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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Mouseface · 23/01/2013 17:50

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! Grin)

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

OP posts:
aliasjoey · 04/02/2013 12:06

koala great work, well done!

green TWO breakfasts, are you part-hobbit?

greeneyed · 04/02/2013 12:14

ha ha no I decided I was fasting but would just have a little porridge out of my 500cal allowance, then half an hour later thought sod it I'm starving and ate a hot cross bun - 10:30 I have a cheese and pickle sandwich and three chocolates - think I went over my 500 already :) ah well I'll try again tomorrow!

This is what alcohol does to me - drinking on Saturday night and I still feel completely drained and like I just have to stuff my face to keep going.... I just want to go to bed - this is no way to live babes -I'm off in search of the boing :)

Joey sorry just read post above, please let me put you off buying a bottle - I feel like crap - don't do it! - Nothing is undone, just need to get in the right mindset again my lovely

aliasjoey · 04/02/2013 12:50

green no I won't go and buy any more, but right now I feel really overwhelmed and crap at work. I nearly burst into tears on reading an email that has some technical aspects I don't understand. Feel pretty stupid.

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Mouseface · 04/02/2013 13:12

Koala - well done! You've really been kicking the WW into touch! Great work. I love the fact that you are treating yourself with the money you're not spending on wine. It soon mounts up doesn't it! It's fab to see you doing so well and loving the fact too! You should be proud of yourself! shout it from the rooftops! WELL DONE YOU! xx

Lemony - thank you, winter is just awful for him, roll on spring! He's in bed all toasty warm and snuggly.

MIA MIA MIA -

Okay, so, BraGate. They arrived this morning and both fit, one better than the other BUT the lack of support if a jeffing joke! Where are the proper straps to hold up my norkage? Seriously, it was like two strands of angel hair pasta holding up the cups! So, back they go Sad

I'm livid as they didn't look flimsy in the photos and when I spoke to the fitter, she said that they both provided excellent support.

I'm now going to have to travel into Shrewsbury (no easy task) and try to get to somewhere to try them on in a shop.

Or, Bravisimo (sp?) has anyone tried them? Any good?

Mintyy - hello again lovely. It sounds as though alcohol is the root of the problems you and DH are having, well, it's certainly fuelling huge flames by the sounds of things. I think you know you have to stop. If you want to stay with DH then things have to change, and now.

But again, you know that Sad xx

Greeny - STOP IT!!!!!!!! You are making yourself ill for no good reason woman. That is all xx

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AngryFeet · 04/02/2013 13:18

Hi everyone. Can I join you? I am desperate to cut down on my drinking or stop altogether. When I was a teenager through to about 23 I drank a lot at weekends but never during the week. Then I met my husband who is teetotal and apart from the odd night out I never drank as I lost touch with many of my friends for a while as I had some MH problems and hid myself away. Anyway after having DD (now 8) and DS (now 6) and after finishing BF (about a year after DS was born) I started drinking a bit again as I was able to go out more. About 2-3 years ago I found I was drinking at home a bit in the evening. Not much usually a vodka and coke or two but over the years it has built up to having 4 or more in an evening and it is now most evenings. What worries me is when I say I really need to cut down I can't seem to do it. It relaxes me in the evening which I need as I have a very busy life. But I smoke too (about 5 a day) and I am now very overweight (4 stone at least). I feel rubbish and drinking does not help as it is disrupting my sleep so much. I don't like the idea of being dependant on something like that so I am trying to stop.

I have just started reading this book as it has good reviews www.amazon.co.uk/Kick-Drink-Easily-Jason-Vale/dp/1845903900

Wish me luck!

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Mouseface · 04/02/2013 13:19

Joey

What time is your lunch break? Can you get yourself something nice? Something different to what you would usually have? And a nice treat maybe? You sound really low today sweetheart.

You're not okay at all are you Sad xxxxx

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Ladamequirit · 04/02/2013 13:20

Mouse, Bravissimo are good, but can be v expensive. Try Brastop.com, loads of offers and I always get my bras from them. xx Hello all babes and good luck to those on the freaking difficult so bloody hard I'm starving pretty easy 5:2 xx

greeneyed · 04/02/2013 13:26

feet Welcome :)

Joey You are not stupid just having a difficult day - wine will NOT make it metter

Mouse I hear you! You are absolutely right I am quite ridiculous and must stop it at once!

Yes to Bravissimo - spot on with measuring and they will check the bras on you - once you have a couple and know what size you are in certain makes - panache etc, I then order on ebay and amazon for half the price as Bravissimo are pricey - definately worth a trip. I am a 32G - M& S measure me as a 36E which I wore for words and blame my pendulous norkage on now - the cup size seemed right but they did not fit around the back and always rode up so weren'ty really getting any support, just covered. Only realised when I got married and fitted at a proper nice lingerie shop. Still a 32G at bravisimmo (though they are feeling a bit tight at the moment Blush )

greeneyed · 04/02/2013 13:27

for YEARS not words Confused

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Mouseface · 04/02/2013 14:23

Greeny - that's what has pissed me off, the Panache bra is gorgeous but wouldn't hold a pair of Cadbury's buttons up, never mind my previous 32H breasticles.

So, I'm supposed to be a 36E, the JL bra that was 'deffo going to fit me' according to the fitter on the phone does not and I get double bubble boobage, yet the Panache one does. My M&S 34G bra fits..... my head is spinning. It's so hard to get anywhere to get measured and WHY OH WHY are they all not the bloody same size regardless of where they are from!

Dame - I think I'll get a couple of M&S t-shirt bras like I have now and then try to get a more uplifting one from Bravissimo.

Joey - are you out there lovely? xx

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determinedma · 04/02/2013 14:29

My FUCKING brother!! All shit about light at the end of the tunnel, getting his head together....and sucker me fell for it again. Got shit faced at mums yesterday ffs after she has taken him in AGAIN. She was only out for an hour or two and he's necked whisky and rum and amaretto - all left over Christmas stuff. Mum can't go on, she lost it dig out a bottle of gin he had missed and told him to get a straw and go right ahead and kill himself. She is now distraught - and had a funeral to go to today - and feels dreadful but says she can't cope with him anymore. I want to go round and smash his face in....and yes, I am aware of posting all this on a thread where I go because I drink too much.
now I am stuck in a coffee shop waiting for a phone call to go and collect dad from the hospital. Had to get him to change his clothes before he went as they were all stained and pissmarks on his trousers, and then he couldn't walk to the ward and had to get a wheelchair....then best friend phone dnhaving a shit day and needing shoulder to cry on. Christ, I don't know whose hand to hold first,

Ladamequirit · 04/02/2013 14:37

Mouse Okay, but did you have a look at the website. I'm only saying because I find Bravissimo so pricey and Brastop.com have Curvy Kate, Gossard, Freya and Fantasie and loads more. I have to get them delivered from the UK and they are brilliant if I have to send them back. They are always having offers and sales. A really great thing happened at the weekend, DD rang me to say that she had been out clubbing (sigh - sometimes it's tmi) and had loads to drink and had friends coming round that evening and she wanted to know how to make it easier not to drink anything because she wasn't feeling brilliant and YKW, I was able to say LOADS, Play the video through to the end; having something to eat before they come; first drink say you're thirsty and have a soft drink thanks Venus lots of these are your advice. She phoned yesterday and said that is what she had done and ended up not falling into having loads of Vodka/Red Bull (ewww how do they drink that stuff - still I 'spose she'd say the same about my white wine). Thanks all lovely babes for keeping on keeping on, you're all amazing ladies. Ladame xxxx

Ladamequirit · 04/02/2013 14:39

Ma So sorry, cross-posted, didn't mean to waffle on about Bras Blush, your poor mum, it must have been awful for her (and you). xx

greeneyed · 04/02/2013 14:40

((((((Ma))))))

I'm so sorry - don't know what to say, Please don't feel like a sucker - I'm sure he meant it at the time and you wanted to believe him - sounds like too much for your mum - is she willing for him to stay there?

aliasjoey · 04/02/2013 14:51

thanks babes yes I'm okay, I just seemed to have a little panic earlier and its gone now Confused Don't know why, but sometimes I just get very anxious, overwhelmed and then a few hours later the world tips upright again...?!!

ma oh you poor thing, I don't think you were a sucker over your brother, just desparately hopeful? You must feel like you are being stretched in all directions... Sad

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Mouseface · 04/02/2013 15:09

Dame - nope not yet, I shall though because I'd rather go off recommendations than adverts so thank you Smile xx I know I can get a couple of every day t-shirt M&S ones online you see, that's why I said that, not dissing your advice lovely.

Ma - I'm so very gutted for you. What an absolute shit he is. You're right to be livid. I'm so sorry that you are stuck in the middle of all of this. Your drinking is in nothing like his. YOU are NOT your feckless brother and I feel that I can say that to you, as your friend. You need someone too you know xx

Christ, I don't know whose hand to hold first, - mine. Let me hold yours for a bit xx

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thurso13 · 04/02/2013 15:49

I'll hold the other one Ma, deep breaths for a bit. Mouse is so right, you are not your brother, and you have done/are doing all you can, for him, and everyone else.
Much love my matey xxx

StepAwayMister · 04/02/2013 15:52

Oh dear, sorry there are some shit days happening. ma sorry about your brother - your poor mum. I can't think of a better place to post about him though - a reminder that we are all battling the wine witch for a bloody good reason.

joey step away from the wine - you know it won't actually help right?

mouse I DREAM of having norm issues - mine are pitiful and could be supported by 2 large plasters ;-)

Well I'm having a BOING day. Finally stopped feeling so exhausted and have some energy. I had a riding lesson (mid life crisis!!??) which I can pay for easily with the money I'm not spending on wine :) loving it. I am also sticking to my diet and the weight is falling off nicely - it's amazing how much more I feel in control of my life in general since getting control of the booze.

Be brave babes :)

StepAwayMister · 04/02/2013 15:53

That should say *nork issues!

thurso13 · 04/02/2013 16:01

Hello everyone, hi to all new Babes,

What is it about being on adiet that makes me want to cook Confused. Had a rubbish diet January, and have been opening the wine of a weekend night with a bit too much enthusiasm for my comfort zone.
I had a big wake up call, when I realised that I had perhaps become a bit too "Oh, I've been ok for a long while now, don't really need to think about it anymore", wrong, wrong and wrong once more.
So, am hopefully smartening up my act in February, and being extremely mindful of trying to travel my new path, and not the old, well worn one, which I had hoped had fallen into disrepair.
I did a zumba class yesterday, and am paying for it today!, but really enjoyed it, lots of different ages and abilities, the teacher was the same age as me, and looked completely amazing, and was very bendy, whereas I'm about as supple as a pane of glass! Here's hoping!!
I've just made All bran and blueberry bars Hmm, to take to work for snacks, so my intentions are all there Grin.
Lots of love
T xxxxxx

ThisIsMyTime · 04/02/2013 16:14

Day 4 today never can get past day 4 going to do my best today just been the gym and feeling ok

StepAwayMister · 04/02/2013 16:18

mytime day 4 is just another day. We are right here...pats empty bus seat next to her

thurso I manically cook when on a diet too - never understood what that was all about!!

guggenheim · 04/02/2013 16:32

ma I'm so sorry, he's obviously in a really bad way. Bollocks. I guess that there is only so much you can do for him really but I hope he gets some help soon. Would he be prepared to try rehab or alcohol services through his gp?
Awww not nice and not good for you.

Passes some opal fruits and chocolate and large, blunt, but harmless object to ma. Feel free to beat sense into brother with said object until YOU feel better. Grin

joey I don't mean to be rude (much) but I still think you need a new job. I don't think it's you, I think your job makes unreasonable demands and leaves you feeling helpless. Sorry, i know you like it. So I'll shut up...

I don't really understand all the boob related issues either, what's wrong with a nice comfy vest? You can buy them in packets,no problem...

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 04/02/2013 16:38

(((( Big hugs ma ))))

aliasjoey · 04/02/2013 16:44

guggs it's not just that I like the job, it's also convenient (school hours) and from everything I've heard it's actually pretty easy-going compared to many workplaces. I don't know why I sometimes feel overwhelmed and panicky. I've found a couple of good anxiety support websites...

I won't be drinking today, my rule is only once a week, I mentioned it because it was still automatically my first response to stress.

How are you doing ma ?