can park is about 15-20 minutes walk away (uphill!) I NEVER block anyone's drive.

Public transport would take about twice as long. I used to park in another road, that eventually led to complaints because I parked outside someone else's house. Now I park even further away. I don't get it, cars often park in front of my house, but there's no law against it so I'm not complaining.

Its upset me that someone has written this letter when I have no choice. I'm also angry with myself for getting upset. Other people cope with issues like this without getting so stressed, but all I can do is crumple.

I guess I'm going to wait till DH is home and read the letter then (am I a wimp for being unable to face even minor stress alone? ) The only solution I can think of is to try and find a house nearer which is willing to rent me drive-space. Great, I have to spend my day off tomorrow knocking on flaming doors.

Sorry, in the face of mas brother, twos 'tide of vomit', and Bra-gate, it is such a silly thing to get worked up about. I really wish I could be less anxious about everything.

joey open the letter and tell us what it says. We'll support you through it. You are right, actually. As long as there are no parking restrictions and you're not obstructing access, etc. you are perfectly entitled to park legally where you like.

It's annoying for people who live there, I know, but they don't own the piece of road in front of their house. Sure, if it's free they will prefer to park there and do so regularly, but it's not their right.

Hello. I have been absent but not drinking! Having a bit of a (very very first world) nightmare with dd and the school she's passed to get into. They've offered us a bursary but it's nowhere near enough (please don;t shout at me!) so I'm trying to negotiate. They seem willing to but it just means we have to wait longer to know whether she can go or not! arghhh. Sorry to hear the problems people are struggling with. i felt like such a priviliged twit with this 'problem' that i thought i'd better stay away Sorry.

Shit, just realised i haven't n'c d back!! Gah.

HI!! >>

emin that's okay, I posted about my first world problem too! Better on here than at the end of a bottle, eh?

Parking is stupidly expensive though isn't it - and nobody can tell you not to park on the road!

Hello all,

Well, only night for Dh and I to have dinner together this week, and guess what? He's had to work late!!!! En route from Portsmouth which is about 2 hours away at this time of night! Oh well early bath for me, and flipping early night. Had so much to talk/tell him about as well .

Anyway, feel very happy that I've managed to sort some things out at work, Mouse will pm you tomorrow re: very exciting news about SN.

Alias do you work in London?, although we have people all the time writing notes like that, actually, as Faire says, they don't own the road.

vquicke independent schools are having a very hard time at the mo, so, don't give up, they will do all they can to have bottoms on seats!

I hope all is well tonight Babes.
Much love
T xxxx

Hi,

I've been reading this thread awhile. I don't know what to do about my problem.

I am a 35 year old mother of two and started drinking at the age of 21. It was initially to help me overcome shyness in social situations, but quickly evolved to drinking alone. I had some problems that caused me to be depressed, and drinking made it worse. I became suicidal and ended up with a DUI and almost losing my professional career.

I got over that by moving back home with my parent and soon found the man who would become my husband. I had two children and life was ok. No more depression. Fast forward eight years and my husband left and I started drinking again.

I have the kids half the week and my drinking started on the days my ex had the kids. Now I'm pretty addicted, and I find myself drinking when they are here as well, although I find it easier to resist when they are here. However, when they aren't here I feel compelled to drink because I know that once they are here I can't/shouldn't drink.

I really want to stop. Kind of. When I have been out with friends drinking I have got extremely drunk...once my friend actually found me collapsed outside the club we were in because some guys had been buying us shots and I was keeping up with them and just blacked out. I cringe when I remember that.

I just wish I could hold the bad episodes in my memory to make me stop, but most of the time, as I am drinking alone in the house not enough bad things have happened to make me stop. I have the embarrassing moments of when I have texted people drunk, but apart from that nothing bad enough to be a rock bottom. I don't want a rock bottom, but I need a reason to stop.

When I drink it's a full bottle of wine. I know it would be more if I bought more....whatever is in the house I feel compelled to drink. On bad weeks I can do this four times a week. I am terrified what I am doing to my body. I am in the medical profession so should know better, although I know logic and education doesn't come into it. I am terrified that people around me are starting to notice, although I have not had any signs of that.

The other day at the supermarket I went to ask my child to grab me a bottle of washing up liquid off the shelf. I got as far as 'bottle' and he said 'of wine?' It really shocked me and made me stop and think...what the hell type of example am I showing the kids?...especially as I already had a bottle of wine in the basket. I still bought the wine.

My life is actually pretty good. WTF am I trying to sabotage it?

When I am stressed I want to drink, when I mess up socially I want to drink, when I am happy I want to drink.

Please help!

You're not trying to sabotage it - if you're anything like me, you have got to a point where it is a lot easier to carry on drinking than not - I went nearly a year without a drink once but fell back into it so easily :( The bad memories, the blackouts, the physical pain - sometimes they're not even enough to stop you. We all have a similar story - I've haven't bored anyone with mne yet there's time....! Just stick around and all the lovely people on here will be right behind you x

Hello embrace, yup, am sure logic, and education, doesn't come in to it! (hopeful icon)

We are all in the same boat (bus) here, and want to try and change things for the better. As em said* nobody has been bored to death on here, yet.
I'm glad you found this livesaver bus.
How are you doing tonight?
xx

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Sorry that I'm not about as much, Nemo is NOT well. I've also had a call from a lady who helps terminally ill children, cancer and traumatic operation experiences, heal and recover to tell me she wants to see Nemo.

We briefly touched on how he had to fight for his life and how I watched him dying on a bed ten times bigger than him God, I feel sick to my stomach just thinking that she's going to go over it all to try and help him.

She's a cranial osteopath.... highly recommended. I have to do this for my son. I have to. So, I'm writing brief notes about the PICU admissions and the trauma, sorry I can't support anyone tonight.

Thurso - yes please re the PM, sounds great Ignore the above and treat me as you would otherwise please xx

Truth - I seem to remember you, have you been here before, I skimmed your post, sorry . Welcome back/to the Bus xx

Em - and nobody can tell you not to park on the road! - they can if you park across my bloody driveway xx

Ma - any more news on Richard? I've been thinking of him... and you xx

Right, I need to go and sort out almost four years of paperwork and make sufficient notes so that this lovely lady can get an idea of what happened BEFORE she meets my darling boy. I know I'm biased but I can't help feel so terribly emotional and a little in shock that someone WANTS to take his pain, terrors and trauma away.

Be safe Babes, be kind to yourselves xxxxx

Sorry xx