Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

superstar just ignore him. He probably wanted photos of you in your underwear or half naked.

I don't know what is worse.....no responses to a sent message from me...or a response to a question and no opening of a question about me...Ie no interest. I wouldn't mind if these men are like Brad Pitt or something!

lubey how did you leave it with Mr Tall?

Ok I'm going to attempt a smash and grab POF profile. See what happens.

yeah, its shit. i do feel shit. and a bit upset, i think its worse than a crap date, at least with a crap dates you dont care....

superstar, dont send more pics... probably just after a perv.

I sent him my rough ones as I was actually quite pissed off that he even asked!

I am no good at this game. I am worn out by it all!

what voice says...
if I have good clear photo's on my profile I wont communicate with anyone who's prepared to show me the same amount of photo's.
I think it's rude and creepy to ask the other person to reveal themselves whilst they stay hidden!

Scatty TT started texting back yesterday and we had a little text chat. I asked him to add me to skype.

I thought if he does that then we're cool and can have a proper chat. He said he would - he didn't.

So, meh really. Nothing further has been said.

I have managed to dig out a decent and recent full length pic of me so I might attempt another smash n grab myself...

I don't think I'll bother with The Stig as too much time has passed with us getting nowhere... though if I go back on PoF he's bound to message me again so we'll see if he makes any more effort maybe.

I CBA just yet anyway, might do it in the week sometime.

Superstar I'd have replied and told him that was a damn cheeky request as he only had one and that I'd only send more when he had a few more on his profile.

He did send me some more and yes he looks ok; but honestly; i was soooo pissed off with his request. Probably because I have had enough of dating for now!

I don't send anyone more photos of me, unless we are well beyond an initial exchange of messages - and even then it would only be in the course of a conversation or something.

I got into a bit of an argument with a bloke once, where he kept asking how recent my photos were - this was Autumn time last year, I said they were all taken this year, and he was like 'when this year' to which after a while I just thought Oh do fuck off.

He kept asking for more photos of me. And then sent me one of his cock. Horribly predictable!

I am so crap at the whole thing; I hate it generally.

I am finding more out about mr complicated and I really like him. This is bad. This is really bad!!!!! Why am I smiley!!!

Hey! How you doing?:)

I have been on 3 dates so far with 3 different men, all okay and if I were still doing fwb would (ahem) make use of, but have restrained myself thus far.

Anyone of the men on here want to give my Match profile the once over, in case of any glaring errors etc? If so please email me.

Have set up some dates for next week and phone conversation tonight. I am approaching the whole experience as one would a job interview: not investing too much thought or emotion into the whole exercise, until I get an offer I want.

One needs the skin of a rhino, and must not take it personally that a bunch of strangers are indifferent to my not inconsiderable charms!

Big unMNty hugs x

(As you were)

I find the whole thing so hard and super you are so right in that its exhausting.
Take the fireman for example. I'm on the verge of 'oh do fuck off' what with the who has text when saga, the drip feeding of personal information, not knowing his background etc. it constantly feels like something is hidden and I'm not able to be myself with anyone I've met on OD. It's like they make this series of judgements about me and are watching every text message, conversation for signs of something they can blame me for or turn back on me.
Then the twats on POF and the ones on OKC aren't much better.
And I have a life, all I want is a sort of FWB...so so difficult.

I've been thinking - if you give up the whole OD thing, what other options are there?

In my case, I don't really have any interests or hobbies that lend themselves to clubs or classes.

So that really only leaves the pub. And with the best will in the world, the sort of bloke I meet in pubs is pretty much like ones I meet online, a bit thick, thinks because I dress in a certain way that I am 'up for it' and will be an easy conquest. Not someone clever enough to value me or like me for who I am rather than what I look like.

I hate hate hate OD. But I really don't know what the alternative is!

Velvet - I share the same thoughts. Never meet anyone through the interests or hobbies and club memberships I have, or work or real life. That leaves OD which has never been at all successful for me (or many people it seems in my neck of the woods). It's a case of having some time out and then going back to it again in a few months in the hope of some fresh blood!

Nor me. I don't go to that many pubs either and the men in the ones I go to are attached.
Maybe we should try OD with a new approach. Not sure what that approach is though!

Any of you lovely people got some advice to dole out ? Mr Software, who lives over the other side of the country, has suggested that he travels over here to meet me. We've been emailing daily, getting on well, I like him BUT I'm somewhat concerned that he'd travel hundreds of miles, then I'd not like him or he'd not like me or he'd get here and think he was onto a sure thing, and I ain't shagging no stranger.

What do you suggest ? ( I'm toying with suggesting that there London as a minor compromise, easier to travel to and I can disappear off relatively easily if I'm not feeling the lurrrrrve).

I'm glad I'm not the only one!

I think I want a matchmaker. Someone to find me nice, single men who a) actually are looking for a relationship and b) want me for me, not what I look like (I know I keep banging on about that, but it really irks me!)

It's either that or try and get some DNA from my lovely Ex with a view to building my own clone...

I dont hate OD, I just dip in and out of it for entertainment now and again when the fancy takes me.
I've met some people with whom I've had alot of fun.
I've also met some who rather annoyed me..quite possibly I've rather annoyed some people!

I think I've got better at filtering out the ones who arent 'right' for me.

I assume that most of the guys I communicate with will be plonkers who'll mess me around and as soon as they show any signs of that I cease communications.

MsA, if London is sort of 'in the middle' and easy for you to get to, then I'd say yes, suggest it. It's a tricky one because on the one hand being expected by a bloke to travel is annoying, but like you I always feel a bit uncomfortable with ones who are prepared to travel a long way - you do feel are they doing it in the expectation of a shag etc.

London sounds a good compromise!

www.meetup.com

it's ace. Just friendship meetups. That's one option!

My local ones do cinema, theatre, days out with kids, days out without kids, walks in the country, pub nights, quiz nights, clubbing nights, meals out, lunch out, museums, arty films and exhibitions and stuff in the city, just so much stuff. There's loads more options than just the pub and I live near a quite crap small city. My head spins with the options there must be in and around that big London.

You get other groups too that just specialise in one hobby but there's usually a general meet up group for different areas. if not you can start one.

Even my crap area has 100+ members. Regularly 10+ takers for each meet.

MrsA I always find it worrying when someone offers to travel a great distance to meet me, it make me think that:

1-he wants me to feel obliged to shag him because he's put himself out so much

and/or

2-he must be pretty desperate for sex if he's prepared to go to those lengths to try and get it, why is he so desperate??
Is he a complete minger who cant pull?
Am I so out of his league that he thinks it's worth the journey on the offchance that he might be able to persuade me?

I think I signed up for Meet Up but never looked at it. I may take a looksy.

mercury I like your take on it and its a good way of going about OD. I'm not overly emotional but each interaction has left me feeling 'dented' in some way!

lubey - meetup completely non existent round our way. Probably due to general lack of singles. Every club I've joined in the last 2 years is almost exclusively married or coupled people. I can't be bothered to organise anything as I spend my whole working day organising things and most of my existing social life. Be nice, for once, just to turn up to something someone else has organised.

I've been dented plenty..but I get over it:o
and I can see that I handle things better than I used to